Usually this means I would move on, but the reasoning is more weird than that.
I first met the lass last Saturday, when she moved into the accommodation and we were at one of the house parties. Things hit off well, hanged around with her for a bit. I asked one of her roommates on Sunday to see if she is single or not, but have been told she is single.
On Wednesday, I hanged around with a few of my friends, one of them being friends with the lass in question. Shared some stories, told her I did like the lass but have been told that she was single. Apparently, the information I told was incorrect. She is single and she does like me.
So Thursday, decided to ask her out and she accepted. Went out for a quiet drink, found out we get along really well and there is some sort of chemistry. We went for a walk because she was confused about the town. Went back to my place, shared a kiss and watched a movie together. She had to go back to her place as she had to do something tomorrow, but gave me a kiss goodnight. It went well, but something was kinda... off. And whilst I do like her, I found it a bit stressful for some reason.
Next day, hanged around with my friends again. The lass got invited. Then we had the talk in privacy. She said that she had some problems in her life and that it was best that if we can be friends. I told her that I understand. Since we share the same group of friends, we were bound to be friends regardless.
But I did feel a bit down. And it was obvious to my friend who recommended me to give things a shot with her. And then she explained it to me.
She never had a boyfriend at all. She was stressing about it because she didn't know how it all worked. She recommend to stick around and be friends instead of rushing. I explained this story to some of my friends, mostly female, and they explained to me that it can be frightening for a woman to have her first boyfriend. They also brought up an interesting point, which is that it's the fresher's week where hormones and sex are all the rage.
I can understand that. But in a way, I'm kinda torn. On one hand, I find it that a woman of her age who had no prior boyfriends in the past... would put me in a situation where most of the responsibility lies with me. Because I'm the experienced one. I had a six years relationship. Hell, I'm still really iffy about relationships.
On the other hand, I do really like this lass and I'm under the impression that she feels the same way. But due to her never having a boyfriend in her life and me still being iffy about relationships, maybe it is the right call to be friends.
I know someone is going to recommend me be on the prowl for another woman, but I find it extremely hard to be attracted to another woman. Most of my friends I've made in university have been women thus far and they all have been platonic.
And really, the best advice would be 'time'. But in my situation, what would be the best advice? Some recommended me to be honest. Others recommend me to give it time. My short-term plan is to give each other space and then just hang with her as friends (in the comfort of other friends).
But what would you recommend, as I prefer the variety of ideas. Or tell me "You're stupid. She isn't that into you", which is valid.