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Turning into a ghost

I have never had a problem with the color in my cheeks...my passport photos usually proved that but since I have come home the fighting between my mother I think is taking its toll on me. The dark circles (which I have always had) around my eyes are worse than usual and practically all the color in my face in gone and I am practically chalk white.

Also, despite mantaining my hair as I normally do....its become rather lifeless and ewwwwish in the past few days. I am also losing sleep over my mum and our fighting and I really don't feel well.

I don't want to blame my mum but there is nothing else to explain it but I am looking for a job and at the moment I think the only job I am suitable for in cooking and cleaning for St Peter (not in a sucidial meaning but in the sense I look like a ghost)

I really can't stop our fighting...I have tried but she is being a right royal ***** and apart from moving out I have no solution and I have nowhere to go. and I really need a job.

Help.
AMG in trouble? :frown:

Wish I could help. In the meantime have a hug. :hugs:
thefish_uk
AMG in trouble? :frown:

Wish I could help. In the meantime have a hug. :hugs:

hmmm a hug

Yeah in trouble is the right (expect I am not up the duff) but its the usually problem which I have mentioned in this fourm but it is now 100000000000000000000x worse
eat loads of fruit and vegetables and plenty of water. you're probably suffering from lack of nutrients as well as stress. sleep early and get plenty of it.

or drink lots and lots of sunny d. apparently one kid did that and he turned orange.
dementedbunny
eat loads of fruit and vegetables and plenty of water. you're probably suffering from lack of nutrients as well as stress. sleep early and get plenty of it.

or drink lots and lots of sunny d. apparently one kid did that and he turned orange.

lol @ sunny d

I have been trying to avoid my mother where possible - I spent all morning working on my book - that is what I'd like to do with my summer finish my book but finances won't allow me to that.

I had a good night's sleep (9 hours) and I feel slighty better but argh my mother.
Depression makes your external appearance ALOT worse, So just avoid extra stress.
a_musical_gal
lol @ sunny d

I have been trying to avoid my mother where possible - I spent all morning working on my book - that is what I'd like to do with my summer finish my book but finances won't allow me to that.

I had a good night's sleep (9 hours) and I feel slighty better but argh my mother.

You're writing a book??

Cool!
thefish_uk
You're writing a book??

Cool!

I always wanted to be an author but I abandoned that dream because I thought I could never do it with my bad spelling etc. Now I have discovered I am dylexic, I have a new hope in that area and I am writing a small book while at university.

I can't decide between composing or writing as a career now. That is the downside of finding out I am dylexic...my old dream collides with a new dream and both are so interesting to me.
Reply 8
Sorry, I cant help but giggle at the ironic mispelling of dsylexic.

But best of luck with the book :biggrin:
Reply 9
darryladie
Sorry, I cant help but giggle at the ironic mispelling of dsylexic.

But best of luck with the book :biggrin:


does that mean i can also laugh at you spelling dyslexic wrong too? :P
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subterfuge
does that mean i can also laugh at you spelling dyslexic wrong too? :P


Ha ha, well spotted.

OP - you need to get out if this fighting with your mum is affecting your health. Can't you stay with friends / relatives for a bit?
i'd probably recommend some time away from home, but finances might not allow that.
Something i thought i might do for a week if i dont get a job is go away to help on a childrens camp. It's usually a voluntary thing that you dont get paid for, but you do get free accomodation and food.
1013
Ha ha, well spotted.

OP - you need to get out if this fighting with your mum is affecting your health. Can't you stay with friends / relatives for a bit?

Nope. I can't.

The only family I have is my grandparents on my mum's side and there have their own problems plus are very old (they had my mum late in life and she had me late in life too.)

The main reason despite the fact I have said otherwise for the fighting is that my mother believes I am using the family and don't want to be here because I applied for a job away for home and got it. She wanted me to return to the cinema I had been working at until before Uni but I didn't/don't. I wanted to come back but I wanted this job and now I won't be accepting it because of some undisclosed important information which makes me a little nervous about it.

My boyfriend, who I can't stay with either, is being rather understanding at present but I don't think he will be so understanding if this carries on.

TBH Our fighting has been happening in some form or other since before I can remember and I have gotten to the point where I don't want to fix it. I have a brilliant dad and grandparents but she just makes me want to kill her! She never supports my decisions - like when I decided Cardiff wasn't for me but Bangor was, we fought for months and months and I had to make Cardiff my first choice as a result. Then when I didn't get the grades for Cardiff - she decided I had just gone into my exams wrote my name and not done them just to spite her.

Now I am the user of the family because I wanted a better job for myself even though I wouldn't be living at home. And if I leave to save my sanity - I will be the ungrateful granddaughter despite caring about my grandparents so much.
are you a vegitarian? there maybe a small chance that you could be aenemic. i suggest you see a doctor about this
*Radioactive Phoenix*
are you a vegitarian? there maybe a small chance that you could be aenemic. i suggest you see a doctor about this

Me give up chicken??? :eek: :eek: :eek: :eek: lol no I am not a veggie.

I am actually looking a lot better now but I haven't kill my mother.
How long until you go back to uni? If it's not long then you can put up with it I would hope. I don't get on with my brother at the best of times but I am (we need a fingers crossed smily) going to uni this Sep so I'll be away. Is that it? Your going back to uni in September? I'm sure you can put up with your mother until then. I'll channel some of my coping energies into you coz I must have a lot to spare :smile:
This is getting impossible

A cheque arrived from my older Car insurance company which was a refund from when I moved to Uni (my policy went down loads) and since both my and my mum put equal amounts in, I figured the best thing to do with it would be to share it equally.

BUT NO

My mum is demanding the entire cheque (which I can't do because my New car insurance company wants money because I have moved back home to a more expensive area) and if I don't hand it over she is refusing to be the grantor on my accomadation next year and now she is also demanding £30 lodge p/w despite the fact we agreed that I wouldn't pay lodge until I found a job (which I am seriously trying to do.)

Honestly I could say that since its my car and the fact I paid for all my lessons, my tests and paid 6 monthly insurance payments (until she says she wanted to paid the rest in order to help me out during my first year of Uni) that the entire cheque belongs to me but I am willing to give her half because I know she paid some too.

What am I suppose to do with her? I have to put up with this until September!