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Quite quiet/shy and not looking forward to uni...
Ok, so I'm considered very 'quiet' generally, and only usually go out with smaller groups of people (10-15) instead of to big parties, and I don't really like drinking that much. Everything you hear about uni suggests that people are either completely mad party animals, or people who never seem to do anything.
I'm trying to do my accommodation application for uni, and I'm just having such a hard time deciding cos on one hand I don't want to be stuck with a load of loud people and get pushed into the background as I'm not really very loud, but on the other hand I might get more adventureous at uni and might not want to get stuck with a reputation of being quiet...
I'm not quiet *all* the time, when I'm with a group of close friends I ''come out of my shell'' a bit. But I'm just don't know what accommodation to apply for, as there's a choice of proper halls and smaller student houses, which seem to have a reputation of being quieter.
What would people advise? I'm really torn here!
ps. it's annoymous cos I don't want people going to the same uni pre-judging me as quiet before I even have a chance to prove otherwise
I'm trying to do my accommodation application for uni, and I'm just having such a hard time deciding cos on one hand I don't want to be stuck with a load of loud people and get pushed into the background as I'm not really very loud, but on the other hand I might get more adventureous at uni and might not want to get stuck with a reputation of being quiet...
I'm not quiet *all* the time, when I'm with a group of close friends I ''come out of my shell'' a bit. But I'm just don't know what accommodation to apply for, as there's a choice of proper halls and smaller student houses, which seem to have a reputation of being quieter.
What would people advise? I'm really torn here!
ps. it's annoymous cos I don't want people going to the same uni pre-judging me as quiet before I even have a chance to prove otherwise
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Ok, so I'm considered very 'quiet' generally, and only usually go out with smaller groups of people (10-15) instead of to big parties, and I don't really like drinking that much. Everything you hear about uni suggests that people are either completely mad party animals, or people who never seem to do anything.
I'm trying to do my accommodation application for uni, and I'm just having such a hard time deciding cos on one hand I don't want to be stuck with a load of loud people and get pushed into the background as I'm not really very loud, but on the other hand I might get more adventureous at uni and might not want to get stuck with a reputation of being quiet...
I'm not quiet *all* the time, when I'm with a group of close friends I ''come out of my shell'' a bit. But I'm just don't know what accommodation to apply for, as there's a choice of proper halls and smaller student houses, which seem to have a reputation of being quieter.
What would people advise? I'm really torn here!
ps. it's annoymous cos I don't want people going to the same uni pre-judging me as quiet before I even have a chance to prove otherwise
I'm trying to do my accommodation application for uni, and I'm just having such a hard time deciding cos on one hand I don't want to be stuck with a load of loud people and get pushed into the background as I'm not really very loud, but on the other hand I might get more adventureous at uni and might not want to get stuck with a reputation of being quiet...
I'm not quiet *all* the time, when I'm with a group of close friends I ''come out of my shell'' a bit. But I'm just don't know what accommodation to apply for, as there's a choice of proper halls and smaller student houses, which seem to have a reputation of being quieter.
What would people advise? I'm really torn here!
ps. it's annoymous cos I don't want people going to the same uni pre-judging me as quiet before I even have a chance to prove otherwise
Your exactly like me, I don't do the drinking partying thing but I am open minded about what uni has to offer. If I wasn't I would scare myself too death over it. Just make sure you try new things but also do what you have to do, you should never reject your morals.
I'd go for halls whoever you are, the more people there are around, the greater the chance of meeting people who you get on with.
oh my god i know exactly what you mean! i also have a reputation for being really quiet, and that makes it hard to be loud sometimes, cos its kind of expected of you. Remember that at uni people wont know that you are "quiet" so you can kind of reinvent yourself if you want. Also, even if you end up being quieter/louder than the people you live with, there will be poeple on your course you can make friends with too.
Id go halls just cause you will meet more people. The kind of saying, you will be fine once you get there applies here me reckons. May I ask what uni, if its a fairly small uni than that would probs be more ideal. Leeds was one of my six and although im not quiet with a student population that large I would feel like im non existent. Im generally a loud person round friends and ppl I know once ive been around for a while! But you will probs be fine and try not to worry about it because chances are you will become more quiet doing that!
orbelina
oh my god i know exactly what you mean! i also have a reputation for being really quiet, and that makes it hard to be loud sometimes, cos its kind of expected of you. Remember that at uni people wont know that you are "quiet" so you can kind of reinvent yourself if you want. Also, even if you end up being quieter/louder than the people you live with, there will be poeple on your course you can make friends with too.
Completely agree.
