My BF makes me feel really insecure about Page 3 girls

Hiya,

I'm a 23-year-old student and recently have become very concerned with my BF's collection of Page 3 girls habit :frown:

I understand he wants to look at pretty young things but I just feel REALLY insecure now when I'm around him. It's like he is indirectly telling me that yes I might be ok or average looking (with an IQ of about 50 points higher :rolleyes:

), but nowhere near as hot as these Page 3 stunners, and yes, there are lots + LOTS of them.

'I could dump you easily for one of them if you ever got on my nerves' is what he said one day when I complained about them.

Any tips about what I should do, or I should I get over myself now and accept facts that maybe, yes maybe, I'm crap and don't deserve a BF.

Reply 1

bikerx23

1

Anonymous

'I could dump you easily for one of them if you ever got on my nerves' is what he said one day when I complained about them.

He's obviously an arsehole then - if he cares about you he wouldn't need these images, let alone ignore your emotions regarding them.

Reply 2

Nutter

16

That statement he made speaks volumes. Give him a piece of your mind, and dump him if he tries anything funny, before it's too late.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Nutter

That statement he made speaks volumes. Give him a piece of your mind, and dump him if he tries anything funny, before it's too late.

If I do that, I may very well need to block his mobile no. and email address b/c I know how possessive over me he can get.

I mean he gets angry whenever I say I'm gonna hang around some of my friends who are male :rolleyes:

But yeah I just feel heaps insecure about his comment as well, that there are LOTS of them out there, and he reads the Sun every day. There is nothing I can do about it.

Reply 4

Ethereal

19

You can get a better boyf

Reply 5

bikerx23

1

Anonymous

If I do that, I may very well need to block his mobile no. and email address b/c I know how possessive over me he can get.

I mean he gets angry whenever I say I'm gonna hang around some of my friends who are male :rolleyes:

But yeah I just feel heaps insecure about his comment as well, that there are LOTS of them out there, and he reads the Sun every day. There is nothing I can do about it.

It sounds like a typical insecure, chauvinistic man - does whatever he wants but wants you to do as he pleases...lovely character I'm sure :rolleyes:

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

bikerx23

It sounds like a typical insecure, chauvinistic man - does whatever he wants but wants you to do as he pleases...lovely character I'm sure :rolleyes:

So meanwhile I wanna know why you're such a lovely and nice person and he isn't!

Wait a minute, let's see - you're very well educated, that may play a part :p:

He isn't at uni you see, I'm the uni one out of us, although that said I guess you still can't draw a conclusion for that. Maybe something bad happened in his childhood that he's not telling me about and he's taking it out on me :confused:

Reply 7

Ethereal

19

Anonymous

So meanwhile I wanna know why you're such a lovely and nice person and he isn't!

Wait a minute, let's see - you're very well educated, that may play a part :p:

He isn't at uni you see, I'm the uni one out of us, although that said I guess you still can't draw a conclusion for that. Maybe something bad happened in his childhood that he's not telling me about and he's taking it out on me :confused:

Maybe he's just a ****** Some people are for no reason at all.

Reply 8

bikerx23

1

Well - thank you very much :smile:

It is often company as much as anything that will influence his outlook - not to sound snobbish, but if he surrounds himself with ******** tabloid readers, he is likely to act like one, which it seems he does.

And, I'm not such a lovely nice person...Just follow the old Bill Hicks mantra of hating the "treat them mean, keep them keep" outlook on relationships when you would be happy to treat them well and yet get overlooked for someone less apparently deserving. *bitterness*

Reply 9

rawkingpunkster

yeah man. i dont think they'll take interest in him. hee =p

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

rawkingpunkster

yeah man. i dont think they'll take interest in him. hee =p

Well he always drops hints whenever he has gone out, that some hot chick might be interested in him.

Reply 11

pendragon

13

Anonymous

'I could dump you easily for one of them if you ever got on my nerves' is what he said one day when I complained about them.

Anonymous

Well he always drops hints whenever he has gone out, that some hot chick might be interested in him.

It is ok for guys to have porn and I would not be in a relationship with someone who tried to stop me from looking at porn.

But the things this guy has said to you show he is a bastard who is deliberately trying to undermine your self confidence so that you think you cannot live without him and do as he tells you; if I were you I would dump him.

Porn and vibrators are common masturbation tools for men and women, but a boyfriend should always tell you that you are the most gorgeous girl he has ever met and reassure you that he would not prefer to be in a relationship with a pornstar, and girlfriends should always reassure their guy that a vibrator is not a replacement, that they like your cock best, and that they cannot have a meaningful relationship with a plastic toy.

It is the job of a girlfriend or boyfriend to keep their partner happy and confident; if neither of you feels threatened you can even enjoy watching some porn together or introducing vibrators or other toys into sex sometimes. :smile:

Reply 12

Talya

16

Anonymous

maybe, I'm crap and don't deserve a BF.

No! He's crap and doesn't deserve YOU!

Reply 13

WokSz

17

What a prick. You need boys like him and don't think you are to blame. Just dump him.

Reply 14

Ron Stoppable

14

Talya

No! He's crap and doesn't deserve YOU!

Liking the emphasis there! So you're saying although he doesn't deserve HER, he does deserve a crazy dominatrix like Talya? Talya, you wily ol' coquette. :rolleyes:

OP: move on. Anyone who constantly makes reference to moving on from their partner without taking action needs to get the gift of missing them.

Reply 15

Dez

20

Make sure the door hits him on the way out.

Reply 16

SciFi25

1

Dump him! Don't know why you havent already. He so needs to grow up.

Reply 17

Glory

1

I hate men like that, they have their double standards. Its not a good enviroment for a relationship, if you complain ill dump you for one of them. As if they are even going to look twice at him. Personally i would of just laffed at him when he made a comment about having on of them over you. He needs a reality check and to grow some maturity.

Reply 18

Segat1

16

*walks in*
takes deep breath
*walks out*

Reply 19

MissHero

1

Anonymous

he reads the Sun every day.

There's your problem.

If he seriously thinks that some two dimensional model whose most interesting conversation is a speech bubble above her head saying how much she cares about the polar ice caps, is more favourable that you, I say leave him with his rags and find someone better!

My BF makes me feel really insecure about Page 3 girls

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