I NEED to talk to her, but I don't even know her name.

Okay I'm sure many people will have encountered this problem in the past, but I know for a fact 99% of people do not do anything about it (Sober).

I'm currently in my final year of university, I'm not the most confident person at communicating with people I'll be honest. But there is this girl who I see in the same building as me at university, she isn't in any of my classes, I don't know her name, I have no idea if she is single and I have absolutely no mutual friends with her. But I need to talk to her...

I hang around with my uni mates, and I really don't want to do this while they're around because they'd make it difficult for me, and it'd be a ton of added pressure. The times I have seen her, she's been with a friend too, and I don't know her lecture times or anything on her timetable, to be able to intentionally catch her when she's alone...

And also, just to clarify, I have never done anything like this before, for me to talk to a new person completely randomly is foreign to me. So I was hoping you guys could maybe offer some advice?
- What do I say exactly?
- How do I even approach her?
- When do I approach her?
- How do I end the conversation with her?

Also, anything else that I've missed, that I you think I should take into consideration before doing this, please let me know...

Thanks in advance guys.

Okay I'm sure many people will have encountered this problem in the past, but I know for a fact 99% of people do not do anything about it (Sober).

I'm currently in my final year of university, I'm not the most confident person at communicating with people I'll be honest. But there is this girl who I see in the same building as me at university, she isn't in any of my classes, I don't know her name, I have no idea if she is single and I have absolutely no mutual friends with her. But I need to talk to her...

I hang around with my uni mates, and I really don't want to do this while they're around because they'd make it difficult for me, and it'd be a ton of added pressure. The times I have seen her, she's been with a friend too, and I don't know her lecture times or anything on her timetable, to be able to intentionally catch her when she's alone...

And also, just to clarify, I have never done anything like this before, for me to talk to a new person completely randomly is foreign to me. So I was hoping you guys could maybe offer some advice?
- What do I say exactly?
- How do I even approach her?
- When do I approach her?
- How do I end the conversation with her?
- If I find out that she's got a boyfriend or isn't interested in me, what do I do/say then?

Also, anything else that I've missed, that I you think I should take into consideration before doing this, please let me know...

Thanks in advance guys.

How do you approach her?
Approach her in a dark alley.

What do you say exactly?
You remind me of my mother.

When do you approach her?
At night.

How do you end the conversation with her?
Bitch get in the van.

Tbh, you should say a really weird cheesy pick up line because girls actually find that cute. Like not a one what directs to her appearance but something cheesy ok, I can see this turning into a love story and then a movie uekalsbanaka


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Unless she has an IQ of 85>, this is utter crap. Most will get creeped out by a cheesy pick-up line.


OP, I'd just approach her and say 'Hey, just wondering what subject you study? I've seen you in this building a few times but you don't seem to be in any of my classes?'. That's a non-creepy start. She'll probably say something like 'Psychology.' then you can say 'Oh really? Cool, that's interesting. I study Maths. I'm Harry by the way.' and if she has decent social skills, she'll say 'Hi Harry, my name is Becky.' then you can say 'Nice to meet you Becky. Anyway, hope to see you around soon!' and that's it.

Next time you see her, ask her her work load is going. Tell her you've got a lot on, how you can't believe you're in your third year already. If she tells you she has a lecture, why not suggest continuing the conversation after it, if she has time.

Et voilá, you've a good foundation for a friendship which could potentially expand.

^'friendship'??

He wants to avoid the 'friendzone' I'm sure.

I was nervous about approaching girls but I think about it like this : In this world full of billions of people some act of fate has brought us together, so i've got to know you now because we may never meet again.I'd rather not look back on my life full of regret wander 'what if' I'd done this or that, if she rejects me ok I tried, but there is always the possibility that she won't.

After thinking this my legs go into auto pilot and before I know it I'm introducing myself, because no part of me can I fault the above logic. She doesn't know you, you don't know her,anything could happen

I was nervous about approaching girls but I think about it like this : In this world full of billions of people some act of fate has brought us together, so i've got to know you now because we may never meet again.I'd rather not look back on my life full of regret wander 'what if' I'd done this or that, if she rejects me ok I tried, but there is always the possibility that she won't.

After thinking this my legs go into auto pilot and before I know it I'm introducing myself, because no part of me can I fault the above logic. She doesn't know you, you don't know her,anything could happen

Okay I'm sure many people will have encountered this problem in the past, but I know for a fact 99% of people do not do anything about it (Sober).

I'm currently in my final year of university, I'm not the most confident person at communicating with people I'll be honest. But there is this girl who I see in the same building as me at university, she isn't in any of my classes, I don't know her name, I have no idea if she is single and I have absolutely no mutual friends with her. But I need to talk to her...

I hang around with my uni mates, and I really don't want to do this while they're around because they'd make it difficult for me, and it'd be a ton of added pressure. The times I have seen her, she's been with a friend too, and I don't know her lecture times or anything on her timetable, to be able to intentionally catch her when she's alone...

And also, just to clarify, I have never done anything like this before, for me to talk to a new person completely randomly is foreign to me. So I was hoping you guys could maybe offer some advice?
- What do I say exactly?
- How do I even approach her?
- When do I approach her?
- How do I end the conversation with her?
- If I find out that she's got a boyfriend or isn't interested in me, what do I do/say then?

Also, anything else that I've missed, that I you think I should take into consideration before doing this, please let me know...

Thanks in advance guys.

There isn't really a natural opener, sadly that's our society. I'd say best move is just be totally direct, walk up to her and say "hi, would you like to go for a drink with me?". It might work, it's so confident.

Unless she has an IQ of 85>, this is utter crap. Most will get creeped out by a cheesy pick-up line.


OP, I'd just approach her and say 'Hey, just wondering what subject you study? I've seen you in this building a few times but you don't seem to be in any of my classes?'. That's a non-creepy start. She'll probably say something like 'Psychology.' then you can say 'Oh really? Cool, that's interesting. I study Maths. I'm Harry by the way.' and if she has decent social skills, she'll say 'Hi Harry, my name is Becky.' then you can say 'Nice to meet you Becky. Anyway, hope to see you around soon!' and that's it.

Next time you see her, ask her her work load is going. Tell her you've got a lot on, how you can't believe you're in your third year already. If she tells you she has a lecture, why not suggest continuing the conversation after it, if she has time.

Et voilá, you've a good foundation for a friendship which could potentially expand.