I'm quite shy, and one might even say insecure, but at Uni its going to be a fresh start (hopefully) and you can modify yourself. However, no one should feel that they have to conform to the stereotypes of University students. If your a quite person, then be quite, and take advantage of that. I'm sure you will be fine.
Thanks for the replies everyone! Having read them I think I will apply to proper halls.
Glory your reply was interesting, do you not feel/get left out of stuff for doing your own thing like that? I guess I just expect everything to be like school was, where if you did your own thing everyone just ignored you and you never got invited anywhere.
Glory your reply was interesting, do you not feel/get left out of stuff for doing your own thing like that? I guess I just expect everything to be like school was, where if you did your own thing everyone just ignored you and you never got invited anywhere.
All i would say is don't worry about it. Before going to university i was quite shy and quiet. I hardly went out because i only turned 18 in the august before going and even then i didn't drink. But going to university you can find likeminded people. i know plenty of people in halls or in classes that like a quiet drink or just hanging out rather than going insane. plus the fact that universities are geared up for communities - so if you wanna do something like a club or society, it's pretty easy to join one or start your own. my advice is try and get into halls, but if you don't it's not the end of the world. being in a private house or flat is fine as well, as long as you make sure you're not isolated from the other first years- i found that this year living in a house and it's not fun just doing nothing all year.lol.
beatnik~87
Your exactly like me, I don't do the drinking partying thing but I am open minded about what uni has to offer. If I wasn't I would scare myself too death over it. Just make sure you try new things but also do what you have to do, you should never reject your morals.
If you're quite shy, quiet....possibly lakcing confidence, you could well be eaten alive in the world of law, which it seems you wish to do at university. It's a tough, hard, dog eat dog world out there.... I'm sure you'll be ok, you'll grow into things et cetera....
Everyone you speak to says go to halls for the first year to meet people. Sounds sensible
I wouldnt worry about about the quietness thing. Theres gonna be so many people feeling exactly the same as you that you'll get on with easily.
It is possible to be happy and popular without being the loudest person in the room y'know
I wouldnt worry about about the quietness thing. Theres gonna be so many people feeling exactly the same as you that you'll get on with easily.
It is possible to be happy and popular without being the loudest person in the room y'know
I know I will be one of the ~party animals~ at Uni when I go but that doesnt meant that I wont be friendly to everyone in my halls.
There are bound to be loads of people in your position and Uni is even bigger than college so there will be loads of people like you.
You will find people that share your interests just like you did at school and college/ 6th form, just this time you could be living with them as well
There are bound to be loads of people in your position and Uni is even bigger than college so there will be loads of people like you.
You will find people that share your interests just like you did at school and college/ 6th form, just this time you could be living with them as well
halfoflessthan50p
Everyone you speak to says go to halls for the first year to meet people. Sounds sensible
I wouldnt worry about about the quietness thing. Theres gonna be so many people feeling exactly the same as you that you'll get on with easily.
It is possible to be happy and popular without being the loudest person in the room y'know
I wouldnt worry about about the quietness thing. Theres gonna be so many people feeling exactly the same as you that you'll get on with easily.
It is possible to be happy and popular without being the loudest person in the room y'know
Thought that, didn't happen to me.
But then again, I do suck and all that.
mermania
2. Why?
3. That'll never happen, arguments are unavoidable.
3. That'll never happen, arguments are unavoidable.
True...
If you don't argue, then you will be walked on like a doormat, so one should stand up for oneself, non??!!!
Drink with others only if you want to and deem it necessary to having a good time....
white_haired_wizard
If you're quite shy, quiet....possibly lakcing confidence, you could well be eaten alive in the world of law, which it seems you wish to do at university. It's a tough, hard, dog eat dog world out there.... I'm sure you'll be ok, you'll grow into things et cetera....
NOt neccesarily when I am in a situation where I know I have to deliver all that goes out the window. In class I am the first one up for a debate, first one to answer questions and first one to question a question. I am usually shy when I first meet people, after that initial period I feel I let loose and can be myself.
beatnik~87
NOt neccesarily when I am in a situation where I know I have to deliver all that goes out the window. In class I am the first one up for a debate, first one to answer questions and first one to question a question. I am usually shy when I first meet people, after that initial period I feel I let loose and can be myself.
So, you don't suffer badly. Glad to hear that!
I'm not a party animal, I am more introspective and quiet and don't drink. You are right in saying everybody looks forward to it because from the tales you hear all they do is get drunk every night... I'm not sure of the point to this post, but you are not the only person who feels that way. I am scared but half of me says that there will be lots of things to do and people who share the same interests and sense of character as me, more so than college.
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