Big problem, with ex and boyfriend.

Ok, the thing here is i have always had a good relationships with all my exes after breakups, mainly cos most of my breakups were through mutual agreement and i'm just not very good at hating people. I've just begun trying to be friend with my most recent ex and he wants to be friends with me too, although we split up on good terms it was a comparatively dramatic breakup and its been 7 months so i thought it would be ok we've had time to get over each other and all that. But just recntly as we've been meeting up a bit, he seems to still have feelings for me and not moved on and although i have and new boyfreidn who is really fantastic, i occasionally find my old feelings for me ex re-emerging as if i hadn't lost them at all they had just been dormant. I really love my boyfriend he is a great guy and i would hate to lose my senses and cheat on him or something. I know my general personality can seem really quite flirtatious at times but thats' just me and my ex should really know that but there is always the fear that he might take it the wrong way. I really do wanna try and be friends with my ex but i'm just so scared that mine or his feelings might get the better of us and we'll do something we will both regret. Should i give up on trying to be friends with my ex or should i keep up the friendship but watch myself and be extra careful around him to prevent anything happening?

Reply 1

Wonderboy Blue

Why meet up with him in the first place?

Does your boyfriend know you've been meeting up with him?

Reply 2

planes12

They meet up because they are friends i think, anyway i would say to just be friends with your ex and wait to see if you have alot in common with your cusrrent boyfriend.

As paul denan said on celeb love island, you have to be with someone a year just to see if you are right for each other :smile:

Reply 3

hippieglitter

Wonderboy Blue

Why meet up with him in the first place?

Does your boyfriend know you've been meeting up with him?

Yes, my boyfriend does know. He doesn't quite understand why i would want to be friends with my ex (he hates his ex with a passion) but he's not gonna stop me doing what i want, he's not the type to give ultimatums. He trusts me.

Reply 4

Wonderboy Blue

I don't understand it either because you obviously fancy each other...

You should try to control your urges, or make it clear to your ex that nothing will happen. OR dump current beau.