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Opinions wanted

Hello Everybody,

Right i'll try and keep this short and simple.

I had a gap year 2004 and met an aussie girl, we messed around a bit but thought nothing off it. She came over to England for a while and lived with me, until it was time for me to go to Uni. I did my first year, and wasn't enjoying it at all, the course bored me etc. Anyway during this time Sheila and i maintained contact and eventually told each other how we felt, (being emotional ******* it seemed better doing it from 10,000 miles- safe distance).
Anyway we decided to try a long distance relationship and i went over to see her a few times, and after finishing my first year quit uni, and am now living in Sydney currently on a working holiday visa.

I've been doing crappy sales jobs for 7 months now, and getting taxed 30% so i'm permanently skint. I really do love her, and i want our relationship to work. However i am now really tempted to go back to England and go back to uni and get a degree before my brain stops working completely. My girlfriends dad is English so she has a British Passport, but she is in the second year at Sydney Uni. We are looking into her transferring to a uni in England, but she has also said she can't imagine living in England for 3 years (while i do my degree).
I really don't know what to do, my lease on my apartment is up mid August and i'm really tempted to pack it all in and go back and sort my life out, but i'm scared if that means we break up i will regret it for a very long time.


I said it would be short, i lied.
Thoughts?!:confused:
Reply 1
id say u should go bak to england, you have kept a long distance relationaship before so that proves it could still work.

gud luk with it nywaii
Reply 2
Like someone said in one of the threads; You're your only friend (or something similar) So treat yourself with respect.

Think it thouroughly. Which is more important; saving yourself or being with Sheila? Before you end up in the streets of Australia you'd better sort your life first.

Good Luck.
Reply 3
Thanks for the responses it's interesting to see what other people think.
Reply 4
bobthebluenose
i'm scared if that means we break up i will regret it for a very long time


I think you would regret more not going to uni.
Reply 5
I say go to uni. Think of the worst case senarios of each situation.
If you stay in Aus with her and don't go to uni, then she dumps you, you will have wasted an extremely large portion of your life because as you hinted at earlier, it will be harder getting a degree later in life and you will have wasted all those years not climbing the career ladder.
If you go to uni and do leave her in Aus, or she comes to Engand or you have a long distance relationship etc. the worst that happens is you split up. I've said it in a kind of dismissive way and I know it is a big emotional deal, but I think if you both feel strongly enough for each other you could make it work. Relationships work both ways, you were prepared to go and live in Aus with her, why not the other way around?

As someone mentioned earlier, you have to respect yourself and start thinking about securing your future. Best of luck.
Reply 6
Is she really called Sheila? Fabulous!
Why don't you jion her at uni in Aus?
Reply 8
3 words:

sucks to be

.... adding a fourth:

you


altho at least you have someone you love... and thats all that really matters. i simply do not envy the decision you have to make :P
Reply 9
The_Crow
Why don't you jion her at uni in Aus?



I would and have looked into it, but would cost about $19,000 a year, or 8-9 thousand of your english sterling quids!

No her name isn't actually Sheila, wish it was though!
Where did you meet her. I'm looking to pick somone up in the Sydney area too.
Met her while teaching English in Vietnam, i'd imagine there are easier ways to hook up with an aussie!


Still no idea what i'm going to do, change my mind everyday:frown:
Isn't there any other job you can get that is more profitable in australia?

What degree are you thinking of doing? Would the money after your degree be good enough and strong enough for u to automatically get a job? Can't sheila come to england for a year and then transfer back?

There are just some options, dunno if they are workable or not
Reply 13
Ahh thats a bastard dude, dunno what I'd do if I were you, I hope whatever you decide to do works though, good luck.
Reply 14
Even if she can envisage living in England for 3 years, why dont you suggest she transfers for one year (maybe as study abroad if her uni are flexible?) and then play it by ear...

It will buy you two time as a couple and even should the relationship break down sometime in the future shes not exactly hard done by because shel have a year living abroad out of it. Its not like shel have sacrificed everything
bobthebluenose



I said it would be short, i lied.
Thoughts?!:confused:




My only thoughts are how on earth you managed to pull an austrailian girl actually called sheila.
El Scotto

My only thoughts are how on earth you managed to pull an austrailian girl actually called sheila.



My only thoughts are you clearly can't read!
I've decided after much deliberation i am going to go back to England and get a degree, we both agree it's going to be a benefit to me in the long run.

Only thing is i can't stand to make her sad by leaving :frown: