Gifting girlfriend her fantasy for birthday

So we've been together a couple of years and while she was quite shy at first she has opened up to some degree and we have explored some of each others fantasies.

One thing she has been a little afraid to grow up is the idea of bringing more people into the equation. Then last week after a couple of bottles of wine we were talking and she let the cat out of the bag and explained that she fantasizes about being with two or three shall we say 'well-endowed' men and being "put through her paces".

Now I don't think this is a particularly unusual fantasy for a girl to have but I guess she is shy to talk about it when not drunk because she is scared of how I might react. So when she told me about it when she was drunk she asked me if I thought it was weird and I just said no not at all and kind of hinted that I'd be ok with it to which she seemed pleased.

But then a couple of days later I tried to bring it up again when we were sober and she went back to being shy about it. Now having thought about it I'm thinking if she wants to do this then I'd rather let her have it with me involved than gi behind ny back. So I was thinking of arranging a weekend away in a different city where we can get a hotel and go out together to find a couple of guys or just use the internet to find them and then everyone goes back to the hotel and she fulfils her fantasy.

Problem is while I'm sure my girlfriend does want to do it, I'm frustrated that she won't talk to me about it and no matter what I try she gets shy. How can I get her to realise its ok? Has anybody experienced anything similar?

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Reply 1

username447608

I don't think arranging it behind her back will go well at all. If shes afraid to open up about it sober the likelihood is she will completely freak out when she turns up to a hotel of men.

Reply 2

You Failed

I don't think this is a good idea at all. Like you said, she's shy about even talking about it, how do you think she would react when unwillingly confronted with the situation? If she isn't comfortable talking about it then she definitely won't be comfortable doing it. Everyone has fantasies, and that's fine, acting on those fantasies is a completely different thing though and a lot of people want those fantasies to remain exactly that, fantasies. Nothing more, nothing less.

Reply 3

username1060288

If she's shy when you even mention it, how much worse will it be when there are 3 guys in the room with you? Think, seriously...

Reply 4

bloomblaze

surely if you go ahead with it, it could destroy your relationship?

ie she might want to leave you for one of these 'well endowed' men

If a girlfriend of mine had this fantasy I would be worried and assume she is unhappy with my body, if she feels the need to think about gang bangs with 'well endowed' men...would anyone else feel the same? {if you are a girl, imagine your bf wants a gang bang with a few girls with massive boobs)

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Reply 5

Giant

This is a porno waiting to happen

Reply 6

Mankytoes

I find chocolate and flowers still works.

Reply 7

Our_Lot

We all have fantasies but much of the time, we don't expect or even want them to happen. While it's admirable that you want to help your girlfriend fulfill this, I'm not sure if it is a good idea. It would be hard to arrange, she may not enjoy it as much in reality and it could put a fair bit of strain on your relationship regardless of the outcome.

Reply 8

ZizziHikaru

I'm sure if I unexpectedly fulfilled my man's fantasy of a three or moresome with other girls, he'd run away.

She might want to keep it a fantasy, don't pressure her into doing something you get off on.

Reply 9

Caits7

I think it's lovely you're willing to do this for her, but seriously man, don't.

Fantasies are sometimes best kept in your head, seeing as she only admitted this to you while drunk I don't think it's something she seriously wants to do.

Reply 10

Profesh

No. This is perhaps the ultimate 'Get Out of Jail Free Card' for when married life sheds its lustre: to tip your hand now would be lunacy.

Reply 11

pandabird

Having a fantasy about a situation does not necessarily mean you want it to be a reality. Seriously.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

All good advice. Decided to talk to her about it first, so set up a nice meal and some wine last night and casually brought it up. Fell like a bit of an idiot when she burst out laughing, assuming I was joking. I had no response and she changed the subject. But then later after a couple of wines we were snuggling and then she whispered asking if I was serious when I brought it up earlier. Told her I was just thinking out loud. She goes on to ask if I'd "dare" go through with it. I laughed and said it would be more of a dare for her. She smiles and goes "yeah but I think I can handle it". Then before I know it we're talking about how we could make it happen and she's saying she wants me and either two or three "big guys" and we can use her parents house when they're away. Then she tells me how she's going to find the guys online and it's like she had it all planned out all along. Finally she says her parents house is free this weekend (!) and that was the last thing said. I'm a bit shell shocked now and possibly regretting saying anything.

Reply 13

Mankytoes

Please, please, please keep us updated.

Reply 14

snailsareslimy

I think this might be the end of your relationship...

Reply 15

MancStudent098

Original post by snailsareslimy

I think this might be the end of your relationship...

...and the start of a hilarious tale for us... :cookie:

Reply 16

donutaud15

sometimes a fantasy is just that

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Reply 17

Satanel

It won't happen if she's sober.

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

Just spoke on the phone. It was the first and pretty much last thing she wanted to talk about lol. Looks like it's on for Saturday afternoon. She is going to find the guys online through one of these websites. Hopefully when its done its done and all will be fine. I'm semi-ok with it since its what she wants