stressed out...help!

hey everyone!
I am so stressed out at the moment because of all the different groups in our year! there are the bunch of plastics that really irritate me and there is one individual who is such a snob and treats everyone like excrement and wonders why our group are ignoring her. Then one of the plastics came over to us and starting shouting her mouth off at us becuase we are just blanking the certain individual and giving her a taste of her own medicine!

What i don't get is: how can we be doing things to the indivdual when we are being silent...would she rather us speak our minds? after all isn't there a famous saying ' if you haven't got anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all.'

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

There is indeed a famous saying, which you quoted. Doesn't make it right. What happened to "honesty is the best policy"? Stop sticking to proverbs and act how you think is right and not how a few well-known words tell you you should act. Also, by being silent, you may be doing something - you may be inflicting psychological damage on the, ahem, "plastic" (a term which I've never heard before but which I'm sure is not exactly a term of endearment anyway. Care to explain?). This can be serious, long-lasting, and very well concealed, and may make her depressed, angry, and in a mood to get back at you. People in that sort of state can't talk about it to other people, generally. I mean you're probably not doing this - but it happens. It's happened to people I've known. Be careful.

I think she would rather you spoke your minds. I would. She might not even know she's treating everyone like crap - such people often don't. No one will have told her - especially not idiots like you who think everyone's either perfect or trying not to be. So she will have no way of knowing that she's out of order. You never know - you may be the first to tell her and she'll reflect on her ways and realise she was wrong, who knows? She might get offended, but you don't seem to care, and if she is that bad at taking criticism you'd be right not to. But don't just ignore her, that's the most childish thing anyone can ever do to anyone else.

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Anonymous #1

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generalebriety

There is indeed a famous saying, which you quoted. Doesn't make it right. What happened to "honesty is the best policy"? Stop sticking to proverbs and act how you think is right and not how a few well-known words tell you you should act. Also, by being silent, you may be doing something - you may be inflicting psychological damage on the, ahem, "plastic" (a term which I've never heard before but which I'm sure is not exactly a term of endearment anyway. Care to explain?). This can be serious, long-lasting, and very well concealed, and may make her depressed, angry, and in a mood to get back at you. People in that sort of state can't talk about it to other people, generally. I mean you're probably not doing this - but it happens. It's happened to people I've known. Be careful.

I think she would rather you spoke your minds. I would. She might not even know she's treating everyone like crap - such people often don't. No one will have told her - especially not idiots like you who think everyone's either perfect or trying not to be. So she will have no way of knowing that she's out of order. You never know - you may be the first to tell her and she'll reflect on her ways and realise she was wrong, who knows? She might get offended, but you don't seem to care, and if she is that bad at taking criticism you'd be right not to. But don't just ignore her, that's the most childish thing anyone can ever do to anyone else.

Well...the term plastic means Superficial...But if we talk to her then it would make things worse so thanks for the so called advice but to be honest i think its not adivce just a general snipeing session

Reply 3

generalebriety

16

Why shouldn't I snipe? You're insulting some girl on an internet forum and blanking her in real life, and claiming you're stressed because of it. Hey, maybe you should realise that not all people in a group are the same... and that people act differently around their real friends (the 'plastics') to how they do around people they're not sure about (you). I think you're the one being superficial here. Also, you're the one sniping. Get a grip and stop being childish and talk to her - talk, not bitch. If she reacts badly then fine, you tried your best. But right now, I'm not convinced.

But feel free to **** off if you don't like my advice.

Reply 4

MissHero

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hey everyone!
I am so stressed out at the moment because of all the different groups in our year! there are the bunch of plastics that really irritate me and there is one individual who is such a snob and treats everyone like excrement and wonders why our group are ignoring her. Then one of the plastics came over to us and starting shouting her mouth off at us becuase we are just blanking the certain individual and giving her a taste of her own medicine!

What i don't get is: how can we be doing things to the indivdual when we are being silent...would she rather us speak our minds? after all isn't there a famous saying ' if you haven't got anything nice to say, then don't say anything at all.'

How about you grow up and realise that yes, you will get people who have very different interests to you, and behave in a way that you might not feel comfortable with, but it's part of life. Just treat her in a civil manner and be glad that you are more mature. At the moment however, "giving someone a taste of their own medicine" is very childish, may be damaging to them, and since you say you're stressed, isn't doing you much good either, is it?

stressed out...help!

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