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I saw my ex...what's wrong with me?

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Ok, just a bit of a rant, this sounds soooo stupid but I was in town doing a bit of shopping yesterday, and spotted my ex walking towards me with his friend, I actually nearly had a heart attack and had to go the other way so he didn't see me. What's wrong with me!! It's been like 2 years since we went out, and he's a total knob, it just got me so angry because whenever I go out I get worried that I'll see him, and it seems that I ALWAYS do ,and get butterflies whenever I talk to him!! It's like god hates me or something!! Now I know I don't like him anymore, so what's wrong with me!

Reply 1

bedbug

14

Sounds about normal to me.

Reply 2

Né Stig

15

Normal. Hate my ex g/f - and I would have a heart attack if I saw her. Not something I want to think about really.

Reply 3

Dave.B

8

sound worry, we feel the same way about you gals :smile:

(or is it just me lol)

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

Ooh i'm terrified of bumping into my ex on a day when i look rough/bad hair day etc.

Reply 5

dead antics

post more comments about what to do when this happens please coz all of the things buttercup said happen to me

Reply 6

xoxo_GossipGirl

OP

11

ooh I'm glad I'm not the only one who sees their ex and runs a mile! Another reason I can't wait to get away and go to uni!!

Reply 7

dead antics

its the most horrible feeling and it happens even when i speak to her on msn :frown:

is it just never gonna go?

Reply 8

Enyo

Nah your not, don't worry. I havent seen my ex in 8 months and I'm so worried I will when I go home from uni. Last time I saw him up town after a while of not seeing him in ages, my heart flipped and I had to avoid him..... I didn't think I 'd still feel like this

Reply 9

getupkid

It's completely normal :smile:

A few weeks ago, I (literally) saw the back of an ex boyfriend I was with early last year for a few months. When we broke up I was a real mess and very upset about it for some time, and I'd been dreading bumping into him; the thought of it honestly made me feel like I was going to vomit or burst into tears. Even though we didn't talk to each other (and he didn't even see me!), I have already started to feel less weird/uncomfortable about it, and now am so much less worried about having to see him again. :smile:

It's nothing to do with having feelings for them or anything like that - I'm in a happy relationship and had been for the best part of a year when I saw my ex - it's just bound to be a little strange.

My advice: confront situations like this instead of avoiding them. If every time you see your ex, you scurry away with your head down, you're never really gonna have to face him properly, and if you never do that, you'll never realise that actually, it's not the worst thing in the world and it will all be alright. Yes it is uncomfortable and it might make you feel weird, but every time you see your ex, if instead of avoiding you just say hi (well, no need to go out of your way to be friendly, just don't run away!), then it'll get easier and easier until you wonder how you were ever so apprehensive and chewed up about it :smile:

Reply 10

Cano234

Completerly Normal, i know where my Ex works and often take Detours just to make sure that i dont run into her. I think everyone go's through that, its just a natural thing. If i am out and i see my Ex i get nervous about what to say etc, and cant wait to get rid of her lol

Reply 11

33.33.33

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tbh OP i think it's pretty normal, everyone at least gets a bit of that when they see their ex, and oh how the feelings get worse when they have a new attachment :p:

Reply 12

dead antics

ohhhhh but its sooooo painful
when will it go away, i havent been with my ex for over a year and a half *sniff**sniff*

Reply 13

Mark S

17

Everything.

Reply 14

Nocturnalia

1

I get exactly the same! in fact, my ex works in a pub in town with his best mate (who became a sort of boyfriend's-mate at the time if you get me) - so every time I go down town pubbing/clubbing, I half don't want to see him, and half want to see him as I've made an effort to get ready and go out - so I look alright! And I'm with my current partner now who I'd want to show off a bit, haha. :wink:

Reply 15

FadeToBlackout

15

"He's seen you naked... he's seen your kinky underwear.... he knows your secrets... he's seen you bleach your facial hair..."

Can't remember the product, but the advert is ratehr catchy!

Reply 16

xoxo_GossipGirl

OP

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rxbeef

tbh OP i think it's pretty normal, everyone at least gets a bit of that when they see their ex, and oh how the feelings get worse when they have a new attachment :p:

haha well he's been engaged since we split up, to this gorgeous Stacy Orrico lookalike whos stick thin with huge boobs, AND he met her while I was at the pub with him, we were friends for a while after wer split up you see!! He's such a blimmin ladies man, but I can't even understand the appeal, neither can she anymore, they split up mwahahaha.

Reply 17

El Scotto

15

-x-buttercup-x-

Ok, just a bit of a rant, this sounds soooo stupid but I was in town doing a bit of shopping yesterday, and spotted my ex walking towards me with his friend, I actually nearly had a heart attack and had to go the other way so he didn't see me. What's wrong with me!! It's been like 2 years since we went out, and he's a total knob, it just got me so angry because whenever I go out I get worried that I'll see him, and it seems that I ALWAYS do ,and get butterflies whenever I talk to him!! It's like god hates me or something!! Now I know I don't like him anymore, so what's wrong with me!

Heh, so from his point of view... hes walking down the street sees you as you take a sharp left... Into some shop of random...

and hes left wondering... "just why is she in simpsons? That only sells clothes for old people"

Reply 18

Anonymous #2

-x-buttercup-x-

Ok, just a bit of a rant, this sounds soooo stupid but I was in town doing a bit of shopping yesterday, and spotted my ex walking towards me with his friend, I actually nearly had a heart attack and had to go the other way so he didn't see me. What's wrong with me!! It's been like 2 years since we went out, and he's a total knob, it just got me so angry because whenever I go out I get worried that I'll see him, and it seems that I ALWAYS do ,and get butterflies whenever I talk to him!! It's like god hates me or something!! Now I know I don't like him anymore, so what's wrong with me!

My ex-gf does this to me. I think you need to get over yourself or over him (or over whatever bloody problem you have). When I walk towards my ex all I want to do is smile and acknowledge her, but she runs away about a mile a minute as if I'm about to kill her or something :confused:

. I honestly don't understand it and find it quite rude to be honest.

Next time you see him, just ask yourself, "whats the worst that could happen?".

Reply 19

Mark S

17

FadeToBlackout

"He's seen you naked... he's seen your kinky underwear.... he knows your secrets... he's seen you bleach your facial hair..."

Can't remember the product, but the advert is ratehr catchy!

Exactly. Thats the only explanation for that little episode the OP got caught up in.

I saw my ex...what's wrong with me?

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