Depending on parents

i'm really looking forward to being away from my parents even though i get on with them and enjoy living at home so i would say for me it has come naturally.

All you independant people do you find it hard to leave your parents but force yourself to or does it just come naturally?

Thanks

Well done Wish I was like that I would say its down to the childs personality come to think of it but still thats no excuse. I think its caused by parents getting on too well with there children and acting as friends rather than parents. I don't know suppose its hard to tell

Indeed, ideally, parents should be their children's best friends and be able to share anything with each other. Unfortunately though, especially so in today's times, this is relatively rare occurrence and one that must be absolutely treasured.

I do admit that I've been leading a very sheltered life myself thus far and depended alot on my parents, but that's exactly why I'll be going overseas for my university education. It would certainly at least expose me to other aspects of life where I would have to carry the burden/responsibility myself instead of relying on another person, and fend for myself when in times of need. It's already a positive step if you can realise that you're leading a sheltered life - that, in my opinion, already takes some maturity.

Very much like how half the mental battle is already won when you don your sports attire and head for the jogging track, even before the run begins.

Of course, some may claim that this is just an attempt to console oneself into believing that you've already achieved progress in the area (when you've actuall not), but I'd like to think otherwise.

It came naturally for me, i wanted to come to uni as i like experiencing new things, living by myself being one of them.

This reminds, today i was speaking to an old woman as i was waiting for the bus and she was telling me about her daughter who was nearly fourty and she apparently had agraphobia (or something) and so didn't come out of her house for 14 years, never went on a "date", her mom who was over 80 was like her only friend and her daughter was really self-conscious. it got me thinking.

Perhaps some of those people have the same disorder

Oh damn, I have anxiety its the reason I quit uni, honestly but Ive been telling myself and everyone it was the subject that wasn't right. I really don't wanna end up like them!!! Im going to see someone but what if it doesn't help ??

are you seeing a counsellor or therapist? you have many options. see someone more professional if this one doesn't help. sometimes it can cost a bit but imo is well worth it.

there is no point in going in with an attitude that says "what if this doesn't help". you should be taking yourself in saying "this will help and if it doesn't i will try another way".

my friend says that a therapist does less of the work and the patient (client) does more of the work. the therapist is a guide who forces you to open up and address your issues and will give you many techniques to dissipate your issues but it is YOU who has to do all the hard work. and he says therapy carries on long after you stop seeing a therapist, it carries on until the day you let your issues come back. it is all under your control. this, however, does not mean to say there is something wrong with you or you are a failure if your anxiety ever comes back!! and if the person you see cannot help then it also doesn't mean that it was your fault, it could be that they just weren't good enough.

hmmm yeah perhaps. in those circumstances i guess it makes it slightly better but the parents should be encouraging their children to seek help if they have such a problem rather than letting them waste their lives.