Heartbroken :(

My boyfriend (now ex) broke up with me Saturday after a long week of him ignoring me not ansswering his phone or really keeping in touch with me properly. I know he was treating me like dirt but its killing me. My heart is like physically hurting. I spoke to him Monday night online and he just said he was unhappy and had been for ages although up until that week I had thought we were great!

I'm stuck in the house alot now on my own as I'm in the middle of doing my A levels and ive burnt all my bridges with my friends as I spent so much time with him I never really seen them. I dont know what to do with myself, i feel like im totally on my own. I'm supposed to be revising but everytime i sit down to concentrate my mind wanders and I end up in tears. I took my Biology exams yesterday and my mind just wandered all the way through and at one point i really thought i was just gonna break down and cry.

I just feel like my life is at a dead end. I didnt get into uni so I dont have the prospect of meeting new people to look forward to and im a pretty shy person so i dont know where to start to get myself out there and make new friends.

Any advice from anyone?

Thanks x

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

Awww!

You poor girl :frown:

Well think of it this way, if you focus your mind on your studies as best as poss, I can assure you, you will come out of this a much better person with an IQ I bet around 50 points higher than the bf :wink:

Also... you're young - still have life ahead of you, so don't worry, things will get better I'm sure. :smile:

Think positive xo

Reply 2

1013

Take this as a learning curve. In future, don't reject your friends in favour of a guy or throw your whole life into a relationship. Ahealthy realationship is one where people can spend time apart and it still works. For the other person in the relationship (in your case, the guy) it isn't an attractive prospect to have the other person so wholly dependant on you, which may be where some of the realtionship problems came from.
As for now, your life is not at a dead end. What are you - 17, 18? There are a million opportunities for people your age.
You could go through clearing and get into a uni, or do some kind of higher education course or get a job - in any case, you will make more friends and meet new people.
I konw it's hard but you really have to put this out of your head while you are revising. You can have the rest of the sumer to sort your life out and you'll have more opportunities at your disposal if you get good grades.

Reply 3

Glory

I spent a whole summer doing the same, it hurts when you feel like someone has lied about their feelings and then totally cut you off. But beleive it or not, things like this happen for a reason. They make us better people for it, you will meet someone else maybe not straight away but soon and it will help you appreicate how important things are. It also makes you realise that any time you have with someone is precious.

I think you have to appolgise to your friends too, im sure they will understand why they aint seen much of you. If they are good friends they will be there for you. You need to make a plan of what your going to do with your life from now on, minus guys. Go to college, get a job etc. Just plan your future, looking forward really helps.

Reply 4

KaosLisa

I'm 19 and it wasnt really all my fault about losing all my friends he was quite possesive and would want to spend alot of time with me and then i had to fit my studying around that. I feel like such an idiot, throwing my whole life away for him. It really hurts as well because it seems like everything is just going great for him and im just stuck in a hole.

Reply 5

1013

Like I said, you can learn a lot from this. You say it wasn't your fault, but nobody made you go out with him. I'm not trying to be harsh, everyone makes mistakes and you're young. Your life will come back togehter but you are the one who has to make the effort. I agree that you should try and get your friends back, although you should understand if they're pissed off with you. Try and explain that you got taken in by this guy but that you have learnt from your mistakes and that you value their friendship too much to risk it again.