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I don't care if they are big or not and this is coming from someone who "gets girls" . I see a persons personality. If she looked 10/10 but was a *****, she can go to hell. If she had small breasts I wouldn't care, good personality = 10/10 in my books.
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Big boobs aren't all they've cracked up to be. My measurements are 36-26-34. I get back ache and when I'm doing sport they just hurt and get in the way. I have to wear two sports bras just to keep them still ffs! It's horrible, I wish mine were smaller.
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Some of the posts in here saying that 'guys who care about boob size are bad people' are making me cringe.

Let me guess, if a guy pulled out a 2" penis most people saying these things would find it hilarious and laugh at it in front of the guy, but as soon as a man has a preference on body shape he's a disgusting, misogynistic male chauvinist pig.

Everyone has a different preference on body shape, because that is what they are attracted to. That doesn't mean that they will discriminate against people with small breasts or large thighs, it just means that they may not be as physically attracted to people with those bodies. I personally would not be physically attracted to a very overweight girl, but I know there are guys out there who actually prefer much larger girls.

OP, you'll find some men will love your small breasts! You'd be surprised, a lot of guys actually prefer them over larger breasts (but of course, at the same time there are guys who prefer larger ones). Learn to appreciate what you have and you should feel fine.


P.S: I think small breasts are great!
I'm not saying your concept is wrong but that's an invalid comparison. The penis is vital to sex, used in penetration, whereas breast size is not. Yes, you may play with breasts but the nipple and areola tend to be the most sensitive parts and will be the part a woman feels most pleasure from being stimulated. The only case where larger breasts may be useful is placing the penis between the breasts and well... you get the idea. By comparison penile length will affect how deep you can penetrate someone. Although girth is said to play a bigger role in pleasure, I hear.

If you want to try again I suggest you focus more on body parts that mainly have an aesthetic appeal rather than comparing something with a mainly aesthetic appeal with something with a more sensory appeal.
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I've already tried push up bras, I can't find any that are small enough for my ribcage and they don't give me cleavage anyway :/
You might need to go to a specialist bra shop, there must be somewhere that can help you

And I know you're upset about your breasts but you have a really good waist-hip ratio!! You must look pretty curvy

Also you need to remember than breasts aren't a measure of whether you're a "real woman" or not (that phrase should be banned; every woman is a real woman :unimpressed:). This is going to sound like hippy bull**** but you're going to have to learn to love yourself, your body's unlikely to change and the sooner you can accept or even love your size then the sooner you'll be happy.
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I'm an Ass man, what is this?
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Do some squats. Compensate uptop with dat ass. But seriously, will also help your insecurities

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I'm 20 years old and I have very small breasts, even smaller than Keira Knightley's, and I'm not exaggerating. My measurements are currently 29-24-34 (they were 30-25-34 before I lost weight) and I weigh 97lbs. I'm trying to put on some weight but it's very difficult and I don't want to end up fat, and even when I was almost a stone heavier they were still tiny.

No one I've ever seen has smaller breasts than me. I've even had a blood test done because I was convinced I had some kind of medical condition (I'm also short and have a petite body frame), but that came back as normal. I don't want to get implants because they never come out looking natural and you have to get them replaced every few years anyway. I've been thinking about stem cell breast enlargement surgery but I don't have the money and I'm not sure I'd be a good candidate for it because I slim (I'm at about 22-23% body fat right now).

I have no idea what to do, it makes me feel so inadequate and I feel like I'll never be a real woman. I'm on the verge of tears right now and I just want to die. Is anyone else in the same situation and has come to terms with it?
What you need is a therapist, not a boob job. You just have low esteem. There's nothing wrong with your body unless you think there is, there lies the root of your problem. Get therapy and change your way of thinking, only then can you start the long road to recovery
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OP, I don't think it's your breast size that's the problem, I think it's poor self-image.

I know that sounds harsh, but it's coming from a good place and you're not alone. We ALL do this from time to time, we are after-all our own worst critics, we tend to focus on and exaggerate these flaws in our appearance (whether they truly exist or not) and when we dwell on it too much we end up feeling like this.

Surgery or other extreme modifications may improve your perception of yourself, but it's short lived, in the long run it's of no use as it's just a quick fix, the real issue goes deeper and before you know it you'll be obsessing over another part of your appearance which may lead to more surgery/enhancements and so on and so forth, it's a vicious cycle.

What you need to do is learn to love yourself and accept yourself as you are, I know it's easier said than done, but it'll work. Focus on all your positive aspects and traits, make a list in fact, and whenever you start to feel down, take a look at that list and keep reminding yourself about all the good things there are, it'll definitely boost your mood. The second you let the negative thoughts creep in and overpower you, you're back to feeling this way so try your best to ignore these negative thoughts.

