absence makes the heart go fonder???

I assume this is the right place seen as it concerns relationships. I just wondered if people believed this? Me and my boyfriend haven't really seen eachother much in the last couple of months due to me injuring myself and since then we have started arguing when we had never done before. So from my minimal experience I don't agree with it but I just wondered whether other people have had differing experiences??

Reply 1

Clarence

14

I think absence might in the case of a couple of weeks.

Reply 2

Ron Stoppable

14

If that doesn't work, drug him - absinthe makes the heart grow fonder, too.

Reply 3

hugatree

11

It doesn't.

Unless of course, your bf goes on holiday for a week and then he comes back and it's all perfect.

Reply 4

sheryl06

OP

1

Ron Stoppable

If that doesn't work, drug him - absinthe makes the heart grow fonder, too.

hmm

worth a thought lol

Reply 5

Laika

1

I'd say the opposite actually.

Spend enough time apart and you forget why you liked them in the first place.

Reply 6

blissy

15

Absence makes the heart grow fonder
Out of sight, out of mind
Familiarity breeds contempt

Ahh, pic'n'mix proverbs. I think a short absence when you've been ine ach other's pockets is a good thing (breathing space is necessary). But in general, being away from each other makes you question how much effort they're putting into communicating with you which can really destroy things.

Definately. :frown:

OP

It's annoying me because we haven't got much choice about not seeing eachother as much but I know its probs like I'm being paranoid or something but its like we haven't got as much to say to eachother at the mo :frown:

what a pile of poo!!

Reply 9

Clarence

14

Well if it has come to the point where you don't have anything to say to each other then theres no point in carrying on the relationship i'm afriad.

Reply 10

sheryl06

OP

1

Thats the thing I can quite easily make convo but sometimes he says he doesn't have anything to say. I'm soo confused because that obviously is going to make everyone think that he doesn't care but then again he is the more affectionate one out of us and when we are together its fine

Reply 11

DoMakeSayThink

15

This is going to sound rather strange, but I often have trouble keeping up a continous conversation when speaking to my girlfriend. But then again, I'm quite absent minded when it comes to conversation in general, and I seem to get distracted by tangents of what I'm thinking about saying, and then ending up saying nothing at all. I'm just weird, though :smile:

Reply 12

Sanity Panda

Clarence

Well if it has come to the point where you don't have anything to say to each other then theres no point in carrying on the relationship i'm afriad.

They should not continue the relationship anymore?

I'll only agree with that statement after they've actually tried to make things work but failed. Just because the communication breaks down a little inbetween them due to the absence doesn't mean its over for them.

Or am I the only one with this view?

Reply 13

PennyRoyalTea

10

Nay, out of sight, out of mind.

Reply 14

mal00

i think it depends from person to person. I know for me, absence does make the heart go fonder, because i start bringing bak memories, but for some "out of sight is out of mind"

nyway gud luk hope evrything works out!

Reply 15

tanusha-tomsk

18

it does make heart go fonder if you have been so long together and have forgotten what you love him for;
it doesn't make heart go fonder if you haven't been together that long because you'll forget what you loved him for.

Reply 16

socialist cook

8

I hope so, as from September I'm living in a completely different country from my boyfriend!

Reply 17

*titanium*

12

Why do you think that just because you argue it means you are not growing fonder. Sure arguments could mean resentment, but you have not seen each other in ages, it builds tennsion, that causes arguments, you should be happy that it troubles him that he has not seen you for a month.

absence makes the heart go fonder???

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