Caught a guy looking up my skirt... Girls, what would you do? :\ Watch

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I've used this forum for a while but always been a browser, never a contributor. But now I have my own problem - I caught a guy at university looking up my skirt this morning as I was sat down. Then, when I was walking along the corridor he had some sort of mirror in his hands and he was very close behind me, then as I went up the stairs he then deliberately slowed down and loitered at the bottom of the stairs, continuing to look up every few seconds to look right up my skirt. It wasn't innocent, I knew exactly what he was doing. He had his phone in his hand as well as I was going up the stairs, which made me feel more uneasy like he could have been trying to take a picture up my skirt. Obviously I held my skirt down and kept to the far right, but it's a flowy skirt that comes just above the knees and I'm not sure what he was doing so close behind me or what he seen when I was sat down. Sorry for the essay but I've never had this before and it's kind of weird. Girls what would you honestly do? I don't want to go to the police because that's over the top in my opinion and I don't like causing a scene and I'd feel bad. Is that the right frame of mind? I don't know him but I've seen him around. He's unknown to me, but not a random stranger if that makes sense. Guys, I can appreciate you being very interested in this but as you don't wear skirts and probably have a completely different attitude towards things like this, I'd prefer advice from females. Thank you
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I know you want advice from some girls but, as a guy, calling him a creep in front of people and telling him that what he did was not okay would be the dressing down I think that sort of thing deserves.

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Guys, I can appreciate you being very interested in this but as you don't wear skirts and probably have a completely different attitude towards things like this, I'd prefer advice from females. Thank you
You've obviously never been to Scotland :teehee:
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You've obviously never been to Scotland :teehee:
Yeah, OP if you think having some creep follow you with a mirror is bad (I think it's pretty high on the creep scale) then try to walk down a street in a kilt without some horny middle aged women telling you to lift it up.

edit- who on earth neg repped the OP? :/
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Shout "DIRTY MAN", "DIRTY MAN", "DIRTY MAN", whilst getting progressively louder, pointing at him and following him as he tries to escape
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This happened to me at the train station before. I also had the train conductor look at my chest rather than my ticket once.

I just ignored it. It's not like I could change it or anything.
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That's horrible, I hope you're okay.
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Call him out and say something along the lines of 'wtf are you doing you vile pervert'. Because that's exactly what he is, a slimy perv. I'd feel repulsed if that was me, and the thought that he is able to get away with his behaviour is awful


Tell your friends about him and next time you see him tell him outright.

Saying that, it's easier said than done. So many women are harassed on public transport for example, and they don't say anything. Because it makes you feel so uncomfortable and creeped out.
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I'd say very loudly in a crowded space "excuse me sir, are you looking up my skirt?!" Or if you're the more sarcastic type perhaps ask if he has a good enough view. Confronted in public will shame him away from you at least.


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This happened to me at the train station before. I also had the train conductor look at my chest rather than my ticket once.

I just ignored it. It's not like I could change it or anything.
You can change it - just point out how ridiculous their behaviour is!
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(Original post by rebecca322)
I've used this forum for a while but always been a browser, never a contributor. But now I have my own problem - I caught a guy at university looking up my skirt this morning as I was sat down. Then, when I was walking along the corridor he had some sort of mirror in his hands and he was very close behind me, then as I went up the stairs he then deliberately slowed down and loitered at the bottom of the stairs, continuing to look up every few seconds to look right up my skirt. It wasn't innocent, I knew exactly what he was doing. He had his phone in his hand as well as I was going up the stairs, which made me feel more uneasy like he could have been trying to take a picture up my skirt. Obviously I held my skirt down and kept to the far right, but it's a flowy skirt that comes just above the knees and I'm not sure what he was doing so close behind me or what he seen when I was sat down. Sorry for the essay but I've never had this before and it's kind of weird. Girls what would you honestly do? I don't want to go to the police because that's over the top in my opinion and I don't like causing a scene and I'd feel bad. Is that the right frame of mind? I don't know him but I've seen him around. He's unknown to me, but not a random stranger if that makes sense. Guys, I can appreciate you being very interested in this but as you don't wear skirts and probably have a completely different attitude towards things like this, I'd prefer advice from females. Thank you
You have two solutions:

