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Stealing
Ok, I have just been told that a supposed friend has sold my sunglasses (£180) to another geezer. Because I'm quite known, it has got back to me.
Question is, I'm not a fighter now, and want away from all that nonsense. What would you do to your supposed mate?
I'm really thinking about giving him a hiding, but then again I risk ABH/GBH whatever. I'm doing well at Uni etc, and just want to get on with life, but due to a lot of pressure now being on me to sort this guy out, I feel I have a duty to kind of put him right if that makes sense? Problem is, he is also well connected. I don't really want the hassle of looking behind your back after, but then if he stole from a mate, that's what you should expect anyway?
I'm probably older than some of you guys, but even an opinion from anyone would help me! Sometimes rationality can be given by someone as low as 5 years
Never been in a situation where your 'mate' does something like this.
Question is, I'm not a fighter now, and want away from all that nonsense. What would you do to your supposed mate?
I'm really thinking about giving him a hiding, but then again I risk ABH/GBH whatever. I'm doing well at Uni etc, and just want to get on with life, but due to a lot of pressure now being on me to sort this guy out, I feel I have a duty to kind of put him right if that makes sense? Problem is, he is also well connected. I don't really want the hassle of looking behind your back after, but then if he stole from a mate, that's what you should expect anyway?
I'm probably older than some of you guys, but even an opinion from anyone would help me! Sometimes rationality can be given by someone as low as 5 years
Never been in a situation where your 'mate' does something like this.
Completely ignore him/her from your life. If they ever call/text, don't answer. They'll get pissed off and ask whats up... and you tell them. That'll make them feel guilty.
Icebomb
try talking to him, maybe he got into a sticky situation with money problems and was too scared to talk to anyone about it.
I understand he has got into money difficulties.
However, I have just been informed he gave my glasses to the fella? What the hell is he playing at?
.ThatDope.
Completely ignore him/her from your life. If they ever call/text, don't answer. They'll get pissed off and ask whats up... and you tell them. That'll make them feel guilty.
I'm afraid its not like that. This relationship is lets say, unfriendly. He is not a best mate so to speak, but more of a friend via a friend. Don't mean no disrespect, but its a bit more than a couple of 15 year olds bickering.
Niaya
either confront them calmly yourself with some one to act as a mediator - someone who wont take sides and explain that you cant allow him to get away with taking stuff without a resonable explanation and see how it goes from there
Seems like a good plan. Just worried what I'm going to do. I get the feeling who won't be appreciative of my appearance. I just know there will be a full scale argument. I'm now understanding from other friends (who are also not best buddies - but respect me) that he has done this type of thing before and no one has ever confronted him due to his connections etc. I don't care much for all that, and I'll do as I please. But I get the feeling if I do confront him, there will be an out and out war so to speak; something I would really like to avoid if possible.
allymcb2
Get evidence. Inform the police. Prosecute.
You know what, I really am just thinking that lol!
There can be nothing more demeaning than being done for theft from a mate.
A lot of friends know other friends and so on. It all kind of goes round in a circle so to speak. If they all knew he was stealing from a mate, I would find that really upsetting. But then this is a guy who obviously does not care an inch. Normally police and me don't go, and I'd rather do anything other.
Bit of a tuffy.
Thanks everyone
.ThatDope.
Completely ignore him/her from your life. If they ever call/text, don't answer. They'll get pissed off and ask whats up... and you tell them. That'll make them feel guilty.
....You must be a girl to say something like that.
Anyway, back to topic, give him an ultimatum, you want your glasses back in the same condition that there where in when he took them, or you want £180. (be carefull that he does not try and give you fake ones, if these are oakleys, raybans etc there are so many imitations he can get from the market for £10.)
Dont threaten him, dont grab him dont do anything that will suggest physical abuse, just tell him flat out that hes going to give them back to you. If he trys to **** around, dont take that kinda crap from him. Just be Very stern with him.
