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so does anyone ever see a girl they like and just.....

walk over to her and introduce themselves and start chatting to her.....? not when in a bar, just normal, or like in a coffee shop/ shop etc?

Do girls actually like this? or think that guys that do so are creepy..... also, after introducing yourself what else do you normally say to them? I think I would find it a bit weird when not having already had a few

Reply 1

Glory

1

I dont know, i think i might be flattered and creeped out at the same time. I guess looks and voice tone, might come into play. Id be more creeped out if the guy looked and sounded very sleazy.

Reply 2

Dude

14

Well how about first you ask if you can buy her a drink.

Reply 3

Chumbaniya

17

I think there are very few people who act like that, but I'm really not sure why. Most people are quite happy to meet new people in some settings, and I don't see why they'd be less happy to meet people in other places. I guess it's just part of British culture that we virtually never talk to strangers unless we're either drunk or in need of directions.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

Chumbaniya

I think there are very few people who act like that, but I'm really not sure why. Most people are quite happy to meet new people in some settings, and I don't see why they'd be less happy to meet people in other places. I guess it's just part of British culture that we virtually never talk to strangers unless we're either drunk or in need of directions.

I agree...... I mean i will randomly chat to girls when in bars and a bit boozed up/ I have also started to chatting to girls when in a shop cue for example and been like, "this cue is going real slow" and then started chatting that way, but I wondered if people actually go up and just say to people randomly, hi my name is.... and then chat like that

Reply 5

AT82

I some times make a very casual conversation we are both waiting to be served, but I do it men as well, it is called being friendly.

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

Men have done that to me. But never english men

Reply 7

xavier2k3

1

I'd love to do that but do a girl but i just don't have the confidence.

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--marty

Reply 8

~the_one~

1

Men have done that to me. But never english men

Same. I've had an Italien, American, and Brazilian but never an English guy.

I'd love it if someone came up to me in that way. However i'd only ever give out my number or arrange to meet again if you were my age and held a good conversation. I find that the problem is the only men who have the confidence to do that are older men in there 20s and that age difference just doesnt appeal to me, where a 17-18 yr old student i'd have way more in common with.

Just do it! I'd say no complements though, as i'd find that abit sleazy, just talk seriously and girl will respect the fact that you've come to talk to her.

Reply 9

PlayboyBunny

Anonymous

walk over to her and introduce themselves and start chatting to her.....? not when in a bar, just normal, or like in a coffee shop/ shop etc?

and

Dude

Well how about first you ask if you can buy her a drink.

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Reply 10

beanie

1

It'd scare me to be honest, esspecially if I was on my own and not expecting anyone to talk to me. I hate it in bars/clubs when guys start talking to me and always make my friends save me, as it just freaks me out... and i'm taken anyway. Normal chatting about casual stuff is ok though, act like you're her mate and not just checking her out/outright flirting/or after something more!

Reply 11

Dann

15

i did once and now I have a court injunction to keep me away...

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

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~the_one~

Same. I've had an Italien, American, and Brazilian but never an English guy.

I'd love it if someone came up to me in that way. However i'd only ever give out my number or arrange to meet again if you were my age and held a good conversation. I find that the problem is the only men who have the confidence to do that are older men in there 20s and that age difference just doesnt appeal to me, where a 17-18 yr old student i'd have way more in common with.

Just do it! I'd say no complements though, as i'd find that abit sleazy, just talk seriously and girl will respect the fact that you've come to talk to her.

do you feel though that the girl needs to smile back if you smile at them?

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

~the_one~

Same. I've had an Italien, American, and Brazilian but never an English guy.

I'd love it if someone came up to me in that way. However i'd only ever give out my number or arrange to meet again if you were my age and held a good conversation. I find that the problem is the only men who have the confidence to do that are older men in there 20s and that age difference just doesnt appeal to me, where a 17-18 yr old student i'd have way more in common with.

Just do it! I'd say no complements though, as i'd find that abit sleazy, just talk seriously and girl will respect the fact that you've come to talk to her.

I have that prob. They tell you look pretty and then ask for your number. Its so blatantly just a sex thing. And I never fancy foreign men. I like men in their 20s, and sometimes 30s. But the men I get are usually much older than that. (I am 18)

In conclusion, there is nothing wrong with random conversations, providing they are proper conversations.

Reply 14

~the_one~

1

Yea i suppose a casual compliment would be alright, but nothing making it to obvious you just think shes fit.
I guess the idea is you have to go over and talk to a girl giving the impression that you want to find out about her personality, what she does and doesnt like, comment on a book shes reading or music playing in the cafe, anything really. Try and mask over the fact that the only reason you went up to her in the first place is because she caught you're eye.

do you feel though that the girl needs to smile back if you smile at them?

I'm not sure really, i've only been approached by suprise i guess, with no prior eye contact/smiley thing going on. I tend to smile anyway, but i guess its good if you catch a girls eye and she smiles at you, but if not she probably just hasnt registered it.

Reply 15

Anonymous #3

English culture is such that it is a bit weird to approach strangers. On the other hand, went to america a short while ago, and the people there are so freindly and open. I spoke to girls who I would never even think of approaching randomly in the UK as if id known them for years, and one bloke after speaking to him for 30 mins ofered me and my family to come visit him in denver and gave us his card and everthing. Its a different world out there, and quite frankly, a better one.

Reply 16

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

English culture is such that it is a bit weird to approach strangers. On the other hand, went to america a short while ago, and the people there are so freindly and open. I spoke to girls who I would never even think of approaching randomly in the UK as if id known them for years, and one bloke after speaking to him for 30 mins ofered me and my family to come visit him in denver and gave us his card and everthing. Its a different world out there, and quite frankly, a better one.

I dont know. I quite like our stiff upper lip. I think its quite becoming. Especially in girls.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

I dont know. I quite like our stiff upper lip. I think its quite becoming. Especially in girls.

in the terms of random convo, i'm also 18 - ASL?

Reply 18

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

in the terms of random convo, i'm also 18 - ASL?

That does sort of ruin the anonymity a bit, doesnt it?

Reply 19

zain88

1

i'd love it if random people came up to talk to me because i do it all the time! not because i think someone is fit (*shudders at that word*) but just because im chatty.

so does anyone ever see a girl they like and just.....

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