I have recently split up from my boyfriend (a month ago) and am feeling really lonely and am constantly feeling anxious. It was a serious relationship which has lasted two years where we have been inseparable and have not spent a night apart. We go to uni together and are in the same class and we both do not have many friends there as all our time was spent together. I live at home and am continuing to do so next year however he is moving out to a house at uni with some class mates. My friends I have around me at the moment are moving country or are going back to their own universities and I fear I am going to become very isolated and will not be able to cope. I live alone with my dad who works long hours as my mother died 6 years ago and my nan the year after.
I have no idea on how to move on or make myself feel better as at the moment I'm feeling anxious constantly even at work and am not sleeping or eating well at all even though I am trying my best.
I was just wondering if you could offer me any helpful information about how to deal with this situation.
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- Thread Starter
- 16-08-2013 18:12
- 16-08-2013 20:11
I think the best thing to do is concentrate on work/studies and go out and meet new people. Keep busy, and have fun
- 16-08-2013 20:38
Just take some deep breaths whenever you feel yourself getting worked up, and try to tell yourself it'll be okay. At first, you won't be able to convince yourself of it, and that realization is the most depressing thing in the entire world. Just keep doing it. Don't make contact with him, not out of spite but just because you need the space. Don't focus on him in class, try not to let yourself keep up with his life (block him on Facebook, Twitter, etc.) so that you can teach yourself that your life can move on without him.
I remember when I went through my breakup in January, I couldn't ride the subway from school to the city because I had to pass my ex-boyfriend's stop. Amazing how small things like that can give you the worst anxiety.
Just push through. You don't feel good now, but in a few months you're going to realize how strong you were for getting through it. You will get through it. Just keep pushing on, keep breathing, keep crying, and keep seeing your friends. Life sucks sometimes, but it always keeps going. And sometimes it's really, really great. That part might be just around the corner.