1) Wear more modest clothing which doesn't reveal certain parts of your body when you're standing/sitting

2) Keep wearing a skirt like this, but accept you will get looked at by creepy/ugly guys

Most girls pick 2) because they want to get looked at by hot guys and they like to compete with other girls.
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(Original post by Bassetts)
You have two solutions:

1) Wear more modest clothing which doesn't reveal certain parts of your body when you're standing/sitting

2) Keep wearing a skirt like this, but accept you will get looked at by creepy/ugly guys

Most girls pick 2) because they want to get looked at by hot guys and they like to compete with other girls.
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I'd yell out pervert and make sure he got discovered, make sure everyone knows what he's doing
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If he was just looking I would have probably ignored it and walked away really fast. If like you said he had a mirror and his phone out maybe taking a picture then I would have turned around and confronted him. That's really creepy :eek:
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(Original post by Bassetts)
You have two solutions:

1) Wear more modest clothing which doesn't reveal certain parts of your body when you're standing/sitting

2) Keep wearing a skirt like this, but accept you will get looked at by creepy/ugly guys

Most girls pick 2) because they want to get looked at by hot guys and they like to compete with other girls.

I would agree with this...


Or you could tell him that there are websites for guys that like that kind of thing
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(Original post by Bassetts)
You have two solutions:

1) Wear more modest clothing which doesn't reveal certain parts of your body when you're standing/sitting

2) Keep wearing a skirt like this, but accept you will get looked at by creepy/ugly guys
Misses the point because:

1. She shouldn't have to accept someone's looking up her skirt with a mirror (and you know you'd be unhappy if you caught someone doing that to your partner).

2. She asks what she should do in this event. "Cover up" isn't an answer, except from the taliban.
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I think you should complain to the university. If you suspect he might have been taking photographs then that really crosses a line and likely as not you're not the first to experience his harassment (which is what it is). Even if nothing comes of it immediately, it could help another woman who comes forward and there's a complaint on record.

To people who suggest that you are in some way to blame for wearing a skirt (or at least could have avoided it), I really don't think we should be forced to change our behaviour by creeps. I would also invite them to reflect whether they would defend someone photographing up the dress of their mother, sister, or girlfriend.
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(Original post by cambio wechsel)
Misses the point because:

1. She shouldn't have to accept someone's looking up her skirt with a mirror (and you know you'd be unhappy if you caught someone doing that to your partner).

2. She asks what she should do in this event. "Cover up" isn't an answer, except from the taliban.
Exactly.

OP, you should publicly humiliate him. Will make him think twice next time.
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I would agree with this...
if a girl is wearing a skirt which shows her legs, I consider that I have licence to look at her legs. That's what she has put out there. I've never seen it as warrant to use a mirror to peek at her panties, which is what the OP is here complaining at.

Possibly I'm old-fashioned, mind. Certainly I don't want girls to think that this is the newly struck deal on it, because then I'll be denied the legs since some tool has poisoned the well.
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(Original post by cambio wechsel)
Misses the point because:

1. She shouldn't have to accept someone's looking up her skirt with a mirror (and you know you'd be unhappy if you caught someone doing that to your partner).

2. She asks what she should do in this event. "Cover up" isn't an answer, except from the taliban.
1. Agree, but it's a platitude imo. People shouldn't have to deal with lots of things but they do, so saying that they shouldn't have to change themselves does little to resolve the problem.

2. It is an answer, even if it's not the answer that you want to accept in particular. If you disagree then couldn't you add what you would have her do to show why doing nothing is the wrong thing.

I think a good idea might be to let someone from the university know that this is going on- perhaps they can have something done that is less public than you having to talk/shout to this creep.
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You can change it - just point out how ridiculous their behaviour is!
What are you, a feminist?

Go back to the 1940s. :rolleyes:
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