Rant. Sorry.

DenkMit

9

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Reply 1

Amnesia

2

The first thing you have to do is stop being so desperate, it will do you no good at all when it comes to trying to attract girls. Certainly don't fall into the trap of being the 'nice guy' around women, doing everything they want and say. You have to start feeling confident about yourself and stop worrying about what other people think of you. In my opinion self confidence is the key to attracting women. First and foremost, you have to believe in yourself before you can expect other people to be attracted to you.

I would suggest to improve your situation you try to build yourself a good social life. Take up new hobbies and join some sports clubs. By doing these things you will gain more confidence in yourself as well as meet more girls. It will also mean that you will come across as being more interesting and have things to talk about with any girls you meet. You should also try talking to and making friends with as many girls as possible, as it will increase the chances of you coming across women, as you can meet their friends. You will certainly get the chance to improve your situation when you start university. Just make sure you throw yourself in at the deep end and get involved.

Reply 2

Pau1212

1

Good advice there. There's nothing more unattractive than desperation. Why not try building your self esteem? Get to the gym, build up a great body. This way, you look good and feel good, and will make you appear more confident. Be natural, let your sense of humour lead the way. Take up invitations, widen your social spectrum and be known for being up for a laugh. Just be yourself!

Reply 3

Dramatic Star

2

To begin with, don't appologise for the rant. You have a right to feel upset! :smile:

18 is no age to start seriously worrying that you have never been in a relationship. But with your friends all hooked up, I can see it being hard for you. There is nothing worse than seeing everyone else around you all loved up.

However, like you said, your going away to Uni soon. A lot of people find someone at Uni. Just be yourself & just wait for someone to come along. September isn't that long away....

See this last couple of months of being 'single' as fun. Enjoy it while it lasts because even though relationships are great, you'll never have the freedom you get with being single.

Reply 4

milesmartin

I can relate to you a lot! The advice about joinging clubs etc is very good advice! You can relate to people easily and meet new people through something you enjoy!

Each day is hard isnt it, its really hard for me when i keep seeing people kissing, holding hands etc, makes me feel jeolous aswell! But dont worry, its perfectly acceptable and it will get better!

Uni will give you lots of new chances, and before then you will surely meet a few girls!

just hang in there and bide your time, and i bet when you do find someone, two will come along at once! lol!

Good luck!!!

Reply 5

Glory

1

When you stop looking for relationships like life will end if you dont get one, someone will find you. The old cliches love yourself and someone else will too.

You seem very desperate to me, that would definately be a turn off, the issue isnt your lack of experience.

Reply 6

DenkMit

OP

9

I'm well aware of the fact that desperation is a turnoff; unfortunatly I'm not sure what to do about it. The other thing is, I consider myself fairly confident and generally fun, but girls just avoid me. I mean, even little things, like my (girl) friends will meeet up with me and my guy friends and it'll be hugs all round apart from for me.

Miles, I really know what you mean about seeing random people together too.

Reply 7

cinder

10

Glory

When you stop looking for relationships like life will end if you dont get one, someone will find you. .

dammit you stole my comment!

You'll find someone eventually, just don't let it bug you.
I agree with what everyone else says, just go out there and meet new people.

Reply 8

M_Jenkins

7

I'm a seventeen year old girl who has never been kissed. Doesn't bother me though. There is much more in life to think about.

Rant. Sorry.

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