Yesterday it was a line, today its a triangle!

Hey
I am really in quite a state here and i don't know what to do. I've never been in a situation like this before so i would much appreciate any advice that you could give me.
Well, i've developed some strong feelings for a close friend of mine. He's in my class and we have a few lessons together..i'm in year 12 by-the-way.
Anyways...its really getting to me that i like him but i don't have the courage to say anything to him. We get on really well and always have a laugh, i don't want that to change but i need to get all the stuff i have to say to him off my chest....but if i say something to him.....i'm not sure if he'd take me seriously....because we've always have a jokey relationship. I really don't know how he feels about me.
Yesterday night, i decided to ask another friend (male)for some impartial advice and it turns out this friend fancies me. When i started talking to him....he got the impression i was talking about him...and so he spilled out all his feelings for me. I was caught totally off guard and this guy who also goes to my school. Today was really awkward with this guy. We usually get on so well and i didn't know/don't know what to say to him...
What should i do about the guy i fancy... should i say something??
and what should i do about the guy who fancies me, what am i supposed to say to him....i don't have feelings for him in that way!
Any advice?

hahahaha classic

The first guy might not take you seriously and hasnt made a move yet, just make a move like kiss him so he cant shrug it off.. most likely he wants you too :biggrin:

Put the 2nd guy straight, great guy, great friend but you dont see him in that way *shrugs* someones going to get hurt, make sure its not you :p:

Reply 3

Tyler Durden

17

Tell the one who fancies you that you're sorry but you're not into him like that. Don't expect him to help hook you up with the other guy though. Then tell the guy you do like that you like him and see what he says.

Reply 4

crazy4dancin

Just be honest but tactful with both of the guys. You only live once and you'd feel like crap if someone else got in there first with the guy you like. Even if he doesn't like you in that way then at least you'll know and be able to get over itxx

Reply 5

matt@internet

12

How the hell do you people just come out and say that you like someone like that. Where do you say it. Do you just ask them for a word or do you just say hi to them say when you see them randomly in the study area or on the computers, get into a conversation, then just turn around and say "Look, I really like you, what do you think/would you like to go out sometime?"
What d'you do if they don't return the compliment. Just die right there and then on the floor. You say to just tell them you like them but you don't say exactly how to go about it, how to recognise the right time. Grrrr it really gets on my tits. :mad:

Reply 6

generalebriety

16

matt@internet

Grrrr it really gets on my tits. :mad:

...says the person who thinks England isn't a part of Britain. :smile:

No one tells you when the right time is because... you just can't describe it. It's not possible to say "well wait for everyone to go out of the room and if he looks at you like this *insert picture* then you walk two steps forward and recoil a bit and if he looks interested then you mumble a bit and" gahhh. Everyone's different. It's not like on soap operas. If you're not the sort of person who can just come out with "hey listen I really like you" then wait for one of those annoying moments where everything goes silent and it's all awkward and go in there with "I've got something to tell y- no, no, it's silly, forget it" and blush and walk off and wait for the other person to follow you.

Can't really expect people to tell you how to act. Especially anonymously, of course - but everyone is their own person and has their own way of going about things like this.

Tell them - however you feel comfortable.

Reply 7

matt@internet

12

I'm fully aware that England is part of Britain thanks. I just prefer to be called English than British. I am after all, English. I was born in England, my parents were born in England, my grandparents were born in England, I'm english

Reply 8

Ronaldo VII

2

My friend is in a love dodecahedron...

Reply 9

SaccerZD

2

i had the same situation! i fancied a girl who i joked around with, plus a another girl i was friends with fancied me at the same time.... me and my girlfriend were just like you were with the one you fancied, i sort of asked her out, she sort of said no, then 2 weeks later she said yes... that was january 2004 and we're still together now.

forget the one who fancies you, they'll get over it, and go for it with the one you like. i was'nt sure if they like me or not, but i had a feeling and i knew i wanted them , so i went for it and i am very glad i did.

go for it.

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

hey u guys....i just want to thank you for all the advice you offered me....i just don't know how to approach the situation.....i mean, we get on so well, i don't want that to spoil and i'm not sure if i should say anything at school because i have to see him everyday :frown:

Reply 11

SaccerZD

2

to matt@internet:

i first 'sort of' said it by text, then we were deliberately alone together at a friends house (our friends: 'i'm goin to get a drink... yes, i'll help u with that ! etc), n we spoke for ages about how we felt then i just said 'will u go out with me'

Reply 12

FireDeuce

14

A line allows progress, a triangle does not.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

OP

FireDeuce

A line allows progress, a triangle does not.

Thanks for that LOL...i kinda sorted stuff out with the person who fancies me an explained that it will never be, so i'm back to the line.....so maybe there will some progress...eh?

Reply 14

AllergicToFairydust

1

Anonymous

Hey
I am really in quite a state here and i don't know what to do. I've never been in a situation like this before so i would much appreciate any advice that you could give me.
Well, i've developed some strong feelings for a close friend of mine. He's in my class and we have a few lessons together..i'm in year 12 by-the-way.
Anyways...its really getting to me that i like him but i don't have the courage to say anything to him. We get on really well and always have a laugh, i don't want that to change but i need to get all the stuff i have to say to him off my chest....but if i say something to him.....i'm not sure if he'd take me seriously....because we've always have a jokey relationship. I really don't know how he feels about me.
Yesterday night, i decided to ask another friend (male)for some impartial advice and it turns out this friend fancies me. When i started talking to him....he got the impression i was talking about him...and so he spilled out all his feelings for me. I was caught totally off guard and this guy who also goes to my school. Today was really awkward with this guy. We usually get on so well and i didn't know/don't know what to say to him...
What should i do about the guy i fancy... should i say something??
and what should i do about the guy who fancies me, what am i supposed to say to him....i don't have feelings for him in that way!
Any advice?

It is a toughie but if you don't tell Guy who YOU fancy then you will never know if it could have been more. If you have his e-mail say him a e-greeting from Yahoo on somthing.
or have the same conversation you had with the impartial friend with this guy and see if he reacts the same way or hints feelings
If it backfires, you have the entire summer in which to get over it and no more exams to fret about.

As for Guy who fancies YOU, tell him your deeply sorry but you like him just as a good friend and you value his friendship too much to want to endanger it.

Reply 15

insparato

15

As for Guy who fancies YOU, tell him your deeply sorry but you like him just as a good friend and you value his friendship too much to want to endanger it.

Ha! what an excuse to tell him bluntly that you're not interested. Id rather want to be told straight not because she values our friendship and doesnt want to endanger it. BUt ive never been in that situation so what do i know.

Yesterday it was a line, today its a triangle!

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