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psycologically stuck
Hey everyone, I am writing desperatly for some help.
I don't know why, but everytime a guy comes to dance with me, I can ( if he's nice) go along with it and I can dance pretty easily with them to a certain degree, then I start getting nervous he's gonna make a bigger move and thats when I start thinking to myself Ok what do I do? HELP!, then I think what if I mess up or i'm crap etc. I can't somehow just let go even though i'd love to just chill and enjoy it. I try after a while to somehow get shot of him and then if he was cute, regret it and it hurts. Like the other day, to my suprise, I strated dancing with this cute guy I sorta know, but when he got too close I rejected him and then fought , what have I done. I'm just so uptight! I need some help cos its getting me down
I don't know why, but everytime a guy comes to dance with me, I can ( if he's nice) go along with it and I can dance pretty easily with them to a certain degree, then I start getting nervous he's gonna make a bigger move and thats when I start thinking to myself Ok what do I do? HELP!, then I think what if I mess up or i'm crap etc. I can't somehow just let go even though i'd love to just chill and enjoy it. I try after a while to somehow get shot of him and then if he was cute, regret it and it hurts. Like the other day, to my suprise, I strated dancing with this cute guy I sorta know, but when he got too close I rejected him and then fought , what have I done. I'm just so uptight! I need some help cos its getting me down
Reply 2
#2(Laika)
sounds to me you lack social skills...how old are you?
lol. tell it straight! i don't think she lacks them coz she can clearly get started just not go any further. that's better than not starting at all...
sorry can't offer any advice, since its something you'll need to get out of your head and no one can do that for you.
Reply 3
there is nothing wrong with you. your just a classy girl that enjoys dancing but doesnt want to get too close. just because you go to a club it doesnt mean you have to act like a slut. a lot of my friends say that they like going to clubs, but they dont like it when guys get too close. if you are there to dance and enjoy yourself, then there is nothing wrong with just dancing with a guy, and when he gets too close to tell him to stop.
a lot of people think that if you go to clubs you have to dirty dance with every single girl you meet, thats stupid. last saturday night i was walking past a group of girls, and one of them grabbed my arse, and started rubbing herself on me, i was like wtf? get off. thats why i think alot of poeple dont like clubbing these days, its too sex orientated.
if your not comfortable, then dont be ashamed of it, that just means that your a classy girl.
a lot of people think that if you go to clubs you have to dirty dance with every single girl you meet, thats stupid. last saturday night i was walking past a group of girls, and one of them grabbed my arse, and started rubbing herself on me, i was like wtf? get off. thats why i think alot of poeple dont like clubbing these days, its too sex orientated.
if your not comfortable, then dont be ashamed of it, that just means that your a classy girl.
wojewodztwo_pl
there is nothing wrong with you. your just a classy girl that enjoys dancing but doesnt want to get too close. just because you go to a club it doesnt mean you have to act like a slut. a lot of my friends say that they like going to clubs, but they dont like it when guys get too close. if you are there to dance and enjoy yourself, then there is nothing wrong with just dancing with a guy, and when he gets too close to tell him to stop.
a lot of people think that if you go to clubs you have to dirty dance with every single girl you meet, thats stupid. last saturday night i was walking past a group of girls, and one of them grabbed my arse, and started rubbing herself on me, i was like wtf? get off. thats why i think alot of poeple dont like clubbing these days, its too sex orientated.
if your not comfortable, then dont be ashamed of it, that just means that your a classy girl.
a lot of people think that if you go to clubs you have to dirty dance with every single girl you meet, thats stupid. last saturday night i was walking past a group of girls, and one of them grabbed my arse, and started rubbing herself on me, i was like wtf? get off. thats why i think alot of poeple dont like clubbing these days, its too sex orientated.
if your not comfortable, then dont be ashamed of it, that just means that your a classy girl.
I agree. You have nothing to be worried about, you should never feel like you have to take it further. If you do want to, just go for it... You might surprise yourself!
Reply 6
Anonymous
Hey everyone, I am writing desperatly for some help.
I don't know why, but everytime a guy comes to dance with me, I can ( if he's nice) go along with it and I can dance pretty easily with them to a certain degree, then I start getting nervous he's gonna make a bigger move and thats when I start thinking to myself Ok what do I do? HELP!, then I think what if I mess up or i'm crap etc. I can't somehow just let go even though i'd love to just chill and enjoy it. I try after a while to somehow get shot of him and then if he was cute, regret it and it hurts. Like the other day, to my suprise, I strated dancing with this cute guy I sorta know, but when he got too close I rejected him and then fought , what have I done. I'm just so uptight! I need some help cos its getting me down
I don't know why, but everytime a guy comes to dance with me, I can ( if he's nice) go along with it and I can dance pretty easily with them to a certain degree, then I start getting nervous he's gonna make a bigger move and thats when I start thinking to myself Ok what do I do? HELP!, then I think what if I mess up or i'm crap etc. I can't somehow just let go even though i'd love to just chill and enjoy it. I try after a while to somehow get shot of him and then if he was cute, regret it and it hurts. Like the other day, to my suprise, I strated dancing with this cute guy I sorta know, but when he got too close I rejected him and then fought , what have I done. I'm just so uptight! I need some help cos its getting me down
You're just pretecting yourself so don't worry about it, like me i feel safer going out with a girl that i have known for ages rather than doing something with someone in a club who i don't know. but dancing and getting to know someone who you feel is a safe person is fine if you are 100% certain they are safe
Reply 7
wojewodztwo_pl
there is nothing wrong with you. your just a classy girl that enjoys dancing but doesnt want to get too close. just because you go to a club it doesnt mean you have to act like a slut. a lot of my friends say that they like going to clubs, but they dont like it when guys get too close. if you are there to dance and enjoy yourself, then there is nothing wrong with just dancing with a guy, and when he gets too close to tell him to stop.
a lot of people think that if you go to clubs you have to dirty dance with every single girl you meet, thats stupid. last saturday night i was walking past a group of girls, and one of them grabbed my arse, and started rubbing herself on me, i was like wtf? get off. thats why i think alot of poeple dont like clubbing these days, its too sex orientated.
if your not comfortable, then dont be ashamed of it, that just means that your a classy girl.
a lot of people think that if you go to clubs you have to dirty dance with every single girl you meet, thats stupid. last saturday night i was walking past a group of girls, and one of them grabbed my arse, and started rubbing herself on me, i was like wtf? get off. thats why i think alot of poeple dont like clubbing these days, its too sex orientated.
if your not comfortable, then dont be ashamed of it, that just means that your a classy girl.
The thing is, I do want to get off with guys if I feel like it ( without being slutty) cos its fun to have a bit of practice and its fun if its just innocent. But I just can't do it and thats whats pissing me off. Even if its during a party where everyone is pulling everyone else, this might sound stupid but I feel like I'm always the only one not going that far and thats what gets me.
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