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    I feel very insecure about myself- when people look at me I always think they are judging me for what I wear or how I look. Also I avoid speaking to people occasionally because I don't want them to judge me.

    I also don't speak much to people so I guess improving my self esteem will help with this?

    So... how do I improve it? Sure I could go to the gym and get new clothes but this won't make me very attractive- i'm not the type of person who could possibly be attractive.

    Any ideas?
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    Personally, I have found that insecurities can be dealt with mentally rather than physically, so I would not suggest that you spend time/money working on your appearance (as you have said; buying new clothes or going to the gym).

    What exactly are you insecure about?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I feel very insecure about myself- when people look at me I always think they are judging me for what I wear or how I look. Also I avoid speaking to people occasionally because I don't want them to judge me.

    I also don't speak much to people so I guess improving my self esteem will help with this?

    So... how do I improve it? Sure I could go to the gym and get new clothes but this won't make me very attractive- i'm not the type of person who could possibly be attractive.

    Any ideas?
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      I am the same.

      If you're a boy though, I reckon going down to the gym would help improve your confidence. That's what everyone else always says.
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      (Original post by SHallowvale)
      Personally, I have found that insecurities can be dealt with mentally rather than physically, so I would not suggest that you spend time/money working on your appearance (as you have said; buying new clothes or going to the gym).

      What exactly are you insecure about?
      My looks, the way I dress, my complete lack of social skills, doing stuff I wouldn't normally do (gym, for example), what people might think of me etc.
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      with the gym it is not just the overall effect which makes a person feel better about themselves, its the endorphines you get from every work out. sometimes if you have too much free time , you have too much time to think. i would advise against this, rather do something constructive. i started exercising and it changed my mind set, i do it to feel good at the end of a gym session, not for the end result of losing weight, and that s much more motivating.
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      I feel very insecure all the time. I always think I am ignored. I feel like I'm nothing. No one will ever like me.
      I am less than nothing. I am a failure myself. I am nothing but an embarrassment. People look down on me.
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      I feel very insecure all the time. I always think I am ignored. I feel like I'm nothing. No one will ever like me.
      I am less than nothing. I am a failure myself. I am nothing but an embarrassment. People look down on me.
      I'm the same and I'm going into therapy to deal with these issues - CBT. Perhaps you might want to consider the same.
     
     
     
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