This is really starting to piss me off now.
Been friends with someone for about 2 months. He thinks nothing of making really unwanted and inappropriate comments about me in front of friends of ours, including:
- we're members of a group whose name is shortened to PUPs. He said we should get t-shirts with our nicknames on and I should be sexy pup.
- I had a whinge on Facebook last night. It was about 11 and I was becoming pissed off with the noise the neighbours make. He made some really unwanted sexual comment. He's about 20 years older than me and has a girlfriend.
- We went out to a festival last week. He told everyone last night how I got so pissed and was doing stuff. Neither of those things are true.
Is there a polite way to tell him to **** off (he's said something of these things in front of his 10 year old) and still be friends? I am starting to become really pissed off with his behaviour and do think he's overstepped the line with what is and isn't appropriate.
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Why do some people think inappropriate comments are ok? watch
- 14-08-2013 16:01
- 14-08-2013 16:07
Well I think clearly he is attracted to you for starters or else he wouldn't be relating sexual thoughts with you.
Another reason is that he may be quite an insecure person and because of this feels he needs to make these sort of comments towards other people to gain him attention and make himself feel more valued.
- 14-08-2013 16:10
If he's making things up about you to his friends, saying you were drunk and did things you didn't, then just play him at his own game.
"Oh yeah that was funny. Remember when you got drunk and told me about that homosexual experience you encountered and how for a while you were sure you fancied men?"
He'll probably soon stop.
- 14-08-2013 16:20
Yo the probable solution is frankness.Oh and you should "chill". No point playing games that's quite immature, don't reciprocate. FRANKNESS.
- 14-08-2013 23:11
Confront him and say how you feel. If he doesn't understand it's not worth having him as a friend.
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- 14-08-2013 23:13
Why are you so keen to remain friends with someone who is making up lies about you?
- 15-08-2013 15:28
The only problem is, we're both part of the same group. But I have said on the group's Facebook page that I'm going to leave. Not happy with the way the group is being run. I have sent him a text telling him to stop with his behaviour. It's not funny and never has been.
- 16-08-2013 14:09
Apparently, his behaviour is ok because we're both adults. Would anyone really be happy if they found out their partner was saying these things to friends of theirs?