How to avoid crying at a funeral??

Forget about pride, and how other people see you. It's your grandma your mourning, it's the final salute to her life.

I would advise you to pay attention to the service rather than watching it at home on your phone.

My grandfather passed in June 2012. That was the last time I have cried, and the first time I cried for years. I went to a small room, saw my brother and we both just poured tears for 15 minutes. Before that and after that for hours we were fine.

Try to keep it in, that's understandable but if you can't control it just go to the bathroom for a few minutes.

Forget about pride, and how other people see you. It's your grandma your mourning, it's the final salute to her life.

Maybe think about how unhappy your grandmother would be if she saw you crying? Think about how this is the last time you're seeing her and you want to send her off with your beautiful face rather than a sobbing face....... There is actually very little you can do because often the tears are uncontrollable and even if they come out the other 99% of people there will be doing the same so its nothing to be ashamed of.

yeh Im considering not going or I'l just go out if theres nothing I can do about it. Thats why I need some advice even if it means taking drugs or something daft.

What exactly is wrong with crying? Who are you trying to prove your hardness to? At a funeral? Really? I would say you didn't care about your grandmother enough.

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I bite my tongue really hard when I'm trying not to cry.


That tactic has got me through funerals and psychiatrist appointments.

Im not trying to prove hardness its for personal reasons. Maybe I dont care about her enough thats my business though. Im simply looking for suggestions on how not to cry any other comments/posts are useless to me and are just annoying.

Speaking from experience you will regret not going. It will almost certainly have a bathroom or somewhere private. Sit at the back and sneak out if you feel yourself welling up


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ok yea will do this, last time though I tried sitting at the back and family made me go to the front, I'l just have to be stubborn. :/

cheers, I'l practice this lol. Im wondering if chewing gum will help much too but doubt it.

What exactly is wrong with crying? Who are you trying to prove your hardness to? At a funeral? Really? I would say you didn't care about your grandmother enough.

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What an absolutely HORRIBLE thing to say! The OP's grandmother has died and not wanting to cry at a funeral doesn't mean that they didn't care enough about that person enough to cry! Honestly, I am appalled that you would say that. Ashamed to read it.