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I've done the right thing right??

Hi guys,

So I broke up with my boyfriend of 3.5 years yesterday because I found out he cheated on me (for the second time). I know that the next few weeks/months are going to be really hard and I need someone to tell me that I've done the right thing.

Basically even from day 1 he was messing me around and lying. He continued to lie about the tiniest (and big) things all the way through our relationship even though I've broken up with him over it several times. His lying and other behaviour caused me to go from a confident, happy girl to a shell. I was diagnosed with depression a few months ago - I can't even walk down the road with my head up anymore because I just feel so worthless and ugly. I've been on a waiting list to see a counsellor for 4 months and he knew this and knew how bad things were (even saw my marks from self harming) - he even spent some of his time helping to cheer me up and trying to make me feel better. But it turns out during all the time he's still been lying to me and a few days after the doctors offered me antidepressants he was out "accidentally" getting with another girl in a club.

The thing is - If I was constantly down and horrible to be around I'd get why he might stray but a lot of the time I'm completely fine around him because he made me happy. I was still laughing and messing around and being myself and we still had a good relationship. He talked about living together next year, we were about to pay for round the world flights to go travelling in March - I'm so confused as to why he would talk about all that if he just didn't care. I even told him that if my depression got too much he should leave because I didn't want to make him unhappy too.

I feel so heartbroken, it feels as though I was with a completely different person. He won't even bother to try and contact me as he never does when we have problems like this - I think he isn't really bothered if he loses me or not. But then other times he has been beyond lovely and seems SO caring ... he comes down to see me every weekend and he constantly calls me when I've been upset and he sits and listens for hours. But then he's this other guy who doesn't seem to give a f*** if I'm gone or not ... he even watched porn an hour after I had walked out crying and had broken up with him (we have/had a shared account).

I'm doing the right thing and I'm better off without this guy right?

Reply 1

mrhedgehog

Just move on, you will have to move on because he is making your life miserable. You will meet someone else in the future.

Reply 2

Spongebob'sPants

Yes.

Absolutely. Without a doubt. 120%.

He is making you miserable and that is not right.

You deserve someone who will care about you as much as you care about him.