Bf taking stuff out on me

I am really stressed at the moment with exams and stuff but my bf just doesnt seem to get it. He doesn't really offer any support to me and he is stressed too but heaps it all on me. I dont know what to do. He gets angry at me and I try to be nice and I just get it thrown back in my face. I really love him but I just dont know what to do.

He expects me to cheer him up I think but I dont know how, everything I say gets thrown back at me and if i dont say anything he ignores me.

I am confused. HELP please- this is stressing me out on top of exams.

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

he sounds like a top bloke. what do you want us to say other than "talk to him".

Reply 2

M e m p h i s

me and my fiance get like that.

She has now finished exams and im still going on them, and i know that i can pile stuff on top of her sometimes.

In all fairness, its not his fault, as different people have different ways of dealing with stress. Taking it out on loved ones is a common one.

When my fiance does it to me sometimes, if you think about it, its kinda sweet (forgetting all the 'annoying' stuff for a sec) coz i know that i am closer to her than anyone and she feels comfortable n confiding in me> the side effect is all the stress-dumping.

If you wanna chat then pm me and we can talk, but my advise is to just persist, lightly massage his shoulders when he sounds stressed just to try n relax him. If he dont like that then hes probably one of us guys who just like space when stressed.

Happy to help whenever. xx

Reply 3

Dramatic Star

Different people have different ways with dealing with stress. Some people will take it out on other people, some will keep it bottled up & some deal with it by keeping occupied.

Talk to him about it. Explain that its not very fair to take it all out on you as you are under a lot of stress with your exams. Offer to support him & say you want him to do the same.

Reply 4

Bubblebee

I havethe same problem, where my boyfriend is a full time chef he seems to think 6th form is just playing and the fact I have two jobs and switch between houses is nothing. He acts like he is superiour and his problems are more important to mine.

I cracked the other day and just burst out into tears when I saw him, I told him how I felt and he hadn't even realised he'd been acting like that. Now we have a pact, when I have exams on he isn't allowed to dump his problems on me, and when he has just finished a 10 hr shift I've got to be sympathetic ( a bit) x I hope you sort this out!

Reply 5

Anonymous #3

When exams come round my boyfriend doesn't want to have sex with me!

But he explained it's 'cause he's stressed and wouldn't be able to.. you know...

I'm glad exams don't last long!