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Me and my boyfriend communicate well with each other, but we just cant talk about sex. :confused:

I think he's getting tired off me in some ways.
How can I left him know that I want to sleep with him without sounding like a hooker or cliched or really embarassed?! :confused:

Do you think I should make a pass at him when we are alone like kissing and just grabbing his snake? :confused:

I just think he'll be so shocked as we just cant talk about it.
Would he want to have sex with me? I dont see why he would say no actually. :confused:

p.s. I bet this gets hundreds of views :wink:

Reply 1

G4ry

How old are you both? How long have you been together? Is he religious? There's not much information to go by to give useful advice at the moment.

Reply 2

SilverWings

grabbing his snake?? ^o)

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

oh sorry, i just feel like such a fool about everything at the mo.

we're both 17yr old virgins (18 next month).
been together 5/6 months.
he's not so religious that he would wait till marriage but he is a bit religious.

Reply 4

Calazviel

i think G4ry is on the right track there those are the important questions,

but don't think you will sound like a hooker if you want to raise the subject with him its perfectly natural and its perfectly understandable that it can be difficult to be the first to talk but it may make it much easier for him to if you do for all you know he could be thinking the same but more info would aid the responses

Reply 5

G4ry

More importantly, why do you think he's getting tired of you? Has he done things to make you feel that way? There's no point of sleeping with someone if there's doubts over the relationship. Could you not just talk about and ask his opinions on taking your relationship a bit further?

Reply 6

David Healy is God

He probably doesn't mention sex to you as he doesn't want to scare you off and feels that would be putting pressure on you to produce the goods.

Reply 7

stoney

David Healy is God

He probably doesn't mention sex to you as he doesn't want to scare you off and feels that would be putting pressure on you to produce the goods.

yeah this is a good point, I'll usually wait for most girls to initiate conversation of a sexual nature etc. in relationships because guys come under so much scrutiny over the whole sex issue. perhaps you should talk to your boyfriend about it, and see if he hasnt said anything for this reason. remember that if he doesnt want to sleep with you for other reasons it will be to do with his own insecurities/disslikes about sex not with you in any way (he wouldnt be with u if he didnt like u!)

Reply 8

squirrel_commander

just ask him "do you want to have sex?".

Reply 9

silverbolt

squirrel_commander

just ask him "do you want to have sex?".

goos idea

plus you wont sound like a hooker unless you "grab his snake" (shakes head) and ask for a twenty

Reply 10

Elusive Moose

If you can't talk to him about it, you probably shouldn't be doing it.

Have you done anything else sexual?

Reply 11

Glory

I find it incredably hard to discuss thing like that. With anyone really, not just my boyfriend. I just dont feel comfortable saying the words, i take the childish method of using innuendos' instead.

Reply 12

Elusive Moose

Maybe I'm just strange, but I always figured that the sign of being mature enough to have sex was being able to discuss it with your boyfriend first. I don't mean everything, but surely you should be able to tell him how you feel about it, and be able to talk about methods of contraception? I'd view it as quite a glaring sign of my not feeling comfortable enough to have sex with a boyfriend if I couldn't talk about it first. I don't mean that you have to discuss every minute detail, but the basics are quite fundamental IMO... But then, that may just be me...

Reply 13

TrentEnd

Am I the only one worried about this snake? I'm thinking of calling the RSPCA...

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

he probably wants to.... he just probably thinks that you don't want to. One of my mates went out with a girl for nearly a year and when they broke up i was chatting to his girlfriend and out of a convo i got - he never made a move so i thought he didnt want to but i was always interested!

so maybe its the other way around.

Just ask him if he wants to go upstairs to the bedroom as thats suttle and if you do that then once you have done it the first time, from then on you will be find about talking about it