I am depressed, zero motivation to find work and no direction in life. Advice?

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If you abuse drugs, over time they can desensitise your dopamine receptors, this can reduce enjoyment, passion and motivation. If not there could be other reasons, i had a huge problem with pornography addiction, i had no motivation to do anything other than watch porn and play video games. Just like drugs, porn lets out a high amount of dopamine which can overtime damage your dopamine receptors overtime.If you abuse porn, i'd recommend stopping as it can decrease motivation and enjoyment in life.



Not watching porn and not masturbating has improved my life a lot. I hope your life improves man .
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Always find it super fascinating to read posts like this, this one in particular being nearly five years old and wondering where the OP ended up, he'd be 29/30 years old. I hope and pray the OP found his meaning in life and is in a better place now
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Damb.. the feels. I feel for you and I know this was written awhile ago but I feel the same way. Same. Exact. Way. So much ambition and enthusiasm but nowhere to use it. I think if you were given the opportunity to go after something you liked, you would attack it with all that you have. Find something and try it. I know that sounds easy and it’s not, but it’s what has to happen. Don’t be afraid to run around in a couple circles. You might make a few laps but after a few laps on a track you’ve still ran a mile. You know what I mean? I said I was bad at maths too but someone said, of course you are! It’s because you’ve never studied. They said I was bad at running once because I had never ran before, and said “look at you now.” The point is, it takes time to get there and you are never too old.
Me, I’m a disgraceful slob. I wish I could take my own advice but I can’t.. I have tried so many times that I am burnt out. Truth is, I ran many laps on the track of life and ran out of endurance. You can’t run forever, as it turns out, especially when you came out of the gate too hard and fast. With nowhere to turn and no real qualifications for meaningful work, I sit here alone wondering what could have been. The sad part is, I still don’t know. If I could go back and stick to one thing, I STILL don’t know what it would be. I ended up in road construction with a bunch of criminals with no education, and yet I still am torn down everyday with what little confidence I have left (none). Respected by none. Absolutely nobody at all in society. For what? Working hard all my life? I want to leave but I can’t. I drink myself to sleep every night because of the pain and sadness, only to wake up feeling emptier. You can still do it. You have a chance, a clean slate (for the most part). Do great things, and work hard, in one direction, so you don’t end up a miserable, stupid slob... like me..
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**** your YouTube ******** that’s not helping
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Hi. How are you, now? Did things get better? I'm experiencing the same. Did you get throught it? Will I get through this?
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Anonymous #6
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Hi, I would like to know if you got better? Did you find a purpose for your life? I am 25 years old right now and am going through the same exact thing.Hope you got through this.
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I am exactly in a same condition as you from age to jobless to sitting alone whole day with no work no hope, frustrated with job search with no efforts been seen as revert.No matter how much I put in all day searching the web.Its a sin to be a fresher in INDIA, no matter if you're from a BRAND UNIVERSITY or how competent you are.All I can say is I so feel you.Let me know if you find your answers I will help you with the same.
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Hello i am 25 years old from England UK spent last 5 years of my life doing summer season's in Ibiza now i feel a little lost friends have grown up got girlfriends and had kids or are working all the time, I have some money but no real plan or idea our country has gone to pot
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omg i was stumbling upon the internet, and this is exactly how I feel, added with parents comparing you to others put more stressfulness to you.....Did you ever find a solution to this. I am in 26, got degree, unemployed, probably no passion for that major, after graduating from college, I felt more lazier than ever. I really dont know how to solve this, its been 1 year and a half since I graduated and no job. I looked as well for couple months after graduation but I got lazy and stopped and bit un motivated. I hate myself idk....
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omg i was stumbling upon the internet, and this is exactly how I feel, added with parents comparing you to others put more stressfulness to you.....Did you ever find a solution to this. I am in 26, got degree, unemployed, probably no passion for that major, after graduating from college, I felt more lazier than ever. I really dont know how to solve this, its been 1 year and a half since I graduated and no job. I looked as well for couple months after graduation but I got lazy and stopped and bit un motivated. I hate myself idk....
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(Original post by Anonymous)
I am 25 years old and I have no idea what to do with my life. Because of this, I am depressed, lacking motivation and have no direction in life.

I just feel so down at the moment, it's hard to focus properly right now. I have no one to turn to for advice, no one understands and just thinks I am lazy etc.

I live with my parents, but I don't want to be living with my parents, I would much rather be out in the real world on my own living an independent life. I feel like a ****ing loser to be 25, living at home with parents and unemployed, it's a **** situation to be in but people don't understand when you have a mental illness how hard it is on a person.

Sometimes I just feel like crying. I am a grown 25 year old guy and I want to cry. I have almost zero social life, very few friends because I have grown apart and distanced myself from people, so I pretty much live in solitude 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.

Do I want this life? Of course I don't, but I don't know how to change. Each day, week, month seems to pass so fast and next thing I am a year older with still no direction.

I am frustrated and annoyed at myself too for not changing, but it's hard when you have nothing worthwhile or good in your life. Very little family, hardly any friends, no girlfriend or even female acquaintances, no job, no career or life goals etc.

