Emotional Conundrum - Advice?

I'm in a difficult situation and I need some advice.

Basically I'll say all you need to know to understand my position:

I'm quite lustful for a certain person I have only seen a couple of times, lets call him A. A, as far as I know, doesn't actually know my name of anything much about me apart from my external appearance.
On the other hand B who is a very good friend of mine and a friend of A is quite ignorant of my feelings for A. B could quite possibly have strong feelings me for me but I only see him as a friend. B is not in the same country as me for the time being - he will return though soon. A, on the other hand is, and I have the options of adding him on msn since I found out his msn email from a site we both visit. But I daren't add him because I have no clue what to say: "Hi, I'm madly lusting after you so I added you!", doesn't sound good. B could I suppose help me find a way of talking to A but that might hurt his feelings if I mention all the above, and that is something I'm not ready to do while he is in another country, meaning I'd be telling him this from msn. On the other hand I could add A myself but as I said I have no clue what to say, and I obviously want to make a good impression.
Too boost I have reason to believe A is not unattached and is actually seeing somebody, but I'm not sure and such matter shouldn't really bother me until I find out for myself.

The advice on this I ask, if you can actually offer any, is what can I do to resolve this. Because I really can't get A out of my head and I'm sort of moving constantly between depression and normalness.

Please give me some advice, thanks.

Reply 1

Shreerac1

10

Just add A to msn. Hes not gonna care about how you got his email address unless hes quite paranoid.

Reply 2

olieviya

OP

Shreerac1

Just add A to msn. Hes not gonna care about how you got his email address unless hes quite paranoid.

Ok, I see, I'd not know how to initiate conversation in such circumstances. I mean what can I say?

Reply 3

dh00001

16

woah thats confusing. :confused:

i'm gonna go lie down

well, i think you should add A and talk to him, just as a way to get to know him, you don't need to admit anything to him just have general conversation and build from there.
as for the B situation if you don't feel the same don't pretend you do. although if A knows about B likeing you it might make it unlikly that A will go out with you. but that realy depends on the relationship the two of them have.
thats all i can realy suggest, just do what you want to do and that would appear to be go for A.
hope that sort of helped

all the As and Bs hurt my brain i need to lie down again

Reply 4

SailorSam

I actually know A, and in my experience he is quite a desperate guy, so I say go for it!!

Reply 5

olieviya

OP

dh00001

woah thats confusing. :confused:

i'm gonna go lie down

well, i think you should add A and talk to him, just as a way to get to know him, you don't need to admit anything to him just have general conversation and build from there.
as for the B situation if you don't feel the same don't pretend you do. although if A knows about B likeing you it might make it unlikly that A will go out with you. but that realy depends on the relationship the two of them have.
thats all i can realy suggest, just do what you want to do and that would appear to be go for A.
hope that sort of helped

all the As and Bs hurt my brain i need to lie down again

Well, to be honest I'm very unconfident about adding him, because I have no clue what to say.

Have a nice lie down! :smile:

Reply 6

olieviya

OP

SailorSam

I actually know A, and in my experience he is quite a desperate guy, so I say go for it!!

Really? what a small world!

Reply 7

dh00001

16

olieviya

Well, to be honest I'm very unconfident about adding him, because I have no clue what to say.

Have a nice lie down! :smile:

anything! lol. try hello to start :p:

general conversation it realy doesnt matter. anything that will allow you both to get to know oneanother more; ask about him his hobbys etc. if he asks where you got his email tell him through B.

it was very refreshing :smile:

Reply 8

olieviya

OP

dh00001

anything! lol. try hello to start :p:

general conversation it realy doesnt matter. anything that will allow you both to get to know oneanother more; ask about him his hobbys etc. if he asks where you got his email tell him through B.

it was very refreshing :smile:

He's got B on msn too sadly, and that would probably mean B will find out and I'd then have to explain it to him... and uh.... I have no clue, it'd be a bad way for him to find out.

Reply 9

M e m p h i s

14

This wouldnt be a problem if they werent friends.

I dont advise the 'talk to A and ask him not to mention anything to B' as this coul ruin their friendship, your friendship with B, and your chances with A, so everything would get screwed basically.

What i do recomend is (depending on how long B is away for) if you know that you can confide in B, and that he can help you through this situation, then i would recoment waiting for his return.

However, I think that there is a chance (not that i would know) that B could like you, and if this is the case, then i do not recomend this either.

I think it comes down to you being confident about adding him and attempting small talk. I wouldnt enagage in anything yet and (again, depending on the time until B returns) i think you should build up as much of a strong friendship as you can whilst B is away. When B gets back, try and *hint* that you like A, and by doing this, you will also find out whether B likes you.

Is B a strong-minded person?

If you want tips on starting a conversation then feel free to pm me and ill be happy to help you.

Are you male or female?

Hope this helps

Reply 10

dh00001

16

so tell him the truth? you got his add of a website and wanted to chat, then you can tell him you know him because...... just go for it, what could happen?

Reply 11

olieviya

OP

Confuzzled!

This wouldnt be a problem if they werent friends.

I dont advise the 'talk to A and ask him not to mention anything to B' as this coul ruin their friendship, your friendship with B, and your chances with A, so everything would get screwed basically.

What i do recomend is (depending on how long B is away for) if you know that you can confide in B, and that he can help you through this situation, then i would recoment waiting for his return.

However, I think that there is a chance (not that i would know) that B could like you, and if this is the case, then i do not recomend this either.

I think it comes down to you being confident about adding him and attempting small talk. I wouldnt enagage in anything yet and (again, depending on the time until B returns) i think you should build up as much of a strong friendship as you can whilst B is away. When B gets back, try and *hint* that you like A, and by doing this, you will also find out whether B likes you.

Is B a strong-minded person?

If you want tips on starting a conversation then feel free to pm me and ill be happy to help you.

Are you male or female?

Hope this helps

I'm female. I think you just gave me very good advice. I'll pm you now. Thanks.

EDIT: B is quite quiet but rather strong minded I'd say.

Reply 12

M e m p h i s

14

Ok ill chat to u in pm glad i can help xx

Reply 13

olieviya

OP

dh00001

so tell him the truth? you got his add of a website and wanted to chat, then you can tell him you know him because...... just go for it, what could happen?