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Asking someone out

I'm a bit concerned about the phrasing. I'm having to ask someone out through email because I might not even see her again, but every time I read over the first sentence it just doesn't seem right at all.

What do you think's good and what's bad?



I’d really appreciate if you would come out for a drink with me this Saturday.

Would you like to come out for a drink with me this Saturday?

Would you come out for a drink with me this Saturday?


Would you please come out for a drink with me this Saturday?



...or other, please make suggestions.

It's not an ideal situation by any account, but I don't have much choice. How do you think I should phrase it? When asking someone out in writing there seems to be minor insinuations at times. Bah.

Cheers.

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Whatever you do, don't just say "Urm, will you go out with me?". You might get away with it when your 12, but no later. Unless you don't know this person very well, I'd suggest being a bit less formal. Just something along the lines of "Hey, do you want to come out for a drink (with me) on Saturday".

If you plan anything too much it will probably seem forced, just ask away as if it is any other conversation.
Reply 2
I prefer the second one, 'please' probably isnt a good idea.

Don't worry about it too deeply: if she likes you the phrasing will make little difference, and if she doesn't then it doesn't matter anyway.
How about 'I just emailed, to say, I love you'?
:ditto: (edit - to Katmarauder)
And "I would really appreciate..." kinda sounds formal. It was strange coz at a first glance those sentences looked the same but then you realise that every word can completely change the meaning. wow. But ignore that - don't look into it otherwise you'll go mad.

Hopefully those are not your first sentences? Can't you just acknowledge the fact that you're going seperate ways before asking if you would like to meet up? Just write it quickly, press send and then worry :p:
Reply 5
naivesincerity
How about 'I just emailed, to say, I love you'?


If I know her as well as I think I do then she wouldn't touch a Stevie Wonder fan with an eighty foot pole. :wink:
Reply 6
Anonymous
I'm a bit concerned about the phrasing. I'm having to ask someone out through email because I might not even see her again, but every time I read over the first sentence it just doesn't seem right at all.

What do you think's good and what's bad?



I’d really appreciate if you would come out for a drink with me this Saturday.

Would you like to come out for a drink with me this Saturday?

Would you come out for a drink with me this Saturday?


Would you please come out for a drink with me this Saturday?



...or other, please make suggestions.

It's not an ideal situation by any account, but I don't have much choice. How do you think I should phrase it? When asking someone out in writing there seems to be minor insinuations at times. Bah.

Cheers.

Are you male or female?
naivesincerity
How about 'I just emailed, to say, I love you'?


:biggrin:

This is the cheesiest thing I've heard all day!
Reply 8
Hmm. It's quite the dilemma. We're both formal people though, that's the thing. I can't go without "Dear," anyway, I couldn't cope with such impoliteness. :wink:
Just DON'T ever say, "I really like you" :redface:
Reply 10
Ras
Are you male or female?


Well, I'm not lesbian.
Anonymous
I'm a bit concerned about the phrasing. I'm having to ask someone out through email because I might not even see her again, but every time I read over the first sentence it just doesn't seem right at all.

What do you think's good and what's bad?



I’d really appreciate if you would come out for a drink with me this Saturday.

Would you like to come out for a drink with me this Saturday?

Would you come out for a drink with me this Saturday?


Would you please come out for a drink with me this Saturday?



...or other, please make suggestions.

It's not an ideal situation by any account, but I don't have much choice. How do you think I should phrase it? When asking someone out in writing there seems to be minor insinuations at times. Bah.

Cheers.


I'd REALLY appreciate it.....

Would you PLEASE come.....

No way dude...first sounds far too formal, far too pressurizing too...smacks of forcefulness, you don't want to put a woman ill at ease do you.
Okay, I didn't read this properly and didn't realise it was going to be in an email. That changes it a bit, but I'd go for something along the lines of "I was wondering if you wanted to meet up for drinks on Saturday"? I don't know, ultiamtely only you can decide, but don't worry about it too much.
DoMakeSayThink
Okay, I didn't read this properly and didn't realise it was going to be in an email. That changes it a bit, but I'd go for something along the lines of "I was wondering if you wanted to meet up for drinks on Saturday"? I don't know, ultiamtely only you can decide, but don't worry about it too much.


wondering is fine, but not what the OP proposes, i.e.

I'd really appreciate.....
Would you please come for.....

The above are really poorly phrased IMO...'wondering' is good, and soft :cool:
Reply 14
Okay, I'm finally going with "I’m wondering if you would like to come out for a few drinks with me on Saturday?"

I wasn't intending to use the last one, it sounds desperate, I was just putting it down to emphasise my point about how awful it sounds in writing, but I was going to use the first.
why can't you ring her. I could be wrong, but surely she would prefer it if you were to ask her yourself rather than just e-mailing her. and seen as though you cant see her, ringing her is the closest you will come. Then maybe just sumat like "what you doing this saturday?" ..."just i was wondering if you would like to come out for a drink with me?"
Reply 16
Oh God this all sounds too cheesy.

I suppose I don't have anything to lose with that said.
Reply 17
Well if you're both quite formal...then you could always try the half humourous/half serious approach of...

'Could I have the pleasure of your company one evening/this weekend?'
Oh and smile lots too!

Good luck :smile:
DoMakeSayThink
Whatever you do, don't just say "Urm, will you go out with me?". You might get away with it when your 12, but no later.


What would you say then?

I'm planning to ask someone out in person (as in to be my gf not just out for a drink or whatever) and to be honest i'd probabaly just say that minus the 'urm.'

ta.
Reply 19
The damage is done. She better bloody read her emails tonight. :P