Divorce

My parents got divorced last year and my mum has, understandably, been really depressed over it. Lately she's been taking her feelings out on me, its only us two that live together and so whenever she's upset she gets angry at me over the slightest thing.

At first I didn't take her on I know she doesn't mean it and she's just upset but now she's started getting mad with me over speaking to my dad. I don't want to fall out with him so I ring him up from time to time and this gets her mad- she say's if it was her dad she'd never speak to him again, therefore I can't love her and am siding with him, then says I should go and live with him.

I think she only says it because she feels betrayed and so I just tried to talk to her about it and diffuse the situation. But it keeps happening everytime she's depressed and te same argument happens. So the other day I spoke my mind and told her I wouldn't stop speaking to him and she's out of order expecting me to. This got her really mad and she stopped speaking to me, the thing that annoys me is that I know my sisters feel the same way but they don't have to tell her because they avoid her when she's in a bad mood- they don't live here and so just stay away. So now she stops speaking to me and is all pally with my sisters.

Long winded I know but just wanted to ask, am I in the wrong by speaking to my dad (fair enough he walked out and devastated my mum and tore the family apart, but he wasn't happy here and I don't believe I should stop speaking to my dad just for getting out of a situation he wasn't happy in. I hardly see him now as it is and we're not as close as we use to be, so I think that shows him that I wasn't happy with what he'd done!) and what can I do to sort out the situation?? I hate arguing and love my mum when she's happy, but she seems to change to a different person when she's depressed and is really hard to know how to be around.

Sorry for the rant and if its in the wrong place AND the anon posting- I just don't want eveyone knowing whats going on. Thanks for reading- you've done well if you got this far .

You cannot chose one parent over the other, and for your mum to think that is not correct. What happened between your rents, is their problem. I don't think it should involve you. Speak to your dad regardless of what your mum says, and if she doesn't like it, it's her fault.