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Can i believe that i can trust her

Hi, well basically i have met the girl of my dreams. She is perfect. We get on so so well. We are both really similar in how we are in relationships i.e we like alot of attention, both get easily jealous and both very affectionate. It really is a relationship which we both believe is in for the long haul. My only worry is this that she is going to Ibiza soon for 2 weeks and im worried that she may get with someone. I say this as she cheated on her last ex and she actually met her ex out in Ibiza last summer. Not only that but im sure you yourselves hear about what goes on out in Ibiza. She also intends to go to Magaluf for a night aswell and everyone knows about that place. If it was a week i wouldnt mind as much but 2 weeks is a long time out there. Shes beautiful, really is and she is going to have alot of offers. She says she loves me and she wont cheat on me, which ive said if she did i would walk away. I really would. But ill know how much i mean to her out there but at the moment i have a bad feeling about it and i really dont know whether she will stay faithful. I love her to bits and dont wanna lose her, guess im really scared of losing her. I personally dont think im good enough for her, looks wise anyway. . What do you think, or if you have been in a similar position. Thanks
Reply 1
It seems this is more an issue of your confidence than anything else. A relationship should be based on equality, not you thinking you don't deserve her etc. While I'm pretty sure any guy would be feeling nervous in your situation, especially given that she's done it before, you still have to try your best not to let this mess up what you have. There comes a point in a relationship where you put your heart on the line because you trust the other person not to mess you around. It's a risk, but if you're in it for the long haul then it's necessary.

My advice would be to, as you have already done, make it clear you won't stand for any cheating, and then just tell her to have a good time and try to distract yourself for two weeks. Go out with friends, or get more hours at work, anything to keep busy! Having been in your girlfriend's position (although perhaps less of the beautiful stuff), I can tell you it is hard.. you do get offers and the club reps are always encouraging stuff like that to go on, but she CAN have a good time without cheating. And if she really loves you then that's what she'll do.
Reply 2
If she loves you, she won't cheat. If she cheats, then she doesn't love you (at least not that much) and you're probably better of finding out sooner than later. Just becasue her track record isn't great doesn't mean she'll do the same to you, though.
Reply 3
Love is a word much bandied around these parts. She probably won't love you yet.

She might cheat.. alot of my friends cheat especially when they go abroad.

But if it's in another country or area code it doesn't count.. does it? :confused:
Reply 4
its not because she cheated on her ex that she'll cheat on you. I have a friend who used to cheat on all her boyfriends but she calmed down and now she would never cheat on her boyfriend. And stop thinking that girls can't control themselves! Anyways, you need to trust her and show that you do and also show that you really care about her...
Reply 5
Dantanion
Love is a word much bandied around these parts. She probably won't love you yet.

She might cheat.. alot of my friends cheat especially when they go abroad.

But if it's in another country or area code it doesn't count.. does it? :confused:


So true!
Reply 6
Well i brought this topic up on monday and ive had my say. Shes tried to reassure me and to be honest she has. Im gonna leave it now because i dont want to force her away and become annoying. We'll see what happens when she goes away but i hope she doesnt means far too much to me.
Reply 7
if she loves u and she wants 2be with u -- she wont cheat!

if she doesnt it was meant 2 be

if she does it wasnt!

u have to trust her until she proves u cant!
make the next few weeks before she goes away, the best few weeks ever!
xxx
Reply 8
the things that you hear about ibiza arn't all true i've been there
a agree with the post before you have to trust her cus that is what a relationship is all about