What do I do? All I can do is ask questions on here to a bunch of strangers who don't really know, nor care too much, but I have no one else to turn to, so...
Hi, I'm sorry you feel that way, however I don't have friends, i want them and have talked to some I thought were my friends but they don't respond to my text or calls. It's a really sad feeling to have, nobody to call, text, hang out with, yeah it sucks. However, know you aren't alone. When I read how many people feel the same way I've been feeling it made me realize that it's not just me. You can meet people on line for starters , that's what I'm going to do. It's a start.
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I am at the exact same situation, the only difference is that I am a women. I don't know what do to with my life anymore. I don't have any ambition. And I have wasted a lot of my time. Now I just don't wanna wake up from my sleep. I hope you are okay and doing well.
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I would love to know the OPs situation in life now. Reading all these replies and knowing there are others out there, with the EXACT same or even slightly worse struggles in life has weirdly given some hope to mine. Only difference maybe? I was a top achiever in school (an A* student) and have a science degree. I had high hopes and so did everyone around me for me. My main downfall was not knowing what to do in life, no aim or ambition, leading to studying something I had just picked at the last minute randomly. Obviously hated the course and dropped out, now left stranded doing nothing in life, living this way for nearly 3 years now, witnessing all my 'former friends' succeed and progress in life. Because of this, my biggest issue now - I feel left too far behind, it's too late in life to start something else, especially not knowing what in the world to do still. No confidence or self-esteem, scared to apply to anything new, put down when reading job specifications since I have no experience in anything. How to explain to potential employers about the wasted last few years? They wouldn't want a no lifer who has no ambition or will to try or evidence of any interest in anything. I have a few friends I still talk to on occasion, but never really share my feelings, because I will seem an even bigger loser- they'd never understand the mental issues and just think I'm being lazy or not trying, so no point. Still live at home with parents who try their best to motivate and support me but I see the hurt in their eyes knowing what a failure I have been in life. I am 25 and have just passed my third year of living my life in this way. Had so much potential, so popular in school, good all round in everything from studying, competitive sports and gaming, arts and crafts, good physicality and looks etc. Such high hopes breezing through my school years, now feel like a fully grown potato, lost all my interests and skills in my forever lasting purple patch. Feel so lost. Never had the balls for suicide after considering it a few times. But like I said, still fell 0.1% better knowing there's others out there. If only someone had the secret recipe to escape and wouldn't mind sharing..
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(Original post by Anonymous)
If you abuse drugs, over time they can desensitise your dopamine receptors, this can reduce enjoyment, passion and motivation. If not there could be other reasons, i had a huge problem with pornography addiction, i had no motivation to do anything other than watch porn and play video games. Just like drugs, porn lets out a high amount of dopamine which can overtime damage your dopamine receptors overtime.If you abuse porn, i'd recommend stopping as it can decrease motivation and enjoyment in life.



Not watching porn and not masturbating has improved my life a lot. I hope your life improves man .
nofap improved my life immensely also. problem with folk is that they watch porn, spend hours on phones everyday, use social media, binge watch netflix, eat junk food, dont socialise, dont excersise, dont read, dont meditate, dont do anything productive at all ever. yet still go to bed everynight thinking damn what is making me so depressed. so imo the cure for depression and such isnt reaching for the hardcore drugs, but living cleaner i.e. cutting out the bs and replacing it with wholesome things
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(Original post by MrLjw93)
Hello i am 25 years old from England UK spent last 5 years of my life doing summer season's in Ibiza now i feel a little lost friends have grown up got girlfriends and had kids or are working all the time, I have some money but no real plan or idea our country has gone to pot
Dude, come over here with me I’ll help you spend all your money bro!
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So, There are more people like me. While reading this, I thought it was actually written by me. I have a Master degree in Economics but the problem is, there are fewer jobs and I'm not the lucky one to get them. have been applying for a year but no results. Then I started writing content at fiverr. But hate this work. I am hell much of a procrastinator and now became passionless, unmotivated, wasting my life. I never thought my life would become this way. But can't help...
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This really hit home with me, and was written wonderfully. im 27 and have back trackked so hard these past few years that i am back home living with my mom and it feels terrible that i go through the the same cycle everyday, and unemployed. Honestly started to tear up while reading what you wrote. truthfully think what i read helps so much and really great full.
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I feel exactly as you and I'm about the same age as you (I'm 24) and I hope tou can break out of your predicament soon. God bless you.
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I feel exactly the same since I failed my masters course in drama I feel so alone, on the side my interests are astrology and trying to go into that but not sure how too, I dont feel understood, I'm trying to find work and as you can imagine travelling back and forth to different locations to make a student film or reel is hard without money, I'm a carer to my mum and I'm trying to get out there I'm feeling exactly the same, depressed and lack motivation but now iv got to the point where im using my anxiety and channelling that energy into work because I have lacked motivation for so long now and have been panicking for so long the panic wont go away so I got to feel the fear and do it anyway. Iv signed up to aldi's and waiting on them to get back to me and then once I get that job I can get my own car using that as my motivation to then be independent and go out looking for acting jobs. Try finding small things that are gonna make a huge difference in time to you. Slow and steady wins the race so they say and also look up ('Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway' - Law of Attraction) on YouTube its helping me as we speak, try listening to ('The Secret' - The Law of Attraction) and creating a vision board of what you want this will help put your thoughts into perspective of what you do want. I really hope you have wealth, success and abundance in life you deserve it, we all do.
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The main thing is first of all making a decision that you actually want change.

Write down your passions, what are you good at, what do you like?
you may have to take a job that you don't particularly like for the moment while you work on your goals.

You will also need support, maybe go to a college or career fairs and find someone who can give you advice or search it out on the internet.

You are on this Earth for a reason,your worth is not found in degrees, friends and the timing that things happen for you will not be the same as others around you. You are 25, you are young and you have a great future in front of you just believe!
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