Lastly, I hope this picture cheers you up and makes you smile

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Where's imsoacademic when you need someone to dispense wisdom...
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the grass isn't greener on the other side. just accept who you are.
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(Original post by Tyrion_Lannister)
There's nothing wrong with small breasts. OP what do you measure under your bust and around your bust? I might be able to help you find a proper fitting bra which might help you feel better
My underbust is pretty much the same as my waist (24 inches, though I'm trying to gain weight to get back to 25 inches), and my bust is 29 inches without a bra or 30 inches with one.
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We don't care as long as you have an ass
Well that's the only non-petite thing about me, it's pretty much normal size thank god!
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my boobs are tiny and always have been... even though no-one's commented on them before i still feel slightly self conscious around my boyfriend. however that doesn't last long because i know he's not with me for my breast size or anything like that :L

just know that you're not alone
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My underbust is pretty much the same as my waist (24 inches, though I'm trying to gain weight to get back to 25 inches), and my bust is 29 inches without a bra or 30 inches with one.
I'd say you need a 26D, but that's a custom order only. You can find 28C which is a bit easier and a sister size.
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A woman's breasts are always changing. For instance, when a woman becomes pregnant, her breast size increases. Even if this isn't significant, there are changes which occur to the nipples which are. You're also quite slim, so putting on more weight would certainly have an impact. Even the pill sometimes has an effect, though don't go on hormones for something like this.

Whilst there are posts everywhere on the internet obsessing over large breasts, remember that men are attracted to breasts of all sizes, to which I can validate.

A beautiful confident kind girl, with a nice smile will get a lot more attention from DECENT guys than a woman with fake plastic boobs coupled with an orange face.
Yeh I've never liked the idea of implants, it's just too fake and they never come out looking natural, padded bras are as far as I'd go until I can afford stem cell enlargement (and if I'm a suitable candidate for that of course). As for the pill, I've already been on that for 2 years and only grew about one cup size, so it was nothing noticeable really.
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It is offensive because you're one of these feminists who believes that it is men who impose beauty standards on women which I don't believe is strictly the case. It seems much more obvious to me that women adhere to these beauty standards more because of other women rather than men.

Men in general hate breast implants and women who want or get breast implants seem to have this distortion of reality. There is only one reason which I think is justifiable for breast implants really - deformity. Any other case requires therapy.

I think there is a very significant portion of men who don't care about breast size, I'd venture that the majority of men don't care about breast size. That's why your post is offensive because you have this misandrist view that all men like big breasts. It's a misconception that many women seem to believe.
At no point did I say that all men like big boobs, neither did I say that all men impose beauty standards on women. I quite clearly made the distinction between men and society, which can be just as damaging to men and women and is controlled in very simple terms by a minority of men. Please read it again.

However seeing as you made the point - historically, beauty standards have in fact been imposed on women as a method of control, there's ample writing on this available on the net. Corsetry for example, toe wrapping, etc. What happened to women who refused to do these things? Why is it such a stretch to suggest that cosmetic surgery, pressure to be thin, etc. aren't just an extension of this?
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And I know you're upset about your breasts but you have a really good waist-hip ratio!! You must look pretty curvy .
Haha I'm not sure about that, my waist is fairly well defined but I have these weird hip indents so there isn't a smooth curve there, I think a lot of people have those though. Luckily they don't show too badly even in tight jeans
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I'm 20 years old and I have very small breasts, even smaller than Keira Knightley's, and I'm not exaggerating. My measurements are currently 29-24-34 (they were 30-25-34 before I lost weight) and I weigh 97lbs. I'm trying to put on some weight but it's very difficult and I don't want to end up fat, and even when I was almost a stone heavier they were still tiny.

No one I've ever seen has smaller breasts than me. I've even had a blood test done because I was convinced I had some kind of medical condition (I'm also short and have a petite body frame), but that came back as normal. I don't want to get implants because they never come out looking natural and you have to get them replaced every few years anyway. I've been thinking about stem cell breast enlargement surgery but I don't have the money and I'm not sure I'd be a good candidate for it because I slim (I'm at about 22-23% body fat right now).

I have no idea what to do, it makes me feel so inadequate and I feel like I'll never be a real woman. I'm on the verge of tears right now and I just want to die. Is anyone else in the same situation and has come to terms with it?
You sound so upset about this I think you should embrace this part of you, make it part of you and embrace it! boobs are not everything! I know it can be difficult but I personally dont believe that anyone should feel the need to have such surgery to alter them!
If your doing it for the guys, dont, many guys wont even care!
Everyone is beautiful in their own way.
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I'd say you need a 26D, but that's a custom order only. You can find 28C which is a bit easier and a sister size.
I'm wearing a 28DD right now which fits pretty well (apart from the back), my weight loss doesn't appear to have made any difference. Not sure why my measurements don't fit my bra size, must be something to do with their shape.
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I'm not saying your concept is wrong but that's an invalid comparison. The penis is vital to sex, used in penetration, whereas breast size is not. Yes, you may play with breasts but the nipple and areola tend to be the most sensitive parts and will be the part a woman feels most pleasure from being stimulated. The only case where larger breasts may be useful is placing the penis between the breasts and well... you get the idea. By comparison penile length will affect how deep you can penetrate someone. Although girth is said to play a bigger role in pleasure, I hear.

If you want to try again I suggest you focus more on body parts that mainly have an aesthetic appeal rather than comparing something with a mainly aesthetic appeal with something with a more sensory appeal.
You have a fair point, maybe comparing how muscular a man is with how large a woman's breasts are would have been better. I was mainly arguing against the whole "guys don't care and those who do are d*cks" idea, and you seem to have missed that point and focused solely on my inadequate comparison.
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