why do i do this?

Hey
I'm 20, and Ive liked this guy for ages. We dated for a while but then we stopped cos he decided he just wanted to be my friend. Anyway ever since, I havent been able to stop calling him. I dunno I contact him all the time, I even tried it on with him again one night clubbing and he said no. Then I called him again and tried to be mates, and he just thought I was trying it again even though I wasnt but I didnt defend myself. I contacted him a few more times and he called me desperate, and im not at all, im really not. Now i'm worried what his mates are gonna think of me cos he called me that, feel like they are all gonna talk about me. Im so embarresed, I know I shouldnt call him but I do. I cant help it. I have got rid of his number today, maybe it will help. I really dont know why I keep making such a fool out of myself, I feel ****.

Reply 1

TomX

14

He wants to be friends but it seems you still have feelings for him. It's unlikely a relationship like that could work.

My advice: get over him.

Reply 2

Forté

2

TomX

He wants to be friends but it seems you still have feelings for him. It's unlikely a relationship like that could work.

My advice: get over him.

The other alternative is to deny all knowledge of his existence :biggrin:

But i guess the former idea works best...

Reply 3

unfinished sympathy

15

it's cos he doesn't want you you wnat him even more- it's sods law, we always want what we can't have- i'm sorry for you though, cos it can be embarassing!

Reply 4

SkinnyJeans

unfinished sympathy

i'm sorry for you though, cos it can be embarassing!

I'm sure that made her feel so much better, lol

Reply 5

suzie_h

1

Yeah I've kinda ben in the same position, but at the end of the day its his loss. I've deleted his number and havent bothered talking to him on msn, it does get easier trust me.

Reply 6

aleathiel

16

delete his number so you dont go contacting him all the time, if he wants to talk to you then let him but dont force it

Reply 7

unfinished sympathy

15

SkinnyJeans

I'm sure that made her feel so much better, lol

yeah but it can be embarassing, i'm just letting her know that i understand!

Reply 8

turbochargedk

13

Are you sure that when he said "lets just be friends" he wasn't trying to let you down gently> If you can't "be frineds" then you will get over him quicker if you can't contact him.

Reply 9

WaW™

3

Well he just wanted to be friends but you still have strong feelings for him. There aint much you can do i think you should just lie low and let things clear up. And as for his mate thinking things, the whole world thinks and everybody forms opinions of others whether they are good or bad. You really cannot do anything about it, just be yourself and everything shall fall into place.

Reply 10

Anonymous #2

It's difficult letting go. I'm kind of in something similar and just going to end up hurting myself more by carrying it on and look an idiot as this is mainly going to happen over the internet (we've met for real so not purely internet but most conversation through that). He's told you how he feels and letting go will be difficult - but you've done the right thing by discarding his number and with time all wounds will be healed and it'll get easier. Just keep yourself occupied for a bit to take your mind from it.

Reply 11

Anonymous #3

Anonymous

It's difficult letting go. I'm kind of in something similar and just going to end up hurting myself more by carrying it on and look an idiot as this is mainly going to happen over the internet (we've met for real so not purely internet but most conversation through that). He's told you how he feels and letting go will be difficult - but you've done the right thing by discarding his number and with time all wounds will be healed and it'll get easier. Just keep yourself occupied for a bit to take your mind from it.

you're right it is- i really like this lad, and it seems as though i'm doing all the running- he won't text or email, but at school he's all chatty! My mum says i should let go, but i'm clinging on to stupid stuff, like maybe he lost my number etc, which i know are completely stupid reasons, so i too have to face facts. it seems as though there are a lot of people in the same boat :frown:

why do i do this?

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