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    Ever since it was confirmed that I would be starting university, my parents have been obsessing over the loan + grant money that I would be getting (the full amount). They even tried to tell me to send them £700 out of the 1st instalment in order for them to 'look after it', giving the excuse that I would spend it all even though they know that I'm responsible. I didn't send it so they got angry at me, started insulting me over the phone and demanded that I give them back all the money they lent me immediately, instead of at the end of the year. So I ended up not having enough to last till the next instalment.

    Luckily, I was accepted for the NSP so will get £1000 and managed to get a temporary Christmas job, but they got a letter about the NSP, so now they're even more angry at me for not telling them about it. I'm really worried about what will happen when I go home for Christmas or if they come to visit me. They're probably gonna demand that I give them the money. If it's my Dad, he'll probably get violent since he's got a bad temper...I really don't know what to do to try and sort the situation out.
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    Refuse. What they're doing is blackmail.
    Is there any way you could stay where you are over christmas while they're being like this?
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    dont stay with them at Xmas. any friends or family you could stay with? if they carry on, go to the police.

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    It's money for you for uni and not for them to spend. If they continue, don't see them over Christmas, particularly if you're worried about your safety. Maybe speak to your university about staying there over the Christmas period if your lease doesnt cover that and explain the circumstances?

    To threaten you over this is totally not okay and as others have mentioned it may be worth contacting the police or other family members to talk to them about their behaviour?


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    OP probably lived a sheltered existence all her life, where she got anything she asked for and everything was paid for her.

    Now she is a fully grown adult and has left home, she is finally coming to terms with the importance of money, how to manage your money and how much things in the real world actually cost.
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    Why did they get a letter about NSP?
 
 
 
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