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I'm opening a whole can of worms here, and doubtless I'll get shouted down by a thousand people telling me this can never work, but I'm 19 and I've been going out with a 31 year old. She's considering moving down to work where I'm going to uni. Does anyone know of couples who've made an age gap and situation like that work ?

Reply 1

ciderpeter

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Michael Douglas and Catherine Zeta Jones?

Reply 2

Poison Ivy

Are you happy? If so you shouldn't care what other people think...age ain't nuffink but a number....and besides you're 19 so there shouldn't be a problem :smile:

Go for it!

obviously main issue later on may be "where you are in your lives" to give it a sex and the city esque name, moving down near your uni must be a big issue/step for her, whilst it may not be so in your eyes in the sense being in halls/rented house and having home to go to your more mobile and less settled.

Reply 5

Faraday

what about Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore? they're still together and they have a massive age gap too.

Reply 6

Sazarina88

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I think if you want it to work, it will!

Good luck
Sarah x

Reply 7

takeoffsandlandings

You hear that gap a lot with men dating younger girls. Having just re-read that...it sounds worse than it is. It depends on the people. You could be very mature, she could be less mature...But does any one else feel like it makes more sense when it's an older guy/younger girl? Or am I falling prey to gender bias?

(I'm a girl, by the way) I almost feel like asking is there something wrong with this women? Like, a 41 year old woman and 29 year old guy seems more normal. I can't get over that I'm perpetuating a double standard by saying that a 19 year old girl and 33 year old guy doesn't bother me as much...but it doesn't.

And unless two people are seriously planning their lives together, i think there is something wrong with any person of any age or gender relocating for someone else. Is she doing it just because of you? Or because she likes it there?

Sorry if this offends anyone... up untill 30 seconds ago I really thought I was a feminist...

Reply 8

Shreerac1

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Is she rich? You gold digger :wink:

jk

got a pic?

Urgh. I reckon I could sleep with a 31-year-old if they were hot, but defo not for a relationship. Oldest I've been with is 24 and admittedly it was hot, but I'm 19.

Reply 11

SamTheMan

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Dr. Blazed

I'm opening a whole can of worms here, and doubtless I'll get shouted down by a thousand people telling me this can never work, but I'm 19 and I've been going out with a 31 year old. She's considering moving down to work where I'm going to uni. Does anyone know of couples who've made an age gap and situation like that work ?

I wouldn't worry about an age gap like that. It's not shocking. When you're 19, people in their 30s might seem like adults but to be honest, a lot of people around 30 are still totally immature and not ready to be serious.

How have your mates reacted?

I'm used to going out (when I happen to go out with someone :rolleyes:

) with girls who are either quite a few years younger or quite a few years older. I used to think there was something better about one over the other i.e. younger/older were less of a headache but to be honest, I have yet to establish that one.

Reply 12

Freckles

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I tend to fall for guys in their thirties (I'm 21) and I don't think it's a problem when you get on well and love each other. You may get funny looks etc, but who cares?! 31 isn't "old" anyway, I still consider it quite young, and maybe you're just very mature for your age or she likes younger men, but it doesn't really matter what it is as long as you're happy, you can make it work :smile:

Reply 13

stoney

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theres nothing wrong with it at all, alot of women at that age like younger men anyways. dont worry what people say and go for it so long as you're both happy!

Reply 14

1013

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I think it could work as the age gap is not ridiculous. I'm 23 and wouldn't feel to weird about dating a 35 year old. Obviously it depends on how compatible you both are and that you both want the same things at this point in your lives.

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