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Meeting the Parents!!

Ive bn with my bf for 5 months now and hes bn hinting that he wants me to meet his parents and for some reason im rlly scared about it ( ive heard some horror stories :frown:

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So i was wondering if u guys had ne advice or stories about wat happened wen u met the parents as hes starting to get annoyed that i keep hesitating.....thanx!

Reply 1

Glory

The longer you put it off the harder it gets. When i met my boyfriends mom, i was really shy didnt say much either. But it seems i passed even though i was very quiet. Of course the next time i met her i was much more talkative.

Reply 2

shaun26

Try meeting in a neutral place just casually, maybe that will make you feel less nervous. Or arrange it so that you meet them just briefly before you and your bf go out for example.

My girlfriend and mum are like best buddies (which is scary!) so it's not all horror!
Good luck

Reply 3

shinyhappy

Like someone said, make it brief/causual - perhaps at his house, before you go out together somewhere. Have you not been to his house and met his parents after 5 months? Or does he live on his own? (You haven't said how old either of you are! ^-^*)
I didn't have any problems with it, my bfs parents are lovely, as is his sister. Some of the time I get on better with them than I do with him :P

Reply 4

*Jaffa*

we r both 17 ive bn around his house b4 im just v gd at coming round wen the parents r out lol....
Thanx for your ideas ppl

Reply 5

dinkymints

*Jaffa*

Ive bn with my bf for 5 months now and hes bn hinting that he wants me to meet his parents and for some reason im rlly scared about it ( ive heard some horror stories :frown:

)
So i was wondering if u guys had ne advice or stories about wat happened wen u met the parents as hes starting to get annoyed that i keep hesitating.....thanx!

Heya, I wouldn't worry about it too much! I met the parents after 3 months (he did after 2 weeks!!) and I'm really shy with things like this and was very scared to start off with, but now it's fine. My fears were made worse by the fact that both his parents are deaf so I was afraid I might not make myself understood very well, but there was no problem. As for the shyness, I'm totally fine in fairly long conversations with them now, even when he's not there, and with his brother too. The first time I met his parents was when I went to his house once, just said a "hi" and "how are you?" and then increased it bit by bit each time I saw them. No need for a full on, meet-the-parents sitdown dinner and Inquisition - I didn't have a meal with them for at least 8 months or so!

Does your bf get on well with his parents? If so, it should be fine, and if not, they're still human - just be civil and friendly and yourself!

Good luck!

Reply 6

Caribou

I hate my gf's parents. especially her dad. he's so rude and sarcastic. :frown:

no matter how friendly itry to be, i get nothing back.

Hope it works out better for you.

Reply 7

IndianDiva

It's not as scary as it sounds.

The only tip my boyfriend gave me was, "be yourself".

Luckily his parents and sister were very welcoming, and I get on with them quite well.

Reply 8

RachelBabyfrog

My boyfriend met my parents after about five weeks... we went out for lunch and they loved him :smile:

Reply 9

miss liverpool fc

i was 16 meetin my boyfriends parents, 2.5 years on im still not myself with them! i guess i care what they think, so im a bit reserved as im a bit werid. be yourself from the start!! its much easier and they will probably want you to like them! and remember theyre meetin someone special to their son, theyre not gona be horrible to you!

Reply 10

Dramatic Star

Yeah, just be yourself. If you aren't, you'll come across as fake sometime or other. I know it can be a nerve racking experience. I was quite lucky as it was kind of sprung on me very early into the relationship but I'm glad it was done that way because I didn't have much time to be really nervous. Turned out great as his parents are lovely. 9 times out of 10 you have nothing to worry about. :smile:

Reply 11

high priestess fnord

good luck. i was terrified when i met my bfs parents. turned out they were as nervous as me tho and it was all good :smile:

Reply 12

shinyhappy

You lot are ok, I had the (very embarrasing) experience of having to introduce my parents to my bfs parents. I was out with my mum, dad and gran (i.e. my entire family!) and we ran into them (boyfriend wasn't there.) It was just cringeworthy, because they obviously had no idea what to say to each other. My dad insisted on shaking hands with them all.
*blushes at memory*

Reply 13

DoMakeSayThink

You'd be surprised, it's really not that bad. A friend of mine is a complete punk kid, has had more hair styles than david beckham, and came to our school leaving do in a red tartan suit. Despite the fact he's completely mental, he manages to completely charm parents of his friends and girlfriend... if he can do it, I'm sure you can!

Reply 14

*sazzy*

Best advice....get it over with! :p:

The longer you worry about, the more you'll keep putting it off and then it'll seem much worse as your imagination will have run away with you!

You'll be fine though hunni i promise....i'm sure they'll love you! *hugs* But like someone else said, why not just "bump into them" as you leave or something? It's long enough to meet them, but quick enough so you dont have to spend ages talking to them! :wink:

Reply 15

Shreerac1

*Jaffa*

Ive bn with my bf for 5 months now and hes bn hinting that he wants me to meet his parents and for some reason im rlly scared about it ( ive heard some horror stories :frown:

)
So i was wondering if u guys had ne advice or stories about wat happened wen u met the parents as hes starting to get annoyed that i keep hesitating.....thanx!

Why not invite him and his parents round to your house for dinner? You could cook. This would not only be a great chance for you to impress both parties with your culinary skills, but your families would also be able to meet.

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