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Mate is being a total knob!

So I was sitting in lesson earlier today and we were just talking and I told him about my ex breaking up (we both know her) with her bf last week (he broke up with her) and told him I felt sorry for her cus' she told me 2 days ago that her grandad was dieing so obviously it would be a hard time for her.

Next thing I know, my phones gone and he's gone and texted her saying how much he hates her (not the first time) and how she deserves everything she gets and general crap like that!

What the hell am I meant to say now! I havern't tried to text her because I just got no clue what to say. And I got a feeling I'll end up having an arguement with her because of this and I know she won't need that...

Reply 1

Why don't you text her or talk to her? What exactly are you afraid of? Shes the one hurting and your mate goes and texts her rubbish. You should be the one to go and say you're sorry and tell your mate where to go. Inexcusable behaviour on your mates part, but you could at least try to take the moral high ground and do whats right.

Reply 2

Tell him to stop being a coward. He obviously dislikes the girl, but there's no need to hide behind you and say what he thinks while making you look like a knob. So first of all, make it clear to your friend that he's being a tit.
Secondly, bite the bullet and text the girl with an apology and explanation. If that doesn't work, try calling. If that doesn't work, try the slightly corny method of writing a letter.

Reply 3

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So I was sitting in lesson earlier today and we were just talking and I told him about my ex breaking up (we both know her) with her bf last week (he broke up with her) and told him I felt sorry for her cus' she told me 2 days ago that her grandad was dieing so obviously it would be a hard time for her.

Next thing I know, my phones gone and he's gone and texted her saying how much he hates her (not the first time) and how she deserves everything she gets and general crap like that!

What the hell am I meant to say now! I havern't tried to text her because I just got no clue what to say. And I got a feeling I'll end up having an arguement with her because of this and I know she won't need that...


Are you some sort of dweeby dwarf who can't stop someone taking your phone? If someone took mine I'd throw them to the ground and smash their head into the pavement. Having said that, my mates know not to take my phone and I don't take theirs. Sounds like the mentality of a five year old, taking someone else's phone.

Reply 4

Don't txt her. Talk to her, this way its more personal. If she won't talk to you then txt or email her. You really don't have anything to apologize for since it wasn't your fault but it wouldn't kill to throw in an am sorry or two

Reply 5

He must have a reason for hating her, but yes, he probably is a coward.

This is how I define a coward (one type of coward):
One who, when disliking two people equally, would confront one and not the other based on their size/strength.

For example, if he hated one of your mates who was a master in every form of fighting would he text them saying he hated them? Probably not. He's only texting her because she probably can't do anything about it... what a loser.

Reply 6

You should text her or tlak to her asap. this girl could think its you saying all this and its making you look bad even though care. talk to the girl and explain what happened.

Reply 7

You need to contact her asap, and explain it wasn't you with an apology, otherwise her hatred for you is just gonna keep building up, and she'll be less likely to forgive you