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Ok...recently I've been e-mailing this guy from my church, we're on several comittees together and are just sort of chatting to each other via e-mails (think we're on the 5 e-mail- 6 good paragraphs- not like one line conversation styelee!) however....I'm 18 (tho many say 'mature' for my age) I think he's about 31/32...is that toooo old?

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No!

Age is really the last thing to think of here IMO. What exactly is your relationship with this guy?
Anway, you're 18, being adult makes less of a problem if you're going for a sexual relationship or anything like that but still, how well do you know him?
Better question, do you trust him?
That's the most important thing.

(Sorry this is so incoherent, just hope I can help)

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Anonymous #1

I completely trust him, he's lovely- Christian, sincere, caring, but stands on his own two feet. Wouldn't want to hurt a fly.

At the moment I would say we are becoming close as friends...but its not without a little flirting as far as I'm reading it!

Reply 4

Wonderboy Blue

Church
Younger girl
Older guy...

Its just sick...unless he has good intentions...but exactly what do you guys talk about?

Christians make the most prolific serial killers.

Reply 5

Caribou

Wonderboy Blue

Church
Younger girl
Older guy...

Its just sick...unless he has good intentions...but exactly what do you guys talk about?

:dito: oh so true.

Reply 6

benisright

And Muslims make the most prolific terrorists...can you really say that here?

Reply 7

*Ridwan*

Well first of all make sure you see several pics of him - if he's genuine.

Also what do YOU want? Sexual/Flirtatious/Just friends?

Makes this clear to him ASAP or you might break his heart if he thought you had the hots for him

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

'sick' is not a word I would use to describe it at all!! We talk about loads of things, what do other people talk about? Work, life, school, church, things which come out of going to church (projects/charities/topical issues) theatre...

Reply 9

*Ridwan*

but what type of relationship do you desire?

Reply 10

Bubblebee

Hmmm, if you live in England get a magazine called 'Thats Life' I know it's for oldies and that but there is a story shockingly familiar to yours.... and I'm not going to give away the ending.

Please do?!!!

Yea bubblebee - Please do! :p:

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

rizzyh- I know this man- like I see him every week (at least once at church) why the need for pics? I'm confused?

Reply 14

Bubblebee

Hmm, I feel bad now cause it sounds like the op really likes this chap and he might not be. Older males in the Christian Church get alot of bad press.

Anyway suffice to say, this relationship ended badly. In a box.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

Thanks!

I do not belelive this bloke is dodgy in any way shape or form- if you must just ignore the church thing if it helps- its not an 'issue'

Reply 16

sticky-kitten

Go for it - theres only 1 Christian guy for every 4 Christian females in this country, if you find a nice one hang on to him!

Although tbh, 15 years is a bit much, especially when you're so young. And he might not be seeing it in the same way as you.

Reply 17

Candy_Shop

To be honest as a christian he should be a bit wary about it. Single guy moving in on a much younger/vulnerable girl. But you say, he's not creepy. Is it a sexual relationship? (forgive me for asking if pre-marital sex is not your thing, I would assume it's not but you never know).

Reply 18

*Ridwan*

Well if he’s an orthodox Christian & so are you - what’s stopping you?

Who cares what the world thinks! Age is just a number and not an excuse for not getting love in your life.

Also if you two do get together, take it easy & don’t rush into things.

Bless.

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