If this does not work, then you have a few options, either beat him up, go to the police or (and dont laugh at me for saying this) if at all possible, tell his parents! Think what would happen if you did what your mate did to someone and your parents found out, im sure that the majority would not have any of it and make sure you give the perosn in question his property back.
As for going to the police, make sure he knows you are considering it, before you actualy go because he may choose to comply when he finds out rather then you getting him in ot trouble, which will also mena more hassle for you with no guarnteed results.
This isnt school anymore, you are not 14 years old, if i where you i would not beat him up. He could press charges and take legal action against you. You could end up with fines, getting kicked out of uni and even going to prision for a few months.
Remeber thou, when i say dont beat up, there is a diffrent between beat up and 'rough up' if he does not comply you can 'rough him up' a bit just dont do anything that leaves a mark!
Motherless Child
Do nothing. You can't take worldy possesions with you after life, so what is the point?
Leave it.
Leave it.
1) She's not ****ing dead yet
2) Even if she were I'm pretty sure she would not want him to have her £180 sunglasses
Get evidence, get him prosecuted, get him a crimminal record and you your money back. We have a criminal justice system for a reason, and that reason is because 99.9% of the population want the money they've worked for whether they can take it with them or not.
its probably true that hurting him would give u a great sense of satisfaction... but it would probably leave u in a worse position (either by being prosecuted or getting beaten up at a later date)... i'd say just confront him, be stern, tell him what u know and ask him what he is going to do about it. then react to what he does, he might be very apologetic and give u the money or something.
also, if he is a friend of a friend, get ur friend involved, get all ur friends involved, tell this guys' friends who u know reasonably well, get them to boycott this guy cuz if he did this intentionally i wouldn't want to be his friend.
also, if he is a friend of a friend, get ur friend involved, get all ur friends involved, tell this guys' friends who u know reasonably well, get them to boycott this guy cuz if he did this intentionally i wouldn't want to be his friend.
i was in a similar situation to this. It was a minidisk player. I phoned up the police, they went round to his house. He was scared ****less and gave it back haha. He was only 16 though, so its not quite the same.
Talk to his friends. If that doesnt work i guess you should get in touch with the police. You have nothing to loose really do you? Unless hes a close friend you cant just ignore something like that
Talk to his friends. If that doesnt work i guess you should get in touch with the police. You have nothing to loose really do you? Unless hes a close friend you cant just ignore something like that
How do you steal from someone NON INTENTIONALLY????!!!!!
What he did was a crime. What he deserves is the appropriate punishment (admittedly our legal system falls short of this) and what you deserve is your money back.
It is unlikely that he cares what his friends think clearly. It is also unlikely that he will give you the money back. Confronting him will only forewarn him to cover his tracks. Get evidence, and go to the police before he can do a disappearing act.
Aside from this, it would be irresponsible not to make the police aware. It may mean that he gets away with it many more times, and it may make it harder to find the culprit than if the police know he has a previous record.
What he did was a crime. What he deserves is the appropriate punishment (admittedly our legal system falls short of this) and what you deserve is your money back.
It is unlikely that he cares what his friends think clearly. It is also unlikely that he will give you the money back. Confronting him will only forewarn him to cover his tracks. Get evidence, and go to the police before he can do a disappearing act.
Aside from this, it would be irresponsible not to make the police aware. It may mean that he gets away with it many more times, and it may make it harder to find the culprit than if the police know he has a previous record.
allymcb2
1) She's not ****ing dead yet
2) Even if she were I'm pretty sure she would not want him to have her £180 sunglasses
Get evidence, get him prosecuted, get him a crimminal record and you your money back. We have a criminal justice system for a reason, and that reason is because 99.9% of the population want the money they've worked for whether they can take it with them or not.
2) Even if she were I'm pretty sure she would not want him to have her £180 sunglasses
Get evidence, get him prosecuted, get him a crimminal record and you your money back. We have a criminal justice system for a reason, and that reason is because 99.9% of the population want the money they've worked for whether they can take it with them or not.
