Would you abort your baby if your found out they were disabled?

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Original post by Tyrion_Lannister

No, not unless the baby was going to die or be severely disabled it would live in pain. I don't believe I have the right to say someone's life is worth less because it is disabled.

It is not about worth. It is about them being able to enjoy life with minimum suffering and maximum happiness.

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madders94

I'm 13 weeks pregnant and thankfully my scan last week seemed fine, but if I was now to be told that my baby almost certainly had downs syndrome, I wouldn't be able to go through with abortion unless I knew it would have a lifetime of pain and no quality of life. I've become so attached to this baby, I'm almost certain I couldn't have an abortion.

Reply 22

Juichiro

Original post by Hellz_Bellz!

It would depend on the severity of the disability.

But I definitely would not want to get pregnant with someone dead against abortion...

Maybe he would get you pregnant without you realising? :tongue:

Reply 23

Airfairy

Original post by OMGWTFBBQ

I think you and your boyfriend should have a serious talk about your fundamentally opposed views on abortion before you start/continue having sex.

I know it's pretty bad. I guess I'm just scared to talk about it... I wouldn't want an abortion if the baby was healthy, even though it would be a shock. But yeah the clash of views on the disabled issue worries me. I didn't realise how common down's was! I thought it was extremely rare, but 1 in 1000 chance (under 35, rises to 1 in 400 then) is actually quite a lot, even though it doesn't sound it.

Reply 24

limetang

For Downs Syndrome? No I would not. The question is simple, would you rather EXIST and have a disability, or would you rather not to ever have existed, because that's the question we're asking. And while this is not a question I can answer in a truly informed way (due to my not having Downs Syndrome), I would rather exist and have it than not exist at all.

Reply 25

Jjj90

Original post by madders94

Yeah, I'm not sure that anyone can really say what we would do until it happens.

Reply 26

FranklinSupit

what's the difference between abortion and killing? i think everyone has the right to live.

Reply 27

Portia1993

Yep. Sounds harsh but my mum didn't know I'd have so many problems and now she thinks it was wrong of her to bring me into the world
That being said she loves me dearly and is so proud of me
But yeah, I've been told if people pass on the conditions I have they only get worse with each generation... So I'd be setting the kid up for a horrid life!

Reply 28

sarahbeniston

At this stage in my life, I 100% would. I wouldn't be able to care for any baby, especially not one with DS. I think my opinion could change when I'm an adult, but it depends. Will the baby have a good life? How will this effect me and my partner emotionally? Hard decision.

Reply 29

donutaud15

no. Having losg one baby I don't think I can do it again. If the doctors tells us the baby would be alive then I think he or she should have the chance to be born.

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Reply 30

ADAOBI123

No. I won't be able to live if i abort a baby. :frown:

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Reply 31

Pallas Athena

No, I would not but then again I may think: is it fair for me to allow the baby to continue living, knowing the all the suffering the child would go through? It would be a very tough decision to make.

Reply 32

pane123

Definitely. I wouldn't even have to spend 1 second thinking about it.

My decision would almost entirely be based on the negative impact having a disabled child would have on my life. I would probably tell people it was because I didn't want the child to suffer, though.

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Reply 33

flugelr

It would depend on how disabled, but I'd lean towards abortion.

I have a severely disabled cousin. He is 19 and is unable to walk, talk, feed himself, go to the toilet, recognise family members who live with him etc. He must have had tens, if not hundreds, of thousands of pounds spent on his education, even though he was never going to progress in terms of his physical or mental abilities. In addition, my aunt now is on a daily mix of pain relief as she has knackered her back moving him around. If my cousin had been born 100 years ago he would probably have died within a few months.

As cold and harsh as it sounds, I just don't see the point of spending what must amount to hundreds of thousands of pounds on someone so disabled. Surely the money could have been much better spent improving the local secondary school or something?

Reply 34

arkhamz

Yep, I'm not sure why you're surprised.

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Holby_fanatic

Yes I would. Especially at this point in my life. I don't think I would even think twice...

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Truefaith

No

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Reply 37

Bethany221

If I were the baby, I would never want a life like that... That's so miserable. So, yes... :frown:

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Reply 38

ChocoCoatedLemons

Depends on the disability. My brother has autism (middle spectrum) and I would never want to look after a child who wouldn't be able to have a normal life. I think it's simply cruel to deliberately give birth to a child who will suffer.

Reply 39

nexttime

Original post by limetang

Which leads to the logical conclusion that you must have as many babies as physically possible, breeding continuously from puberty to menopause, to maximise the 'existance' of all of your potential children. As presumably they would prefer to exist too.

For most people, its a choice between having a DS baby now or a non-DS baby later.