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Should I Go to Boarding School?
Hi, i would like opinions for people.
The situation:My mom is offering me the chance to go to boarding school.
Part of me wants to go. But I get the feeling my dad thinks its a waste of money. I agree that it is expensive and the money can be saved for university or better thing. However my mom has said that I should not be worrying about money because it is their responsibility.
I don't want to go because I don't want to leave my friends but at the same time I really really want to make new friends who have more in common with me. This few years I have been giving in alot because within the friendship group I'm the most different. Or sometimes I have to do things alone which makes me feel really bad. I know this sounds pathetic but I think I can make friends who are more suited to me. The problem is I'm not sure I will fit in at the new school anyway. So if I do go, I lose my current friends as well as not make any new friends.
My other worry is that I may not do as well at the boarding school. In my current school, I'm doing really well. I know (some) of my teachers and classmates respect my abilities so I do get opportunities that other dont. Once I go to the new school, I may be just an average student whose just another face in school. But I guess this doesnt bother too much because I dont need to be at the top.
My main worry is money. And the factor that I consider most is friendship. I guess I'm quite sick of being a backup choice for my friends. Somehow it all seems to revolve around my feelings.
The situation:My mom is offering me the chance to go to boarding school.
Part of me wants to go. But I get the feeling my dad thinks its a waste of money. I agree that it is expensive and the money can be saved for university or better thing. However my mom has said that I should not be worrying about money because it is their responsibility.
I don't want to go because I don't want to leave my friends but at the same time I really really want to make new friends who have more in common with me. This few years I have been giving in alot because within the friendship group I'm the most different. Or sometimes I have to do things alone which makes me feel really bad. I know this sounds pathetic but I think I can make friends who are more suited to me. The problem is I'm not sure I will fit in at the new school anyway. So if I do go, I lose my current friends as well as not make any new friends.
My other worry is that I may not do as well at the boarding school. In my current school, I'm doing really well. I know (some) of my teachers and classmates respect my abilities so I do get opportunities that other dont. Once I go to the new school, I may be just an average student whose just another face in school. But I guess this doesnt bother too much because I dont need to be at the top.
My main worry is money. And the factor that I consider most is friendship. I guess I'm quite sick of being a backup choice for my friends. Somehow it all seems to revolve around my feelings.
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Reply 2
No, I'm not at a private school thats why I worry about the extra spending.
I considered going to schools around my area but I dont think it will help. I have a few friends going to these schools as well and I know that I will just stick to them which means that there wouldnt be a change. I will still be second-choice friend.
I considered going to schools around my area but I dont think it will help. I have a few friends going to these schools as well and I know that I will just stick to them which means that there wouldnt be a change. I will still be second-choice friend.
Reply 3
i loved my boarding school. its true that when you get there you might need to do some catching up to get back to the top of the class but you will get help with that from the teachers.
as for making friends it really does depend on the school.
as for making friends it really does depend on the school.
Reply 4
Your boarding school. Is it far away from where you live? If you dont go to boarding, aren't you going to continue in your old school anyway?
Friendships can be changed. Tell your feelings and your position to your friends, and if they are true friends, they will understand, and change.
Friendships can be changed. Tell your feelings and your position to your friends, and if they are true friends, they will understand, and change.
Reply 5
I went to a boarding school very very far from where I originally lived. I went to a state school until I was 15, and was a very average pupil. Weirdly enough, I was top of my class at the boarding school. It took a lot of settling in and adjusting, and I wasn't prepared for what it would be like to be so far from parents and friends. I kept in very close touch via email though, and in the meantime, moved on and got involved with what I could around school. Good times, and I'd do it all again. That was just for a year though, and I'm back at a day school 
The reason I was there for a year was because we were moving back to the UK, and I had been in the US system for a while. It was an investment in my education on my parents' part, as I came in half way through standard grades & Intermediate IIs (scottish equivalent of GCSEs) and had to catch up a lot in that respect. The teachers were fairly helpful, and constantly being in the academic environment certainly made things much easier. If you're committed and sociable, you've discussed this with your parents, and feel that you'd be happier elsewhere than your current school, I'm sure that it would be a valuable experience that you wouldn't regret. The environment in schools varies so much though, so spend a day (or day & night if you can) to get a feeling for the atmosphere and interests of the pupils. However, if you're doing so well at your present school and you're very happy, I would think twice about leaving it. Hmmm, I'm no help really!!