She is a he my dearest
alisama
its probably true that hurting him would give u a great sense of satisfaction... but it would probably leave u in a worse position (either by being prosecuted or getting beaten up at a later date)... i'd say just confront him, be stern, tell him what u know and ask him what he is going to do about it. then react to what he does, he might be very apologetic and give u the money or something.
also, if he is a friend of a friend, get ur friend involved, get all ur friends involved, tell this guys' friends who u know reasonably well, get them to boycott this guy cuz if he did this intentionally i wouldn't want to be his friend.
also, if he is a friend of a friend, get ur friend involved, get all ur friends involved, tell this guys' friends who u know reasonably well, get them to boycott this guy cuz if he did this intentionally i wouldn't want to be his friend.
I have the glasses back. It was a friend via a friend who got given the glasses by this guy. Basically the thief gave the glasses to someone I knew! And another frined noticed them and gave me a call and told me who gave them over. Yes, they are Ray Bans. Minor I know, but disrespectful nonetheless and where I'm around, mates don't do that sort of thing.
The friend that has given them over does not want ot get involved through fear of reprieve. The thief is not exactly a petty thief so I'm being told now, and his father wouldn't care much if I spoke to him.
*titanium*
Dont threaten him, dont grab him dont do anything that will suggest physical abuse, just tell him flat out that hes going to give them back to you. If he trys to **** around, dont take that kinda crap from him. Just be Very stern with him.
If this does not work, then you have a few options, either beat him up, go to the police or (and dont laugh at me for saying this) if at all possible, tell his parents! Think what would happen if you did what your mate did to someone and your parents found out, im sure that the majority would not have any of it and make sure you give the perosn in question his property back.
As for going to the police, make sure he knows you are considering it, before you actualy go because he may choose to comply when he finds out rather then you getting him in ot trouble, which will also mena more hassle for you with no guarnteed results.
This isnt school anymore, you are not 14 years old, if i where you i would not beat him up. He could press charges and take legal action against you. You could end up with fines, getting kicked out of uni and even going to prision for a few months.
Remeber thou, when i say dont beat up, there is a diffrent between beat up and 'rough up' if he does not comply you can 'rough him up' a bit just dont do anything that leaves a mark!
Dont threaten him, dont grab him dont do anything that will suggest physical abuse, just tell him flat out that hes going to give them back to you. If he trys to **** around, dont take that kinda crap from him. Just be Very stern with him.
If this does not work, then you have a few options, either beat him up, go to the police or (and dont laugh at me for saying this) if at all possible, tell his parents! Think what would happen if you did what your mate did to someone and your parents found out, im sure that the majority would not have any of it and make sure you give the perosn in question his property back.
As for going to the police, make sure he knows you are considering it, before you actualy go because he may choose to comply when he finds out rather then you getting him in ot trouble, which will also mena more hassle for you with no guarnteed results.
This isnt school anymore, you are not 14 years old, if i where you i would not beat him up. He could press charges and take legal action against you. You could end up with fines, getting kicked out of uni and even going to prision for a few months.
Remeber thou, when i say dont beat up, there is a diffrent between beat up and 'rough up' if he does not comply you can 'rough him up' a bit just dont do anything that leaves a mark!
I can categorically state if a bit of a scuffle took place, no police will ever be involved, even if I took a knife to him. He's that way inclined.
So many people know about this petty incident now, that they are all expecting me to just sort this guy out! Its like peer pressure and being back at school
I think he does need a little 'roughing up' so to speak. It's just that no one likes to be accused and I have the feeling he will react with mates, or by himself. That's why I want to avoid the violence if I can.
