The Student Room Group

family problems

hi i am asking for advice as for what people would do in my situation
at christmas my mothers partner was diognoised with terminal cancer and due to this he has come to live with us. However this man is the reason my parents seperated and there is a lot of anger between him and me and my siblings. And things have been getting very bad recently with him making extremely rude comments about me and father and he is becoming very difficult to live with espicially as he hates me as i am very simular to my father . but i am worries that if i tell my mother the way that he is acting towards me and my brothers we will make the situation and we will come worse off and be chucked out the house when we have done nothing wrong what would people do put up with him or confront them
why does he act like that towards you? u havent exactly been friendly with him, maybe hes just giving u a peice of ur own medicine? i dont know the ins and outs.. but u shud definately tell ur mother and tell him to sort himself out
tel him that its alright if he wants to be nasty and you'll take it all day long cos he won't be here this time nxt year. Or just tell your mum. which would be the right thing to do.
There's no way of knowing how you would behave towards other people if you were dying. He's probably in a lot of pain and on a lot of medication which may be causing him to act irrationally.

He's probably jealous of you and your family for being healthy and for having a long future ahead of you, with your mother. It's not your fault, but I think if you confront him you will only feel guilty about being unpleasant to someone who is dying.

If you think she will listen, let your mother know how you feel, but at the same time let her know you are aware there is very little she can do about it, and that you're only telling her because you need someone to talk to. Other than that I think the only thing to do is be nice (or at least civil) to this man, and for you, your mum and the rest of your family to support each other.

Good luck.
As Apricot says, be civil, even when it may pain you...

Besides, think about your mother. If she's happy, then you should be happy about this arguably...she's struggling with her partners terminal illness so the last thing she'll want is arguments, hassle et cetera. And, you may be on a perpetual guilt trip and feel really crap about yourself once your mothers partner has passed away, from having not been all that civil with him. For peace of mind, and your mothers too, remain civil with the man, and of course, with his medication, a possible irrationality could emanate....