The reason I was there for a year was because we were moving back to the UK, and I had been in the US system for a while. It was an investment in my education on my parents' part, as I came in half way through standard grades & Intermediate IIs (scottish equivalent of GCSEs) and had to catch up a lot in that respect. The teachers were fairly helpful, and constantly being in the academic environment certainly made things much easier. If you're committed and sociable, you've discussed this with your parents, and feel that you'd be happier elsewhere than your current school, I'm sure that it would be a valuable experience that you wouldn't regret. The environment in schools varies so much though, so spend a day (or day & night if you can) to get a feeling for the atmosphere and interests of the pupils. However, if you're doing so well at your present school and you're very happy, I would think twice about leaving it. Hmmm, I'm no help really!!
Reply 6
I think you should go..im leaving my state school for 6th form at a boaring school. To be honest..Friendships have faults and at the end of the day you drift apart from most, and even in 6th form u end up not speaking to most and making new friends. Its when you change the most and you can be expected to have changes in friendship simply cause you have nothing in common anymore from when you were 11. I know theres a couple of people who il keep friends with, but seriously my new schools like, 170 miles away and thats not going to stop me, thats why they invented trains :P!
But seriously, you will have so much more oppertunity at boarding school, i would have thought. Extra curriculars, more chance of getting into a great uni, and making bonds with people for life. What year aer you in/would be going into?
You shouldnt worry about moeny, thats your parents concern not yours. furthermore if it was a problem they wouldnt have offered u the oppertunity.
But seriously, you will have so much more oppertunity at boarding school, i would have thought. Extra curriculars, more chance of getting into a great uni, and making bonds with people for life. What year aer you in/would be going into?
You shouldnt worry about moeny, thats your parents concern not yours. furthermore if it was a problem they wouldnt have offered u the oppertunity.
I went/still am (depends, I've technically left....But I'm still there for exams and bits) at boarding school.
It was honestly the best years of my life. I stopped being day at 13, it is SUCH good fun, you live with your friends, you have really great fun every evening, you can sit having girlie chats into the middle of the night, you can sit in the snugs watching films, chillax in the kitchenettes.....I really have loved it and only hope that halls/university have the same social buzz that boarding has.
I'd go, I didn't want to leave day and board but upon doing so, I found I made the best decision of my life. If it's any help, my school is an hour or so away from home I didn't go home much when I couldn't drive as I had one of my horses up here anyway, but since I've been able to drive I go home 1-2 times a week and always at weekends, well, that was before exam periods.
Try it, if you don't like it, go day. I'd definitely try and experience a private education as it's so rewarding in many different ways.
Sophie - you're not Sophie p-g are you?
It was honestly the best years of my life. I stopped being day at 13, it is SUCH good fun, you live with your friends, you have really great fun every evening, you can sit having girlie chats into the middle of the night, you can sit in the snugs watching films, chillax in the kitchenettes.....I really have loved it and only hope that halls/university have the same social buzz that boarding has.
I'd go, I didn't want to leave day and board but upon doing so, I found I made the best decision of my life. If it's any help, my school is an hour or so away from home
I didn't go home much when I couldn't drive as I had one of my horses up here anyway, but since I've been able to drive I go home 1-2 times a week and always at weekends, well, that was before exam periods.Try it, if you don't like it, go day. I'd definitely try and experience a private education as it's so rewarding in many different ways.
Sophie - you're not Sophie p-g are you?
Reply 8
Lmao..yea i am..how the hell...
Reply 9
HAHA NO I GUESSED! The nottingham politics gave it away. And the horses.. Olivia..Haha, thanks for your Bebo add by the way 
I didnt know you boarded..
I didnt know you boarded..Reply 12
Yes. Thats definately something your parents should spend the money on. Not education quality or anything..a posh accent. Lmao, theyres elecution lessons for that..Anyways Yep like everyone has said you should definately go, to be honest if you dont like it you can always leave, but if you dont go it will be harder for you to decide in a years time to go - you might have to redo entry tests if you ahev to do them or they mgiht not have any places...seriously GO if you ahve the oppertunity too.
Liv - Muah...Monday morning is my book return day, and the last time i will ever walk through those gates, ever. Wahooo...
Liv - Muah...Monday morning is my book return day, and the last time i will ever walk through those gates, ever. Wahooo...
Reply 13
The boarding school is very far away from where I live. I will go back home only after a few months because of the distance and I dislike travelling. My mom did say she would rent a place near-by so she can visit.
