Hi, this is definitely a first world problem, but I'd appreciate some advice. I know people don't like blocks of text, so I've summarised the situation - please ask if it needs clarifying.
Situation - Been part of a university society for three years. Now a fourth year student. - I was very heavily involved from my first week of university. It became my main social life, and I was president in my third year. - The committee has now changed over (as expected), and the new committee don't involve me in anything (as expected). I feel left out and have no control any more. - However, all my third year friends have left, and whilst I'm a member of a few other societies this is the only place I know a lot of people really well.
Advantages to leaving - I can clear my head of this nonsense and focus on studying. - I can go out and experience more of my university's social life (it's one of the Oxbridge universities, so well worth it). - There is not a lot left for me to do that's useful there - I'd just be drifting, trying to be involved again, and not being. - I'd have to leave next year anyway.
Advantages to staying - It's my main social life, and I can't study all the time. - I really don't want to leave. - We go on great trips over the holidays. - I have lots of friends and acquaintances there. I'm unlikely to make more with only one year left. - I may as well reap the benefits of being an ex-president who doesn't have work to do any more.
Should I leave or stay? Does anyone else have experience of being an ex-president of a society, still in the society?
Why did this need to be anonymous ??? If it's your main social event then you should stay, then you still have the trips etc as things to possibly mention on your cv and in a reference, rather than a years gap.
Why did this need to be anonymous ??? If it's your main social event then you should stay, then you still have the trips etc as things to possibly mention on your cv and in a reference, rather than a years gap.
Thanks for the reply. It's anonymous because I'm aware the reactions might be like those above, and I'd be embarrassed if anyone I know saw it. However, it does matter to me.
If I say that and anyone I know comes across this they will know exactly who I am (I know at least five on TSR who are very likely to), and if it's as narcissistic as people think then I'd rather that didn't happen.
For that reason it's probably best to delete this thread (mods?), because I can't give enough details for people to be helpful, but thanks for replying anyway.
If I say that and anyone I know comes across this they will know exactly who I am (I know at least five on TSR who are very likely to), and if it's as narcissistic as people think then I'd rather that didn't happen.
For that reason it's probably best to delete this thread (mods?), because I can't give enough details for people to be helpful, but thanks for replying anyway.
can i try guess what kind of society it is like guess who but with societies
Should I leave or stay? Does anyone else have experience of being an ex-president of a society, still in the society?
Thanks.
If you left, you'd probably suffer some serious withdrawal symptoms! I don't think you should leave it. Can you step back and spend less time involved in it, and use the spare time to try out different societies or study more?
If you left, you'd probably suffer some serious withdrawal symptoms! I don't think you should leave it. Can you step back and spend less time involved in it, and use the spare time to try out different societies or study more?
Ha ha, thanks! Don't worry, I'm not obsessive, but I do want to stay.
I think that's what I'm going to do - step back a bit, and try other things. I'm glad I made this thread though, because the last thing I want to do is take it too seriously.
Ha ha, thanks! Don't worry, I'm not obsessive, but I do want to stay.
I think that's what I'm going to do - step back a bit, and try other things. I'm glad I made this thread though, because the last thing I want to do is take it too seriously.
You're not coming across as obsessive at all, it's probably a situation that many find themselves in for uni societies, clubs, online communities () and more. I know a guy who's been uni 5 or so years just to stay in a debating society.
Putting on my moderator hat...
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