Don't think I can though
Oh well - I'll tell you how it goes tomorrow. If I haven't posted - I'm in a cell or have been stabbed - seriously no joke
Oh - by the way - violence is never really the answer. I know I'm contradicting this, but he was supposed to be a mate. Bit of a difference, and one that hopefully shouldn't go too far in causing trouble. Always ignore trouble and just walk away. Trust me
Why is it that these type of event always happen when England playing! 1st Canary Wharf and now this
allymcb2
In that case, wait until he does something MUCH worse, Video it and anonymously post it to the police station. And one more violent thug has to avoid dropping the soap....
You know what - you're absolutely right.
After all, he sh*t me over, so why not me doing it to him?
Thanks; I seriously think that is the answer
Anonymous
Ok, I have just been told that a supposed friend has sold my sunglasses (£180) to another geezer. Because I'm quite known, it has got back to me.
Question is, I'm not a fighter now, and want away from all that nonsense. What would you do to your supposed mate?
I'm really thinking about giving him a hiding, but then again I risk ABH/GBH whatever. I'm doing well at Uni etc, and just want to get on with life, but due to a lot of pressure now being on me to sort this guy out, I feel I have a duty to kind of put him right if that makes sense? Problem is, he is also well connected. I don't really want the hassle of looking behind your back after, but then if he stole from a mate, that's what you should expect anyway?
I'm probably older than some of you guys, but even an opinion from anyone would help me! Sometimes rationality can be given by someone as low as 5 years
Never been in a situation where your 'mate' does something like this.
Question is, I'm not a fighter now, and want away from all that nonsense. What would you do to your supposed mate?
I'm really thinking about giving him a hiding, but then again I risk ABH/GBH whatever. I'm doing well at Uni etc, and just want to get on with life, but due to a lot of pressure now being on me to sort this guy out, I feel I have a duty to kind of put him right if that makes sense? Problem is, he is also well connected. I don't really want the hassle of looking behind your back after, but then if he stole from a mate, that's what you should expect anyway?
I'm probably older than some of you guys, but even an opinion from anyone would help me! Sometimes rationality can be given by someone as low as 5 years
Never been in a situation where your 'mate' does something like this.
So can SPAG
Anonymous
Ok, I have just been told that a supposed friend has sold my sunglasses (£180) to another geezer. Because I'm quite known, it has got back to me.
Question is, I'm not a fighter now, and want away from all that nonsense. What would you do to your supposed mate?
I'm really thinking about giving him a hiding, but then again I risk ABH/GBH whatever. I'm doing well at Uni etc, and just want to get on with life, but due to a lot of pressure now being on me to sort this guy out, I feel I have a duty to kind of put him right if that makes sense? Problem is, he is also well connected. I don't really want the hassle of looking behind your back after, but then if he stole from a mate, that's what you should expect anyway?
I'm probably older than some of you guys, but even an opinion from anyone would help me! Sometimes rationality can be given by someone as low as 5 years
Never been in a situation where your 'mate' does something like this.
Question is, I'm not a fighter now, and want away from all that nonsense. What would you do to your supposed mate?
I'm really thinking about giving him a hiding, but then again I risk ABH/GBH whatever. I'm doing well at Uni etc, and just want to get on with life, but due to a lot of pressure now being on me to sort this guy out, I feel I have a duty to kind of put him right if that makes sense? Problem is, he is also well connected. I don't really want the hassle of looking behind your back after, but then if he stole from a mate, that's what you should expect anyway?
I'm probably older than some of you guys, but even an opinion from anyone would help me! Sometimes rationality can be given by someone as low as 5 years
Never been in a situation where your 'mate' does something like this.
You may be older but you still seem to have that 'I'll fight anyone' attitude which people tend to grow out of by the time they reach 18.
Have a go at him or something, I don't know. Doesn't sound like something a friend would do like...
Oh, my dad is harder than you're dad.
you said he's done stuff like this before? maybe he has a problem? he might be a cleptomaniac? i once had a friend who was a pyrcleptomaniac... she used to steal my things and then burn them:wtf?:
these things do happen you know! they're proper psychological issues!
these things do happen you know! they're proper psychological issues!
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