This city irks me. It's great in some aspects but it's such a lonely life here. There's just so many factors working against a normal social life with friends you would like to have, as opposed to people you're forced to hang out with. I'll explain.
Like in most places ... school/university are the places to make your friends and set your stall out early. You miss that, and it gets alot lot harder.
On paper it's easy to make friends, 'join a club' 'do volunteering' etc. But it doesn't always work like that in London. You could join a club where people come from the top of north london to the very bottom of south of London. It doesn't provide you with a genuine chance to make REGULAR friends. I've lived here for about 9 years now and I still feel extremely lonely. Unfortunately for me I went to a school that doesn't even exist anymore, it was that bad. If I remember correctly it was in the bottom 40 schools in the country. The schoolkids were awful, seriously awful. It was similar with my college, for various reasons (including being ill) I ended up at a drop out college full of idiots.
So sociable as I am, and likeable as I am - despite knowing and having met lots of people, I still feel so lonely in this city. I go out with some people, my workmates have been a good laugh. But nothing has ever transferred into regular mates. Well I have a few but they aren't regular regular mates. People I can just ring up and arrange to roll up to their place in 5 minutes. London is so vast and so busy, people just don't always have the time or peace of mind to travel halfway across London to meet for a coffee and a chat. It's not that people don't want to be friendly, it's just more convenient to socialise differently, because they are so busy and occupied.
When it comes to girls, it's not much better. Some of the girls I go out with and have either dated or got their number, are girls who I have very little in common with and sometimes can hardly speak any English. It's hard to meet English people here! English people here are either carrying 2 prams in their nike tracksuit or swooshing down champagne in the West End. You just don't see and get to meet regular English people working in your local Starbucks for example. So many jobs are occupied by foreigners who are battling just to make enough money to work, and then go home to their one bedroom flat and pay their bills. I don't know who I am as an English man anymore here. I mean it's great to meet people from other countries, but it definitely has its disadvantages as well. Slowly, english people are deserting many parts of London and migrating elsewhere.
It's harder being a guy as well. When you are down, you just don't pick up the phone and ring one of your guy mates for a moan and a cry. It's weak and just not something guys do.
I would truly applaud and give a standing ovation to anybody who came to London post school/Uni phase and made a group of regular friends and found themselves feeling completely at home here. It's not impossible, but my god it is one hell of a challenge if you haven't had a stable set up in terms of home, education etc
Any other people with a similar feeling in London?