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how to tell if someone "likes" you

basically there is this guy i really like, but i have no idea how feels about me, as he is pretty shy and doeasnt really give much away. How do you tell if someone likes you? what body language and stuff?
Or, any guys out there, if you liked a girl, how would you act around her that was different?

Reply 1

Caribou

1

just go straight out and ask him. saves a lot of trouble.

Reply 2

latentcorpse

12

i think the key is to see how he acts around other girls

Reply 3

1013

1

Everyone is different. Some people are blatant, some show off, some act as if the person doesn't exist, some are shy and won't talk...the list goes on. You need to talk to him. Ask him if he wants to go out or do something. If he says yes then he prob likes you.

Reply 4

**Pinx**

best thing to do is tell him how u feel. xx

Reply 5

Daydreams

It is simpler to just ask him. Unless you feel awkward doing so. You could ask through your friends if you dont wont to know...ask one of them to ask one of his friends to ask him etc

Reply 6

IndianDiva

Just ask him out and save yourself the hassle of thinking about it so much. Coz if he's anything like some of the guys I know, he won't understand subtle hints and will need it spelling out to him.

If you're shy, just get a friend to ask him for you, that way you won't feel stupid if it turns out he only sees you as a friend.

Reply 7

zav

14

Ask Him.

1) He says yes, both happy bla bla
2) He Rejects you, go to the pub get drunk

Win win situation you can't loose.

Reply 8

rawkingpunkster

my gosh. dont you just hate it when the other party is quiet and all secretive. tsktsk

just talk to him a bit more, dont ask outright.. might ruin a happy friendship

Reply 9

halfoflessthan50p

12

Ask him. It never ruins friendships rawkingpunkster. Really it doesnt, thats just a worse case scienario people think up in their heads. Any good friend will understand, he's not exactly gonna slap you and run off crying is he :biggrin:

If you dont want to ask (granted, can be hard if youre sober) just try giving little hints. Ask him if he thinks 'so and so' is more attractive than you, play hangman and make the answer "youre hot!" haha that kind of thing.

If he kinda thinks about it, if theres a silence and hes a little bit uneasy. Then he probably does like you. Or if he replies in a flirty way aswell.

If he kinda jokes about it in a friendly way then id say no.
Its not fool proof though. Just ask him!

hope that helps :biggrin:

Reply 10

mr man

I act really shy around someone i like. it annoys me as it's stopping me approaching the girl i like at the moment that i've liked for ages! And i finish my exams soon (monday) meaning i won't see her again, so if i want to make a move, it better be quick! If i were you, i'd just ask him straight out. Guys are HOPELESS at hints. I certainly am.

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

halfoflessthan50p

If you dont want to ask (granted, can be hard if youre sober) just try giving little hints. Ask him if he thinks 'so and so' is more attractive than you, play hangman and make the answer "youre hot!" haha that kind of thing.

If he kinda thinks about it, if theres a silence and hes a little bit uneasy. Then he probably does like you. Or if he replies in a flirty way aswell.

If he kinda jokes about it in a friendly way then id say no.
Its not fool proof though. Just ask him!

hope that helps :biggrin:

that's quite helpful actually.

to the OP:
i have the exact same problem as well. But mine probably more easy to figure out , i guess. last night we both finished working and he was going to leave, but then he realised that i also going home at that time so he siad he'll wait for me. when i went to the girls changing room he sort of follow me but i joked "you're not gonna come in are you?" he went(joking) " oh, is it only for girls". after that we walked and he stopped and talk to me about 20 minutes before we both go in the different dirrections. I think i can feel he's not normal when he speak to me, dunno if he doesn't like talking to me or he likes me. :rolleyes:

sry for this long post .

Reply 12

Flank Runner

well theres multiple ways
and every lad is goignto kill em for giving out our secrets

but yeah theres the silly method,
where we act all weird and stupid around you

the touchy bloke
who can't stop touching you, hugging you and generally being around you

the laugher
the guy thats always laughing, cracking jokes, or fooling around

the sensitive guy
that can talk for hours to you about absolutely sod all, (i'm a mix between this guy, the laugher and the touchy bloke)

then theres the most annoying git ever, who just kind of blanks you thinking that not speaking to you will get your attention, hmmm

but thats all i know about it, but generally if he acts differently than normal around you in a positive way, then he likes you especially if he keeps touching you

Reply 13

lil_sweetie

1

Flank Runner

well theres multiple ways
and every lad is goignto kill em for giving out our secrets

but yeah theres the silly method,
where we act all weird and stupid around you

the touchy bloke
who can't stop touching you, hugging you and generally being around you

the laugher
the guy thats always laughing, cracking jokes, or fooling around

the sensitive guy
that can talk for hours to you about absolutely sod all, (i'm a mix between this guy, the laugher and the touchy bloke)

then theres the most annoying git ever, who just kind of blanks you thinking that not speaking to you will get your attention, hmmm

but thats all i know about it, but generally if he acts differently than normal around you in a positive way, then he likes you especially if he keeps touching you

But it varies with different people - those might be some of the things you do or have seen being done but - the silly method - maybe he's just a generally weird and stupid guy? the touchy bloke - some of my best guy mates I'm always touchy-feely with, and hugging etc. and it means nothing - annoying git - maybe he just doesn't like you like that? So those could be indicators that he likes you, or they could just be his personality.

Reply 14

FadeToBlackout

15

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Reply 15

Asriel

1

ffaf

I act really shy around someone i like. it annoys me as it's stopping me approaching the girl i like at the moment that i've liked for ages! And i finish my exams soon (monday) meaning i won't see her again, so if i want to make a move, it better be quick! If i were you, i'd just ask him straight out. Guys are HOPELESS at hints. I certainly am.

Im the same, its really annoying. Im not shy at all around most people but when with her...

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

the problem is that i work with this guy, and if i ask him out and he says no, im still gonna have to see him every day and everyone at work would probarbly hear about it and it would just be aaaaaarrgh

Reply 17

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

the problem is that i work with this guy, and if i ask him out and he says no, im still gonna have to see him every day and everyone at work would probarbly hear about it and it would just be aaaaaarrgh

hey same here! I wonder if u work at the same place as i am or not :biggrin:

it would be creepy if we do :eek:

Reply 18

mik

HagerVor

just go straight out and ask him. saves a lot of trouble.

and saves all the FUN and ROMANTICS!

mylady, the lists above are right but you have to compare with his behaviour toward other girls! if he genuinely likes you he will definitely behave different (in some respect). for example, maybe be more shy and stuck then usual?

but even if he doesnt seem to be really interested, you still can make him so. a lot of guys will be hooked by the girl who shows interest in them, unless they get too many girls or have a gf, or they really dont like her for some reason.

why dont you first ask to do something together just like you`d do with a friend?

or if you feel peculiar about asking him (say, normally you dont do things with your colleagues) - organise something for the whole office so people wouldnt guess what is the reason. throw a party or a barbecue, or a group email to see some film (preferably you know he is interested in). etc

Reply 19

bobonix

ffaf

I act really shy around someone i like. it annoys me as it's stopping me approaching the girl i like at the moment that i've liked for ages! And i finish my exams soon (monday) meaning i won't see her again, so if i want to make a move, it better be quick! If i were you, i'd just ask him straight out. Guys are HOPELESS at hints. I certainly am.

you wouldn't believe this... i think we are the same person.. i think we should discuss this and come up with a solution

how to tell if someone "likes" you

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