I can't orgasm

I hope this isn't too graphic, but I'm getting really frustrated (no pun intended!)

I'm 18, been masturbating since I was 14ish, and I've never had an orgasm. I've had sex 3 times and its the same~~ It feels good, but not fantastic, and I get bored! I've always had a short attention span, but getting bored of sex and masturbation?!

I'm always making excuses to him and also to myself. "i was tired" "i was distracted" blah, blah, blah.

I don't know why i get bored, it just seems....odd.
its not him, its me. i just can't stay focused.

help?!?

Reply 1

Né Stig

I could say your boyfriend is pants in bed, but then not every woman can orgasm, simple fact really.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

but as i said, its not just with him!

i get bored when masturbating as well :frown:

Reply 3

Glory

Maybe penatration isnt how you orgasm. There are 2 kinds of possible orgasm for girls, maybe you should try the non penatration method, when your by yourself.

Reply 4

Unregistered

Anonymous

but as i said, its not just with him!

i get bored when masturbating as well :frown:

You aren't doing it right, persevere and even when you're bored keep going - it'll work.

Reply 5

dogtanian

As has been said, some women simply can't orgasm. That said, you've not given yourself much time to decide that you can't. It can take years for it to finally happen.

Don't try and orgasm whenever you get on the intimate side. Just let your body learn how to orgasm. Simple as, really.

Reply 6

Né Stig

^(timeslikethese) Isn't that because you know your body?
Not every girl does, hence the boredom.

buy a rabbit

high priestess fnord

buy a rabbit

Yeah - Roger Rabbit :biggrin:

Reply 9

nusaybah

yeah exactly .. i guess u get bored n dont wait long... orgasm is about proper tymin ... so plz wait until u come... u surely will!

Reply 10

Unregistered

walshie

^(timeslikethese) Isn't that because you know your body?
Not every girl does, hence the boredom.

Well, I don't know it by accident and there was boredom along the way - in fact I was unsure of how to make it happen, but it did and not becuase it felt particularly good that first time, just sheer determination. My god, how candid. :eek:

Reply 11

decola

look, my advice is learn Bass guitar and practise it while sitting on the amplifier, and if you keep at it you'll become very passionate about music.

Reply 12

high priestess fnord

decola

look, my advice is learn Bass guitar and practise it while sitting on the amplifier, and if you keep at it you'll become very passionate about music.

or you could just by a vibrator, then your neighbers wont be so upset.

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

i do have a vibrator, thats what makes it even worse!

Reply 14

Fleece

I can't orgasm from a vibrator. Or a man. But I can from myself.

It is doable. Like TLT says, you have to go past the boredom sometimes.

Sometimes it doesn't even feel good so the temptation is to give in, but then it'll start to...