Need to attract a man but I hate having hair.

This may seem a daft rant but apparantly most men only really find long hair attractive (according to studies/opinions/wht Ive been told etc) Ive never had a boyfriend and dont really attract them. Ive never been able to have or manage long hair and it annoys me that if I cut it short my chances of attracting males are significantly reduced. The thing is when I have my hair long (shoulder length) people have told me it looks crap anyway because I cant manage it. My family say that I look a bit of a 'drag'/rough with longer hair but that short hair suits me.

I hate having long hair but at the same time I want to appear as attractive as I can. Its bob length at the moment and still feels too long and always looks scruffy. Im told it looks better straightened but then as soon as I go outside it goes all kinky and looks old fashioned..bit like a 1900 schoolgirl. Im only very small too 4ft 11 so it just overwhelms me. Im really jelous that guys can get away with having short hair yet they arn't attracted to women who do.

Its just annoying as I hate having hair

It's not daft at all, it's a good question. I am going to risk sounding blunt here but never take advice from your family about what looks sexually attractive about you.

Yeah yeah what follows is anecdotal but pretty much all my mates prefer girls with long hair, at least shoulder length.

While I don't think any of them would rule out dating a girl just because she has short hair, I know I wouldn't, I think they would all say they were more likely to date her if she had longer hair.

Keeping your hair looking good takes time, no way around that really (although I will leave the hair tips up to the girls). What you need to ask yourself is what is more important to you; the time you save by having manageable short hair, or, attracting more men?

I quite like short hair, providing it's nicely done and complimentary of the girls face/style etc.

I'm more interested in the fact that she's a bit of a free thinker and doesn't mould herself to fit the "attractive" stereotype (which is fooking rare).

Might be in the minority here though lol, and probably not the response you were hoping for. Still, consider just going for whatever look you enjoy and be proud of it. You may be happier in the end.

Actually yours is the response Id like off all guys but apparantly according to most some instinct makes them a lot more attracted to long hair... and they can't help it

This may seem a daft rant but apparantly most men only really find long hair attractive (according to studies/opinions/wht Ive been told etc) Ive never had a boyfriend and dont really attract them. Ive never been able to have or manage long hair and it annoys me that if I cut it short my chances of attracting males are significantly reduced. The thing is when I have my hair long (shoulder length) people have told me it looks crap anyway because I cant manage it. My family say that I look a bit of a 'drag'/rough with longer hair but that short hair suits me.

I hate having long hair but at the same time I want to appear as attractive as I can. Its bob length at the moment and still feels too long and always looks scruffy. Im told it looks better straightened but then as soon as I go outside it goes all kinky and looks old fashioned..bit like a 1900 schoolgirl. Im only very small too 4ft 11 so it just overwhelms me. Im really jelous that guys can get away with having short hair yet they arn't attracted to women who do.

Its just annoying as I hate having hair

I'm only 4 foot 9 myself! hardly ever hear of other girls under 5 foot too.
Anyhow if you like your hair being short but you find it hard to manage and what not and it often goes messy and curly, try the "messy" look? (I've attached a picture)

Besides there are guys who like shorter hair on women and there are guys who are indifferent to hair altogether, you have to work around what you have, like if you have big lips wear lip gloss, if you have pretty eyes wear eye make up that makes them pop, stuff like that.

Thats kind of my hair now ha but it doesnt suit me. I know what you mean about working with what your have it just seems that many guys just hate short hair.

Unless I get something very short Id like something that I can tie back even if its only a small pony tail.

I was also thinking of something like this I think its asymetrical longer on the other side correct me if im wrong.

Would this get away with being 'long enough to be attractive'?

I like being individual etc but when you are 28 and havent had a relationship you feel pressure to conform a bit

They are both improtant to me since Im 28 and never even had a proper relationship lol. There is no way I could grow my hair really long firstly as I cant stand how it feels and because Im only small it makes me look like a little girl. I could have an inverted bob thats the longest I could go. Something like in the second pic below (the second attatchment). The first pic is how I like it ideally something short but trendy/feminine. Are there no short funky styles that could get away with still looking attractive, maybe with bit of length in at the front?

Seriously though try having long hair when you are not into doing it up and cant stand the feel of it etc

I know, it must be so frustrating.
I'll be honest it's hard to say what you could get away with without knowing what you look like since every face is different, I mean I know for a fact I can't get away with anything shorter than a long bob because my face doesn't suit it, but your face might I have no idea. :/

I don't really but a lot depends on how I style it. If its chin length straightening makes it look better but if it longer straightening just makes me look drawn out as my face is long and quite narrow. If I leave it long and wavy that looks bad too.

I actually know exactly how you feel. I didn't want to admit to it but I had shoulder length hair as a guy when I was 16 (can't believe I thought it looked good one me!) and it was always a mess, never found the time to maintain it.

Thank god I am a guy, short hair is awesome! Although I do now voluntarily spend a lot of time maintaining my short hair, the irony!

Anyway to your point. I think the second pic would be your best bet, gives an illusion of length. Caveat that with the fact I know feck all about women's hair styles, just what I find attractive as a man.

I would also forewarn you of falling victim to perceptual vigilance. Because this thread is about short hair you will attract a lot of men to it who like short hair. I am 99% positive the general male population prefers long hair, although it seems you have done your research and already come to this conclusion. Just a heads up.

Anyway I think the feeling of long hair is something you could get used to in time. Could you try going for gradually longer styles each time you get a cut?

Just a quick thought, could you not do your hair like this:
Front
Back

That is damn hot! But also out of the way and 'messed up'.

Just a thought...