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I am 22 and I am aroused by what many would discern as fetishistic behaviour (not the illegal kind) and though I haven't really indulged myself in any of these things I feel really guilty because of it and scared if anyone would find out that I'm kinda of a freak and think I'm weird! I was wondering if there was any way of just dealing with them like just programming myself to avert from them as it would possibly impinge on any future relationships

Reply 1

ssmoose

13

get someone with similar fetishes?

Reply 2

horrorboy

Anonymous

I am 22 and I am aroused by what many would discern as fetishistic behaviour (not the illegal kind) and though I haven't really indulged myself in any of these things I feel really guilty because of it and scared if anyone would find out that I'm kinda of a freak and think I'm weird! I was wondering if there was any way of just dealing with them like just programming myself to avert from them as it would possibly impinge on any future relationships

What is it we will tell you if its weird, though none are abnormal really there are loads. Ive always had a thing for pretending im a kid being spanked :redface:

If thats not srange what the hell is!

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

well I come from a deeply religious orthodox background and a small community and my family would expect me to marry in the background and the guilt does get bad almost to a depressive stage

Reply 4

horrorboy

Anonymous

well I come from a deeply religious orthodox background and a small community and my family would expect me to marry in the background and the guilt does get bad almost to a depressive stage

Look you can't help what you like its natural, the fact that you have not acted out should expecially make you really proud there is certainly nothing to feel guilty about! Not that acting out would be wrong anyway in a lot of peoples eyes. Whatever it is you like its either natural or god made you like that.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

i know that is a valid point of view and many would tell me to accept who i am but a significant part me feels like a freak and that this is my fault as i exposed myself to a lot of porno since the age of 13/14 and not many people could be like this as they arent as perverted as me

Reply 6

blissy

15

Anonymous

i exposed myself to a lot of porno since the age of 13/14 and not many people could be like this as they arent as perverted as me

Perhaps you should have a period of not looking at any porn. A sort of "fasting" where you re-establish the worth of sex and 'normal' stimulation.

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

why was my post deleted, it's the truth.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

but i havent for a long time now, and as for the value of sex i raised it on a pedestal was in enough sexual relationships that meant nothing to me and now i vowed i wont have sex again till i know it means something

Reply 9

blissy

15

Anonymous

why was my post deleted, it's the truth.

This is not sex chat. We don't want you to just list your fetishes.

Reply 10

horrorboy

Anonymous

i know that is a valid point of view and many would tell me to accept who i am but a significant part me feels like a freak and that this is my fault as i exposed myself to a lot of porno since the age of 13/14 and not many people could be like this as they arent as perverted as me

At 13/14 you are figuring out who you are, like I said its natural. Anyway whatever you like it is out of your control, you have not caused it in anyway and you can't change the past so why should you put yourself through misery and feel guilty about it? It didn't harm anyone. Look at all the good things you have avoided or done to stick by your religion.
Btw what did you say briefy that was deleted I missed it? Shes gone off now I think you can always delete it yourself. Pm me if you want its probably not that bad anyway.

Reply 11

Lecter

12

Your not that randy rabbi in the sunday edition of news of the world, i happen to read the article.....randy man!

Reply 12

silverbolt

19

Anonymous

i know that is a valid point of view and many would tell me to accept who i am but a significant part me feels like a freak and that this is my fault as i exposed myself to a lot of porno since the age of 13/14 and not many people could be like this as they arent as perverted as me

your not perverted well not in any bad sense of the word anyway. Everyone has fetishes.
As for your religious background, that could go a long way to explaining your feelings of guilt toward your sexual side. Religion (well certain ones) suppress sex and pas it off as dirty and evil when its not, its a fun healthy thing to do.
as for the porn wouldnt worry bout it.

tell ya what pm me your fetishes and il tell you whether they really bad or not lol

Reply 13

batty_hatty

7

i wouldn't worry about fetishes, they are perfectly natural and if people don't have evn a slight touch of a fetish then i would say they are more on the 'wierd' side than you are.

Anonymous

I was wondering if there was any way of just dealing with them like just programming myself to avert from them as it would possibly impinge on any future relationships

as for the above comment, whatever your fetish is, if you have a partner who truly loves you then they will try to accomodate your fetish. even if they feel that they cannot fully condone it (it all depends upon the fetish itself) if they love you they will want to please you and make you happy so they will try and get along with your fetish. and you never know, they might have a fetish themselves which you would also have to deal with therefore just try to be open about these things. as long as you are honest and have no expectations then things will turn out well.

harriet

xxx

Reply 14

1013

1

There's nothing wrong with fetishes as long as they are not illegal or hurting anyone (without their consent). There's no reason you should try and 'program' yourself out of them. The only thing I would say is that you should never try and coerce a partner into doing something they don't want to do just to satisfy your urges. If you find someone who is up for it, or at least willing to try, then go for it!

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