I'm really worried about my mum. Earlier I was looking for a piece of paper to write some stuff on and I found a notepad on her bed. I didnt think anything of it, but when I opened it, there was loads of writing in it. I read a bit of it and it was like a diary she'd written, saying how she feels ugly and worthless, how her marriage is dead and how she doesnt feel like going out anywhere or doing anything new because she thinks she'd be rubbish at everything she tries. This made me upset and I know she wants to train as a hospital worker (like doing x rays or something) but shes always putting it off and now I know why. I stopped reading as I felt guilty but now I'm so worried about her.
It doesnt really come as a surprise coz over the years shes really changed. She doesnt have a job anymore, shes obsessed with housework, she doesnt take care of her appearance - she just cant be bothered, and all she seems to do is stay in all the time to look after my mentally disabled brother. I feel awful for her. My dad doesnt really talk to her as he works all day and is a bit cold to all of us, and if I'm honest, I'm the only one she has to talk to. I'll be leaving in September to go to uni and I want to make her life better before I go but I really dont know what to do.
Ive tried talking to her, and asking if shes depressed. I suggested going to the dr but she just said it was ridiculous and theres nothing wrong. I always try to invite her out and buy her presents but she never wants to go. She has a sister who just seems to put her down all the time (she makes fun of her coz she doesnt drive anymore, and always tries to rub in the fact that all her children are grown up and she doesnt have any responsibility), and she never offers to help her with my brother even though she knows it'd give my mum a bit of relief. My mum has no friends and most of her family are either out of contact or dead.
I hate knowing shes so unhappy, and I dont know what I can do. She just doesnt seem to want to change anything though. Does anyone have any advice as to what I can do to help sort her life out?