Just can't cope

I'm really feeling down...

i feel really guilty because i'm going to university in October, and now my youunger brother is going to move to live with dad and mum will be all on her own.

I have 3 exams on friday....which with extra time means i'll be doing over 6 hours in a day....and i'm goin to fail them miserably.

i'm smoking again......i always seem to during exams.

i'm just totally snowed under.

Reply 1

Sazarina88

It's perfectly normal to feel like this sometimes..

Try not to feel snowed under ... what grades do you need to go to uni? Is it realistic that you will get these?

Try to adopt a more positive attitude as you are not going to feel any better if you continue thinking like that.

How long had you stopped smoking for? What benefits did you notice? E.g. money, skin etc. Perhaps think about these and think of something else you could do to vent your angers instead of smoking?

Good luck, chin up!

Reply 2

cubanarmy

Its not your fault that your brother is moving away, so you shouldn't feel guilty about that. Stop thinking that your going to fail and start revising. It doesn't matter that your smoking, if it relaxes you during your exams thats fine, just try to stop once your exams stop. Good luck. :smile:

Reply 3

sidi

Ok, lots of things happening at once. Take one at a time. Exams first. Think positive, make the most of this time to revise. Don't put yourself down as a failure - you haven't even seen the paper yet.
Smoking - wait till after exams to think about giving up. Don't put extra pressure on yourself right now.
Uni is 4 months away. If you asked your mum I bet she wouldn't want you to stay home on her behalf. Just maybe she's looking forward to being a free agent herself. She will have no responsibilites for once. Anyhow she and you have got plenty of time to adjust to the idea.
Good luck for Friday.

Reply 4

Zinc11

Try to be positive. If you think you can, you're right. If you think you can not, you're right.

As for your mom living alone. Have you talked to her about this? Has she mentioned that she's upset or anything? She may be okay with it because she will get more time to herself, she can go out with friends more and stuff. You're 18 right? So she may enjoy relaxing after taking care of her children for 18 years. I know it may sounds weird because all moms like to be with their children. And it's bound to be a little sad that her children are leaving for uni/marriage. But often, the parents adapt to the change and enjoy it.

Reply 5

Note

Taking a wild guess, but good luck with your sociology and design? on friday. Try not to feel guilty. Perhaps talking to you mum about it might help to put things into perspective or at least see them from her side. She's probably going to be sad you are leaving too and miss you a lot, but will be thrilled you are getting on with your life.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

Thank you everyone for your replies.

i just went a good walk with a good friend down by the sea and talked some of it through.

In answer to some of your questions.

I need BBB for uni. I am predicted AAAA but it's not going to happen.

It's two sociology and an ICT retake on friday.

Thanks again.......i guess a lot of people are feeling like i do.

Reply 7

skribla

despite no cigarettes for over 6 months I had my first fag two weeks ago in a bar with some mates and since then I have been having them to try and cope with all this work