say you had feelings for someone...

right if you had feelings for someone but you couldnt do anything about it due to the person being married... etc but they know you like them due to you making it obvious (but not knowing what it is your 'feeling' for them)
what can you do to get over the person?

im in this situation. i cant get with him, hes already taken and is a lot older. he knows i like him cos ive made it obvious but im not going to act on my feelings due to those circumstances. should i just tell him how im feeling- it might help me to get over him.
i think it will, he might be able to help me and offer support if i need it. i think talking to him might help me get over him but i wanted to know what you think i should do? do you think i should just leave it and try and get over him. but if bottle up my feelings, it will hurt so much and everything will come exploding out.

Reply 1

Redefined

I was in this position a little while back, I just ignored it. It was hard for a while but it has passed without me making a fool of myself. Don't get me wrong, I still think the 'older lady' is attractive and if things changed with her circumstances I might do something then.

Reply 2

xxbry23xx

the last thing you should do is tell him how you are feeling. the only reason you want to do this is so that you feel close to him and it gives you a chance how ever tiny to be close to him and the chance that he might reciprocate your feelings and then as he is married it can cause more pain for you in the long term. you should talk to a close friend or summat about it and get it out of your system and then go out lookin for a guy who is attainable. so what if you dont love him or liek him too mch it will help you get over this guy trust me it works i bin in nearly the same situation

Reply 3

1013

I'm in a similar situation. I have a big crush on a married guy at work and, to make things worse, he totally gives me the eye and I ge the impression that he's interested! But the bottom line is - it's look but never touch! There's no sure fire way to get over someone - if there was you could bottle it and make millions! But you definitely need to try. I don't think that talking to him is rreally the answer - go out with your mates who are your own age and try and meet someone who is avialable. There's loads out there, it's just tha tyou never see it when you are hung up on someone else.

Reply 4

sweet_princess

dont tell him how u feel cuz it will make things worst... just try to avoid seeing him.. its just a crush thing... the best thing u can do (to get over him) is to date someone else... i know it would be difficult to like someone else but with time u will get over him... just keep this in mind 'he is taken' so dont even think about it

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

i dated someone to get over him, he just dumped me the other day. also i was going to dump him anyway, i couldnt have feelings for him cos of my feelings for someone else.

Reply 6

woeful_infatuation

ok how about if u were in the same situation as the OP but the person wasnt married, what would you suggest then? would you keep your feelings bottled up and regret for the rest of your life that you never found out whether or not it could have worked out? or would you work up the courage to tell that person just so you could get it out of your system and so it'd either work out or you'd know it never would have?

Reply 7

M_Jenkins

Why don't you go away from a while to clear this all up before coming back and approaching it in a clearer way.

Reply 8

Redefined

I wouldn't 'try' to get over him, just accept how you feel and keep reminding yourself it can't happen. Soon your inner self will get the message and move on :wink:

Or you might become a stalker, but thats another story :p:

Reply 9

woeful_infatuation

theoretically!!! M_Jenkins: hard to understand? haha.. nvm.. just trying to make this thread interesting.. anyway how is this confusing? makes perfect sense and no need to be mean we're all here to discuss and not make rude comments!!! :boxing:

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