I would go for sixth form.
The thing about sleepovers and stuff is that I know my friends do that often anyway. It's just that I'm only invited if there's extra space or someone pulls out. But yes, I know boarding will be fun.
About the money thing. It just worrys me because my siblings are already at uni paying international fees. So it's really a lot of money. And I know that if I go to boarding school, my parents will be spending the money that they intend to use to buy another house. I know my parents can afford but they are the type that wouldnt tell their kids they have financial difficulties. Years back my dad took on two jobs just so we have more money. Which I think we could have lived perfectly well without and still be happy.
I also intend to go to a private american university which would be expensive and I rather spend another 2 years in my current school, then go to any college of my choice later on. Of course if I stay in the UK, then the school fees will be a whole lot cheaper.
Another point, I'll be a getting a car soon anyway so I will have more freedom even if I stay where I am.
Staying is good because there is no change, things will be the way it is which is mangable.
Going is good because its a nice change but then it may not be what I imagine it to be.
I would go for sixth form.
The thing about sleepovers and stuff is that I know my friends do that often anyway. It's just that I'm only invited if there's extra space or someone pulls out. But yes, I know boarding will be fun.
About the money thing. It just worrys me because my siblings are already at uni paying international fees. So it's really a lot of money. And I know that if I go to boarding school, my parents will be spending the money that they intend to use to buy another house. I know my parents can afford but they are the type that wouldnt tell their kids they have financial difficulties. Years back my dad took on two jobs just so we have more money. Which I think we could have lived perfectly well without and still be happy.
I also intend to go to a private american university which would be expensive and I rather spend another 2 years in my current school, then go to any college of my choice later on. Of course if I stay in the UK, then the school fees will be a whole lot cheaper.
Another point, I'll be a getting a car soon anyway so I will have more freedom even if I stay where I am.
Staying is good because there is no change, things will be the way it is which is mangable.
Going is good because its a nice change but then it may not be what I imagine it to be.
Reply 14
I don't want to go because I don't want to leave my friends but at the same time I really really want to make new friends who have more in common with me. This few years I have been giving in alot because within the friendship group I'm the most different. Or sometimes I have to do things alone which makes me feel really bad. I know this sounds pathetic but I think I can make friends who are more suited to me. The problem is I'm not sure I will fit in at the new school anyway. So if I do go, I lose my current friends as well as not make any new friends.
Don't even worry about the friends part. you don't know me, but i'm willing to bet my most prized possession that if you go, you will definitely find friends. they are all over the place and people are more inviting than you'd expect.
i think i would go to boarding school. i was thinking about it this year actually. yah, the money issue is annoying, but your parents seem to really care about you and your future so if boarding school is what you want, then don't let money be an object. your parents said they would take care of it anyway. it could be an amazing experience!
Reply 15
personally I would hate it...i got to private and that's bad enough as it is. I would really feel as if all my freedom had been lost. Also I'm quite clever, but I feel so dumb at my school cos everyone gets marks that are, in reality a bit "too" good if you get me...well it wouldn't be my thing, but then some people fit into boarding schools just like that. There's little things that would bug me as well like having to live half independantly but half as a prisoner. but that's just my view obviously not everyone thinks like that. good luck xxx
Reply 17
Well I just think I would benefit more from going to a state, the only reason I went to a private is because I got offered the worst comprhensive in the city. Obviously i am but it's a completely different system and I'm just one of thsoe ppl that doesn't realy fit in.
sometimes boarding can suck, but sometimes it is fun. i go to all boys boarding school and am at sixth form at the moment. it is rly fun sometimes. However when my friends go back home over the weekends, I am left alone here and I am bored. So i might just go to my gfs house or gym.
boarding can suck if u r the type of person who goes out. the latest time they allow u to be till is 11.But i sneaked out couple of times. lol. thank god didnt get caught.
if your parents dont have that much money, u might try a state boarding school, where u just need to pay boarding fees, but not the school fees.
boarding can suck if u r the type of person who goes out. the latest time they allow u to be till is 11.But i sneaked out couple of times. lol. thank god didnt get caught.
if your parents dont have that much money, u might try a state boarding school, where u just need to pay boarding fees, but not the school fees.
Reply 19
I would go. If you dont like it or money gets tight, you can still go back to your old state school. It is a real opportunity, and if it doesnt work out you are not going to have lost any ground academically.
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